"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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trd323

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Well, my GF and I took a break which was mutual. I still hang out with her and her friend that I find attractive. Now how could I make this work with my GF's friend without being a jerk.

I already see signs of attraction from her. There is a lot of KINO and eye contact, and sexual innuendos.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PVSSY-EATER

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just stay persistant.

If you already are getting your kino in, and she does not see you as a desperate AFC, then all you need to do now is get her alone and you can whack that azz. Just try to set up something with her and her friend or you and her, and get to the place where it is just you and her and BAM. You got me.
 

belividere

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if you expect any good advice on this then you really need to elaborate on some things. How long were you together, how long have they been friends, how long have you known the friend, how did you come to this break......I mean if you are trying to hook up with your ex of 5yrs. best friend since kindergarten the situation is a lot different than if you are working a friend of a girl who you dated for 2 weeks. In all honesty I think your best bet would most likely be to stop hanging out with you ex and meet new girls.
 

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Oh well.. your ex's friend knows the possible consequence of hooking up with you. Do what you want. Kino. Isolate. Up the kino. Get some.
 

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I bet if you retreat from both girls, the other one will want you more anyways. Don't do anything f***ed up to the ex, though, because you don't want her ruining things with the friend.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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gargamel

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It all depends on your X.. I have an ex that always sets me up with her hot friends.. But she is an exeption - probably the coolest girl on the planet.. If your ex is envyous by nature... don't go there - you will unleash the three-headed beast. Try probing how the ex feels about you dating at all (difficult). And look carefully how the X reacts to you openly flirting w/ her friend..

You are always left with one more option:
try suggesting a menage-a-trois! :p

GL HF!
 
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