ex girlfriend keeps me on a tight leash

[Jblitz59]

Invasion of personal space.

Typically I am the one to get in other girls personal space, but this is turning the tables.

My ex girlfriend who I kept as a 'romantic' ****buddy (we went on a week long vacation together) PROBES me for information daily.

She says," What are you doing today?"
"What movie do you plan on seeing? Who is going with you?"
"You can type out more than just 'going out'. Where are you going?"

The point and problem is, I don't have any personal space to fool around with other girls. I even give her PLENTY of room. I ask her what shes doing but nothing as deep.

 

[Jblitz59]

I need advice on what to say to her when she comes a knocking for intel.
"Mind your own business"?
or should I just lie and say
"Nothing much"
every day

 

[fatdog]

You have all the space in the world. You don't have to answer sh1t if you don't want to. Why do you feel compelled to answer her interrogation?

edit: I think you're missing the point of the "ex" part. She's not your girlfriend, why the fvck does she wanna know so damn much? Cuz you're still fvcking? Sounds like a sh1tty deal.

 

[Kailex]

If she keeps you on a leash and you knowingly stay on a leash, I have two things to say:

(1) Good for her.
(2) Don't blame her, it's your fault.

 

[Jblitz59]

Kailex I am not here because I want to stay on that leash.
I don't need to be controlled by this girl.

I am here for advice.

fatdog, I agree with you.
I dumped her, so I have all the power to get back with her if I wanted. but I don't.

I just don't know socially how to say it without coming off as a man with something to hide.
"It's none of your business", sounds like I am about to go have sex that hour.
Should I say "nothing much" then risk looking like some loser who has no life?

 

[Jblitz59]

thinking in the long term of keeping my college neighbor fb,

what would be the BEST thing to text her next time I find myself interrogated.

 

[Kailex]

You want to stop getting interrogated by an ex YOU dumped... why not try this... STOP TALKING TO HER.

But you can't... because you're attached, and she knows it, which is why SHE has the power and not you... because YOU dumped her but stay around.

So you wanted advice, here it is... AGAIN:

STOP TALKING TO HER.

Find new women. It's not rocket science.

 

[fatdog]

Kailex I am not here because I want to stay on that leash.
I don't need to be controlled by this girl.

I am here for advice.

fatdog, I agree with you.
I dumped her, so I have all the power to get back with her if I wanted. but I don't.

I just don't know socially how to say it without coming off as a man with something to hide.
"It's none of your business", sounds like I am about to go have sex that hour.
Should I say "nothing much" then risk looking like some loser who has no life?

You're over analyzing this whole thing. You shouldn't care what she thinks. You should only care what you think. Are you happy with this situation? No. You want her to butt off. Then tell her to.

Why does it matter if she thinks you're a man with something to hide or if you're some loser with no life? She should be out of your life. You shouldn't care if she thinks you're a crossdresser who fvcks dogs. She's done.

Really think about yourself. She's an ex, yet she has more control over how you think than you do. Think for yourself, about yourself, with yourself in mind.

What if so and so thinks I'm blah blah? What if? Who cares.

 

[Jblitz59]

your right fat dog. thanks i appreciate it

i need to get less attached by not talking to her as much firstly. -credit to kailex

 

[jophil28]

This is a classic example of how men foolishly believe that they can breakup and demote a G/f to just a human sex doll. Women do not, and will not, ever accept this deal in the way that you want.
IF you "breakup " with your g/f and continue to sex her, she will believe(rightly) that your words and actions are incongruent.
And because she is smarter than you, she chooses to believe that your eagerness in wanting to fukk her means that you and she are not really broken up at all.
That is why she still acts like a nagging G/f - she believes that she is still exactly that.

 

[backbreaker]

1. there is no way in hell you broke up with her. no way. she broke up with you and she is keeping you around until she finds someone else, and ****ing sex with you to keep you around.
you are getting off on her still acting like she is stillin a relatinship with you.

no sane non oneitis having guy worries about a leash an ex has on them.

 

[omega05]

whats wrong with you man. you dumped her and you feel like you have to answer to her? come on

 

[r0cky]

whats wrong with you man. you dumped her and you feel like you have to answer to her? come on

Agreed. Ignore her texts. There's no rule that says you have to answer to her, you're not bfs anymore.

 

[jafyk]

Actually, here's my variation to the above advices you've been given. Don't be a flake. Tell her you guys are not together in that way anymore and that she doesn't have to know everything you are up to.

 

[Captain]

You don't have to answer her questions. You don't even have to answer them if she is your girlfriend. IGNORE HER.