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ex girlfriend not sending my stuff back!

LuisGarcia10

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Anyone else had this problem, really annoying me now.
Basically she dumped me, all I have wanted since is to get my shirts back sent in the post, 5 weeks ago we broke up and still ignores texts, emails despite saying she'd send them back.
I haven't asked her to get back together, nothing, just want my stuff back. I wouldn't normally care but they're 2 nice shirts, one of which was a present.
Cannot understand why on earth she'd not send them back, it must be annoying to have emails, texts etc about it.
****ing women drive me mad.
 

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Cut your losses. I am speaking from experience when I say it is not worth the time.

You should have moved on by now. Please move on now to avoid her sucking the life out of you.
 

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She dumped you. She doesn't want to have anything more to do with you & by asking her to do the work of returning your shirts you are asking her for something.
Can you ask a mutual friend to collect them for you?
Otherwise I agree with x86 - forget them...a few shirts are NOT worth the upset. The more headspace you give them, the bigger the story becomes. Go treat yourself to a couple of head-turningly sexy new shirts and a lady who wants the new you!!!!
 

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Just annoys me, all I want is my stuff back!
Not a case of moving on or anything, I've met other girls etc since, just pisses me off not being able to get my stuff back! How hard is it to send 2 shirts in an envelope?
 

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You're right, it's not hard....but it IS hassle for her.

Removing the rights and wrongs of the situation...'cos she will have her story too....lets stick with pure facts:
Fact: shirts are with the ex.
Fact: ex not responding to requests
And that's it.
So right now, putting that away, starting from now, focussing on the things you DO have control over....what can you do to enrich your life?
 

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Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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LuisGarcia10

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Frisky said:
You're right, it's not hard....but it IS hassle for her.

Removing the rights and wrongs of the situation...'cos she will have her story too....lets stick with pure facts:
Fact: shirts are with the ex.
Fact: ex not responding to requests
And that's it.
So right now, putting that away, starting from now, focussing on the things you DO have control over....what can you do to enrich your life?
Yeah you're right, just need to forget about it. Just the principle which pisses me off, guess count myself lucky it's a couple shirts not a laptop or something. What really ****s me off is I didn't leave them at her house, she accidently took them with her stuff one time from mine! So her mistake totally.

Anyway, you're right, just cut my losses and forget about it.
 

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Good on you....next thing you know you'll be laughing about it!
 
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