Ex GF Spending The Night.

[PimpOfTheSouth]

It's Dinner and A Movie At My Place. She says if she stays "Nothing is happening" What should I Take from this?

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Why the hell would you be spending the night with your ex girlfriend? Talk about a waste of time. I would rather stare at a freshly painted wall until it's dry.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Lmao. Well I said yes I mean last week of summer no harm. I thought she was pure DTF until she dropped that line. Oh well she might just be talking.

 

[women haze]

like my main man Dias Flac would say (If you get this reference you are cool in my book) "Waste of Time...."

 

[f283000]

Lmao. Well I said yes I mean last week of summer no harm. I thought she was pure DTF until she dropped that line. Oh well she might just be talking.

A couple of things

1. No woman goes to a man's place to be alone with him without knowing full well that there is a high likelyhood of secks: In fact most of the time women spend time alone at your place or their place it's because they want to get shagged and you better get condoms!

2. In these situations whatever obstacle a woman puts it can be resolved with the right amount of kino and persistence: She's not at your place cause she's a saint. She knows full well if you play your cards right she will find it hard not give it up due to the location/moment (doesn't mean she will just hand you her pu$$y on a platter. It's up to you to make things work.

3. If a woman tells you nothing is happening if she stays at your place SHE IS INSULTING YOU IN A WAY: Look at it this way. You will be SPENDING YOUR TIME, YOUR MONEY (dinner for her), YOUR ENERGY and she is basically telling you that you will get nothing in return!

She is basically telling you that she is going to give you blue balls and use your valuable time and energy for her ego boost and you will get nothing in return but her gracing you with her presence!

Frankly while 1 & 2 still apply and you could still shag her I would consider it a huge turnoff if any woman said this to me. It's like she saying to me i'll go out on a date with you but i won't eat with you cause i don't want to be seen with you. How would that make you feel?

Frankly she could be doing this just to boost her ego and she telling you there will be no secks is you accepting her contract for this event.

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

I think 1 and 2 are more likely in this situation. I dont think she wants to freely admit what she wants. She's strange like that. I guess so when it goes down she can say something like "Oh it just happened, I didn't plan on it" This girl doesnt drink much and she agreed to having some mixed drinks.. so it is what it is.

 

[cupraikso]

Not worth it. She said it and is ready to play the part. Not saying secks is not possible, it is just unlikely and not worth tearing down the huge wall she's putting up.

Plus, she's your ex, so she knows well what you want and you should know her well (although this post indicates the contrary).

Don't go out with her. If you do, jack off beforehand and DO NOT EXPECT SEX. It will not be a rewarding night.

 

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

Don't you think that you might be setting yourself up for orbital status with this move?

I take it she has nothing else going on and is looking for some ego stroking.

 

[Yuma]

I've never had a girl stay the night at my house, as my guest, that I've not fvcked.


Actually, no. One. And that was my then-girlfriend's best friend at the time (who is actually now one of my best friends, and rock solid social proof when we hang out).

So, I'll say this - every ex who has stayed the night, after we've broken up, regardless of if they've said "not a damn thing is going down"...

it went down. And so did she.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Unless you brought up that something is happening, you have to wonder why it is so top of mind for her. Because she is thinking about it! Add alcohol and jimmy wrap. Mix. Enjoy!

 

[Scars]

A couple of things

1. No woman goes to a man's place to be alone with him without knowing full well that there is a high likelyhood of secks: In fact most of the time women spend time alone at your place or their place it's because they want to get shagged and you better get condoms!

2. In these situations whatever obstacle a woman puts it can be resolved with the right amount of kino and persistence: She's not at your place cause she's a saint. She knows full well if you play your cards right she will find it hard not give it up due to the location/moment (doesn't mean she will just hand you her pu$$y on a platter. It's up to you to make things work.

3. If a woman tells you nothing is happening if she stays at your place SHE IS INSULTING YOU IN A WAY: Look at it this way. You will be SPENDING YOUR TIME, YOUR MONEY (dinner for her), YOUR ENERGY and she is basically telling you that you will get nothing in return!

She is basically telling you that she is going to give you blue balls and use your valuable time and energy for her ego boost and you will get nothing in return but her gracing you with her presence!

Frankly while 1 & 2 still apply and you could still shag her I would consider it a huge turnoff if any woman said this to me. It's like she saying to me i'll go out on a date with you but i won't eat with you cause i don't want to be seen with you. How would that make you feel?

Frankly she could be doing this just to boost her ego and she telling you there will be no secks is you accepting her contract for this event.

I agree with all this, except partially with #3. I don't see it as her insulting the OP, rather it could more or less be her anti-slvt defenses kicking in. Or perhaps, it's all just a sh!t test to see if the OP still "cares". Granted, it could be a mind game on her part, and she may be doing all of this to wound his ego, but like you said, a woman that is willingly receptive to being at a man's place A LONE generally knows that something is going to happen.

My take is, his ex wants to be friends with him but still wants to be physical (without looking like a slvt, so she may just be rationalizing to herself, so in the event that they do have sex she can say "passion took over, and it just HAPPENED".) Remember, she DID agree to a movie and dinner.

Either that, or this is her plot to suck him back in, or test him to see if he still "cares". She's trying to not seem needy, and she could be desperately trying to win him back. She's probably just pissed off and still moody about the break up. I guess the real question is, why is the OP still staying in contact with his ex, let a lone still trying to meet up with her? Who initiated the contact? Etc.. not a lot of detail was involved. But I had to comment simply because there's been many a times I have heard the "nothing is going to happen" line, and sure enough, it does.

-Scars

 

[PimpOfTheSouth]

Ha Ha. I agree with a lot of the posts Im pretty sure she is DTF. This is an ex from over 2 years ago and it's the last week of summer so F It, Im On One.

 

[BlackwaterPark]

Ha Ha. I agree with a lot of the posts Im pretty sure she is DTF. This is an ex from over 2 years ago and it's the last week of summer so F It, Im On One.

I agree she's proly down to ****. However if she does pull some dramatic bs and shuts you down, throw her out like a *****. Don't give her the satisfaction of giving you blue balls and you taking it.