Ex- GF got hotter!

[Crissco]

You know how it goes. You break someone's heart. They use it as motivation and improve them selfs. Never thought it would happen to me but it did.

Run down is was dating this girl for 8 months last year. Truth be told she was great to me, came over on demand, cooked dinner for me, baked me food 3x a week, set up a birthday party for me. Great person overall for the time we dated. But she was clingy and wasn't really my type, she wasn't fat but a little chubby, which is why I broke it off. Saw her pictures yesterday, she lost around 20lbs. I was in shock. She got really hot!!

I messaged my ex early from this year(a diff one) just to say hi what's up... Small talk all that sh!t. But the other situation was different. I broke her heart(i did not cheat on her, i ended it out of the blue while she was still in love wothe)she wrote me love letters, was crying non stop for hours. Introduced me to her family and friends.....

Part of me wants to message her to say hi nd see how she is(and the fact she got hotter) part of tells me not to because of what I did to her.

What would u guys do here?

 

[PDubb75]

"Game" aside, and just being a good, functioning member of society, do this girl a favor and do not contact her unless you are really serious about being back with her. And I mean REALLY serious.

I know there are plenty of guys (on this site and in general) that could care less how she feels and would tell you to just go for it. Personally, I think you need to realize what this could do to her. If she was that torn up about you breaking it off, then you got back with her, fvcked her for a bit, then ended it again.... imagine what that would do to her.

If it were me, the only possible way I would start back up with that is if I was honestly looking to get seriously involved again.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I have tried to rekindle things with an ex and they always stay pretty hostile even after some time. I'd forget it dude.

 

[Masculinity]

msg her, Act as if you don't notice, and that you want to see her bc you miss her.

This ^

 

[bigneil]

What I did was I got 2 new girls numbers, and I texted all 3 at the same time including the ex. Then I got a barrage of messages and some were from her, but I wouldn't have cared that much either way.

 

[OneofOne]

Leave the ex alone man. Let her get on with her life and you yours.

I saw my ex the other day and she looks a lot hotter than when we broke up, but I am on a forward path. No u-turns.

 

[Upside]

A lot of people get "buyer's remorse", but hardly a mention of "seller's remorse" until this thread and the one in the MM forum.

If she was great to you and not naggy, then why the hell didn't you try to get both your asses off the couch and into the gym or an open field? Not only would you have had a great personality in a women, but an even better looking one too. If as men, our job is to lead and guide our women, then maybe you should have at least attempted to have guided yours into a situation in which she would have lost some of her weight.

Woulda, shoulda, coulda. I'm more concerned about you looking up multiple ex's. What's done is done, and you really shouldn't expose yourself to any kind of more hurt. What if she had a boyfriend on her arm as you saw these new pics. Your mind would be like "Fvck me"

 

[SoSuave666]

From a purely animalistic point of view, I say you can reach out to her if you want. What do you have to lose? Sh!t, turn her into a plate if you want. If anything blossoms from it then cool. If not, you're straight.

From a purely decent-human-being point of view, I'd say it'd be pretty sh!tty to go back with her only to feed your own ego, considering it's one of the things everyone hates most about women on this site.

Sh1t, life is too short bro. Go text her and let her make her own grownup decisions about whether or not to respond. She is a big girl, I'm sure she can handle it.