EX GF MAKING STRATEGIC MOVES! what does it mean?

[YOUNG CASINOVA]

OK... here's the scoop. It's nothing major that is happening in my eyes, but after 3-4 months of no talking at all... there is suddenly some action, but I can't tell if it's her moving on or slowly coming back.

Here's the run down.

1. End of October I move out and do my own thing through November... my ex is calling at this time, but I'm enjoying the single life and I'm not paying her any attention.
2. End of November- It gets kinda boring bangin my lil FB's and suddenly I miss all the things my GF did.
3. I made the common mistake that many make and tried to run back with the "Im Sorry" I wanna make it work strategy, which blew up in my face. She retreated, and said "SHE NEEDS TIME".
4.We don't speak through DEC. until X-mas Day. She calls and speaks with me and my family.
5. I make 1 last offer to make things right by offering a date on our anniversary which is New Years Eve. (She kindly rejects by saying "It would Be Too Bittersweet"
6. A close friend of mine Makes a personal decision to go into a store that my ex works in and let her know "That I love her and I really want to work it out" (CRUCIAL MISTAKE) Not only that... I was already planning to go in the mall that day, so I stop and say hi to her. She lets me know that "My friend Stopped By" and I say...yea he just called me and told me everything. We hug... I go shoppin for about 2 hrs, then I come back to let her know I'm gone and I'll Talk with her later.

7.Mid January-March 23...we don't speak...call or text and I haven't seen her.
8.Easter... I recieve a text from her saying "Happy Easter" Enjoy ur Day! (LOL) It was real dry... So I didn't respond.
9.Monday... I respond to the text saying "Thanx...Hope You enjoyed urs too.
10.Monday night I check my email... it's a message from her giving me back old pictures of me and my artwork from out of her camera.
11. I immediately check her myspace, and she has a picture up of herself that was forbidden by me during our relationship. it's not a nasty picture or anything, it's just a picture that will get too much male attention. (However on my myspace... Over tha last 4 months I've put up all the pics of me and the females I've been dealing with... I've actually been waiting on her move.

With all this said....what do you guys think? Has she moved on... or is she trying to get my attention?

 

[tick37]

11. I immediately check her myspace, and she has a picture up of herself that was forbidden by me during our relationship.

This is the one thing that stood out in your strangely numbered post. Anyway, it looks like you're controlling. She probably doesn't want that part of you. Work on yourself. You seem to be obsessing over her, too. It's time you moved on because she has.

Anyway, if she liked you enough while you were together, she wouldn't put up a provocative picture of herself. You wouldn't even have to forbid it, but if she put it up, then it's a red flag and you next her.

She's walking all over you now.

 

[drak_ool]

With all this said....what do you guys think? Has she moved on... or is she trying to get my attention?

I think you re asking the wrong question. Instead you should be saying "have I moved on or am I still hoping for something with my ex 4 months after breaking up?"

 

[Tomatoes]

I think you re asking the wrong question. Instead you should be saying "have I moved on or am I still hoping for something with my ex 4 months after breaking up?"

Shes moved on.....It seems very clear. Shes being friendly and civil with you but shes clearly not intrested.....I know this is not what you want to hear. I can tell that from the way you decribed the actions above.

You are clearly not over her....That is what you must now do. Get over her.

The one part where you are right is when you say shes trying to get your attention. That much is prob true. Women (and men alike) love attention. Even if the feeling is not mutral. Its human.

If this site still has a friend zone theory......your firmly in it.

 

[MacAvoy]

She moved on in November when you came calling. The only reason she was asking for you back in October was so that she could be the one dumping you. Your only hoping that she's trying to get your attention.

Its up to you on how to proceed, you can continue to live with your blinders on, fascinating about what a great women she was or you can face reality and take control of your life, knowing that YOU left this women for a reason and it isn't going to be rosey all of a sudden. If you miss that feeling that a women gives you, then find it with a better women who cares for you and respects you.

 

[dannyegg4575]

you're in a forum of very intelligent men. listen to their advice.
as for me, i find it difficult because i kept trying to snoop around see what she's up to. the more I do that, the more it slows my process of recovery. So, as of today, i am going to stop going on msn and fb altogether. you should do the same.

women are selfish biatches... we know it and they know it. move on with your life, take this time to grow mentally and let it be a lesson not to let a woman dictates your happiness. Only women do that wussy stuff... you're not a woman.

 

[YOUNG CASINOVA]

Good advice fellaz... I just gotta figure out what the hell I want 1st.
Life's a *****....and then you die.

 

[scottfall]

Life's a *****....and then you die.

Theres some truth in that. But as men its our job to keep the ***** in its place.

 

[Fumbduck]

Go out and live your own life. Like others said, try to cut off all myspace/MSN contact. Block her from your buddy list, and when you get the urge to check out her profile stop yourself as if you were on a 'diet'. You may be curious as to what she's up to, who she's talking to, however every time you 'check in' with her you're setting yourself back. You will find NOTHING good from keeping tabs on her; and it will screw with your head.

You obviously want her back from your post, and the only way you will do this is to enjoy the single life. Go out with your boys, flirt with other girls and perfect your game, date, play, tease. This will take your mind off her- you may even find something better than you ever had with her to begin with. Once she sees you don't NEED her in your life to be having fun and successful, she'll come back to you. I've seen it several times. But remember, "out of sight, out of mind" so shoot her a random txt or phone call to just say hello once in a blue moon. Keep it short and always make an excuse to get off the phone first to be somewhere more important.

I've heard a funny saying "The best way to get over one, is to get under another" :crackup:

Good luck...go out and enjoy!

 

[3countriesPlan]

Find new ladies to keep your mind off the ex. If you make her the focus of your life, your life will suck, she will pick up on that, and your life will just suck even more when she recoils away from you.

Go out and date some girls.. keep it casual... those girls will end up liking you alot and will pursue you which is something your ex seems not able to do.
If she does try to get back with you in the future, you will be in a better position to make a good decision in the matter.

 

[MacAvoy]

As 3 countries eluded to, your biggest problem right now is a lack of options. If you had options, you wouldn't be thinking about the past, you'd be moving FORWARD with your life.

 

[DonGorgon]

I think you re asking the wrong question. Instead you should be saying "have I moved on or am I still hoping for something with my ex 4 months after breaking up?"

 

[BipedGod]

She's showing you her heels...wish her well and move on.