"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ex-Girlfriend from over a month ago has just started repeatedly calling me, she has a

Dante420

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boyfriend and she still calls, usually waking me up in the morning or calling me repeatedly throughout the night, like today. She called me so many times, I hung up on her so many times, told her we'll talk later. She kept calling and I couldn't just ignore it because she was calling me while I was driving on my way home so she knew I wasn't doing nothing and she kept calling every couple of minutes.

First asking me to come over - 420

then continously calling


wtf? We went out for about 2 weeks and she has a new boyfriend and I don't know why she keeps calling. I did no contact and it worked for the first month up until now.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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drak_ool

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Dante420 said:
We went out for about 2 weeks.
That's way too short to call her a "girlfriend". How emotionally involved were you with her?

Dante420 said:
She kept calling and I couldn't just ignore it because she was calling me while I was driving on my way home so she knew I wasn't doing nothing and she kept calling every couple of minutes.
What? No Contact means you don't communicate with her even if she makes it sound like it's a matter of life or death. You obviously still care a lot about this girl if you feel compelled to talk to her for any reason. You need to move on on an emotional level.

This girl is looking for drama. I bet she was calling a few guys to hang out with while she was still with you. You, on the other hand, are looking for sex, right? If you have no other options, go meet up with her, but b4 you do that you need to make sure your emotions are in check and you are just using her as a piece of meat and nothing else.
 

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Does this grl smoke?
texting "420" is common if someone is looking to hook up with weed
 

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K2000kidd said:
Does this grl smoke?
texting "420" is common if someone is looking to hook up with weed

Ya, she was asking me for that too.


I wasn't emotionally involved with this girl at all, our relationship was a joke.
 

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Sounds like she's either trying to use you for drugs, or she wants play around with your wang on the side. Also known as having her cake and eating it too. Either bring her over and give her the full court press, or cut her off entirely and ignore her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your relationship was two weeks long? You went No Contact. In less than a month she A: Has a new boyfriend whom she has no respect for B: Is desperately trying to break your "No Contact" by calling endlessly. Vine Swinging. Hoovering. No regard for any decent boundries. Borderline Personality Dissorder ??? Maybe not, but certainly WAY too much drama. If it were me I'd Go back to No Contact and hold firm.
 
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boomerick said:
Your relationship was two weeks long? You went No Contact. In less than a month she A: Has a new boyfriend whom she has no respect for B: Is desperately trying to break your "No Contact" by calling endlessly. Vine Swinging. Hoovering. No regard for any decent boundries. Borderline Personality Dissorder ??? Maybe not, but certainly WAY too much drama. If it were me I'd Go back to No Contact and hold firm.
It's hard, I get phone calls from all these various numbers


"Hey who's this?"


"It's [insert name here]


all different kinds of numbers
 

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Why not invite her over whenever she calls. Bang her when she shows up, then boot her out. Do this as long as possible and make her a defacto booty call. To be honest that's what it sounds like she wants out of him.
 
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