Ex gf made me a masochist

[Rhino22]

My ex and I were together for 4 years and lived together for 1 year. Over the summer she started acting weird and basically manipulated me into breaking us up. She suggested we be apart so we can know whats its like to live on our own. THen tells me to move out because I have less stuff. I said hello no. Then she starts going out with her "friends" but I find out that she is actually seeing someone else. THen I confront her and she tells me that it's nice to have someone she is sexually compatible with (Sex NEVER did anything for her with me or any other guy unless it was oral sex). THis hurt quite a bit, although she said I was too big for her (gotten that one alot...not sure if it's a good thing).

The lease finally ended and we got our own places but she is still with this dude and for some messed up reason I still care about her (first love). She has emailed me over the months over stupid things and basically we have burned bridges by doing various things I.E. I stole our deposit money and told her to blow me because I ended up paying the last two months rent so she could have the place to herself while I stayed on a friends couch .

SO I looked at her modelmayhem page and saw she has added new pics of her and the new guy and it just drives me crazy to think about all of that stuff that happened. I have been on dates with other girls and felt NOTHING for them. I have been told that I am very attractive. My life is not in order really and I am about to turn 27. Not really sure what to do right now other than vent to everyone and hope for some decent advice.

 

[AlmostThere!]

What's her model mayhem page?

 

[Rhino22]

http://www.modelmayhem.com/651006

Thats it right there. If you see the other pics, you will see the one with them together.

SHe wasn't into all that weird crap so much when we first started going out and other people have actually told me that I am way better looking than her. She said when we first started going out, "How did I get such a fine looking man?" Maybe she thought I was too good for her? I know looks aren't all that matter though...

 

[1337]

Lmao gimme a break dude, she is not even hot to be crying over. Burn the good and bad past and move on.

 

[iliketennis]

weird looking chick

 

[Rhino22]

I really connected with her on an emotional level I guess. I am a very unique, complicated guy and she is unique too. I don't think alot of people understood me like she did.

Her saying, "How did I get such a fine looking man?" Does that sound like maybe she thought from the beginning that I was too good for her?

 

[Phat]

The truth is she doesnt like you anymore. Girls are to scared to tell you the honest truth so they tell you indirect bulll****. And maybe if your smart enough you might get the clue!

 

[Rhino22]

Um yeah, but why does that happen?

 

[Phat]

She doesnt like you anymore because shes bored of you. Thats why shes fuucking her new boyfriend! Duh! She is just feeding you exuses and telling you fake confident boosting compliments because she knows how sensitive you are. So stop asking why this and why that. Just ask the fact she dont like you. You cant do nothing about it.

 

[f283000]

There are only 2 women that you should ever live with in your life.
1. Your mother when growing up
2. Your wife when you get married.

You moved in with a girlfriend well guess what you reap what you sow. Do a search on this forum and find out what happens when you move in with your girlfriend.

 

[AMDG]

for some messed up reason I still care about her

Nothing unusual for a love junkie without self-respect. Do you want to change that and have your free will back in the process ?

 

[AF77]

Dude, I fell for the same sort of chick. Just a little on the weird side, intelligent, and hot "in her own way."
And she's even on model mayhem.

The key is: Find another one.
**** her.

Repeat.

 

[Rhino22]

So there's nothing I could have done to prevent her from getting bored and doing this?

 

[cordoncordon]

So there's nothing I could have done to prevent her from getting bored and doing this?

I remember you posting about this girl many many months ago, maybe even a year ago, and you posted the same link to her pics. You were upset and crying over her then because you were broken up, and its been how long since?

Dude, move on, you are wasting LIFE by obsessing over her. You can do so much better, dont ever forget that.

 

[Rhino22]

I remember you posting about this girl many many months ago, maybe even a year ago, and you posted the same link to her pics. You were upset and crying over her then because you were broken up, and its been how long since?

Dude, move on, you are wasting LIFE by obsessing over her. You can do so much better, dont ever forget that.

I haven't even been here a year...

 

[cordoncordon]

I haven't even been here a year...

Trust me, it was you then under a different screen name. I'll never forget that girl.

 

[mustfirstregister]

she is scary

 

[Undispu7ed]

Dude, I fell for the same sort of chick. Just a little on the weird side, intelligent, and hot "in her own way."
And she's even on model mayhem.

The key is: Find another one.
**** her.

Repeat.

This, This, This!!!

 

[Rhino22]

Trust me, it was you then under a different screen name. I'll never forget that girl.

Why would you never forget her?

 

[cordoncordon]

Why would you never forget her?

Well, she's not ugly. Not my type, but dress her in nice clothes and shes a 6.5 or so. And I could see how certain goth type guys would like her. But I'll never forget those pics, especially the one with her wearing the air fliter. Not everyday you see that haha.

Back to my initial point, youve been obsessing over this girl for over a year at least from what I can remember. It's time to let go. Life is too short to waste spending time wanting someone who doesn't want you.

Just think what she would think if she knew you were still so hung up over her? Ego boost of the century. Time to let go my friend. Plenty of other, MUCH BETTER girls out there for you.