Ex gf banging me and another dude

[pyros]

Hello.


Long story short...:

met my ex 4 years ago. I was 23 she was 22. Had a LTR of 2.5 years till I broke up with her because she partially lied to me in a very very important issue.
We kept texting and stuff for 5 months while she tried to 'fix it.'
After this time, in which I suffered a lot , she kept trying to get me back. Then we became **** buddies, while she still wanted me to be her bf again. I had dozens of doubts about her. Then after a couple of months, I discovered that she also lied about another important issue. THen after some weeks, I discovered that she also lied again about another topic. I got really suspicious because of this, and I caught her lying to me in small things as well (while being **** buddies).
One day I made out with a girl. After some weeks I felt bad about it and told her. SHe made huge drama. She accused me of being a liar (this was funy). Then I found some text messages between her and a guy. I asked about it, she said it was just a friend.
Then we split for some weeks...but she kept trying to get me back, but eventhough I loved her, I was always telling her that we could not be together anymore because she lied too much, in too many things, and I thought she was kind of nuts.

Then for some months we kept just talking via email or text. She was always acusing me of being with other girls (imaginary girls, just one real), partying too much, being selfish etc etc etc. She also checked how many condoms I had to make sure I did not use any of them with other girls; all this while she was supposedly always at home, she was not ready to meet anybody, she did not want any man in her life etc.

Well, for two months we barely spoke. Then she reinitiated contact and she kept saying that she missed me, that she could not imagine herself with any other guy, and that she was scared I was gonna find another girl...
Then we became **** buddies for a week when I decided to check her mobile phone.

And what did I find?? a conversation with her best female friend talking about one guy (the same ****ing guy I asked about 7 monts back, when I checked her sms), which she wanted to be her boyfriend, with whom she had sex etc etc.
At first I thought she was talking about me, but she was not. She was talking about how selfish this guy was, that he did not want anything serious with her, that he was a a coward, and that he did not want to 'fight for her'. This ****ing conversation happened at the same time we barely spoke during two months. Yes, she was banging this duded while still making all this drama about how sad she was, how bad she felt because we were not together, how scared she was that I was gonna find another girl, and how badly she wanted to be alone, withouth any guy, and accusing me of partying too much (which was not true, I was pretty sad at the time)


And the most incredible part of this is that when I confronted her about it (I just said: I know you're lying to me, hidding some guy...)
she denied it, she cried etc, and then I just told her about the text messages I read on her mobile phone...and she just did not say anything, nothing at all. She just looked at me kind of disgusted, I said: 'so this guy wanted nothing serious with you huh? just go enjoy it, you're a ***** and a liar.' And I left. And she has not contacted me anymore, which I was shocked because for 1 years she's been trying to get me back, but I now know, that from that year, she's been at least four months messing with this other dude as well.
Its been 1.5 months and she has not talked to me again. I blocked her on FB btw.


The funy thing is that when we were together under normal circumstances I thought she was kind of an angel, naive, sincere, etc.
But then I discovered a huge lie and from that point it just got worse and worse...

Thanks, I feel better now I guess...

 

[AlphaGhost]

Id leave her alone, it isn't worth it... Especially for a ****buddy

 

[Die Hard]

Another insane-cluster B-attention wh0re-BPD-slvt-nutjob-whatever you like to call it...

She's scum and you have to stay no contact, don't give in to your feelings whenever you start "missing" her. Just focus on finding a new, better girl.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Hello.


Long story short...:

met my ex 4 years ago. I was 23 she was 22. Had a LTR of 2.5 years till I broke up with her because she partially lied to me in a very very important issue.
We kept texting and stuff for 5 months while she tried to 'fix it.'
After this time, in which I suffered a lot , she kept trying to get me back. Then we became **** buddies, while she still wanted me to be her bf again. I had dozens of doubts about her. Then after a couple of months, I discovered that she also lied about another important issue. THen after some weeks, I discovered that she also lied again about another topic. I got really suspicious because of this, and I caught her lying to me in small things as well (while being **** buddies).
One day I made out with a girl. After some weeks I felt bad about it and told her. SHe made huge drama. She accused me of being a liar (this was funy). Then I found some text messages between her and a guy. I asked about it, she said it was just a friend.
Then we split for some weeks...but she kept trying to get me back, but eventhough I loved her, I was always telling her that we could not be together anymore because she lied too much, in too many things, and I thought she was kind of nuts.

Then for some months we kept just talking via email or text. She was always acusing me of being with other girls (imaginary girls, just one real), partying too much, being selfish etc etc etc. She also checked how many condoms I had to make sure I did not use any of them with other girls; all this while she was supposedly always at home, she was not ready to meet anybody, she did not want any man in her life etc.

Well, for two months we barely spoke. Then she reinitiated contact and she kept saying that she missed me, that she could not imagine herself with any other guy, and that she was scared I was gonna find another girl...
Then we became **** buddies for a week when I decided to check her mobile phone.

And what did I find?? a conversation with her best female friend talking about one guy (the same ****ing guy I asked about 7 monts back, when I checked her sms), which she wanted to be her boyfriend, with whom she had sex etc etc.
At first I thought she was talking about me, but she was not. She was talking about how selfish this guy was, that he did not want anything serious with her, that he was a a coward, and that he did not want to 'fight for her'. This ****ing conversation happened at the same time we barely spoke during two months. Yes, she was banging this duded while still making all this drama about how sad she was, how bad she felt because we were not together, how scared she was that I was gonna find another girl, and how badly she wanted to be alone, withouth any guy, and accusing me of partying too much (which was not true, I was pretty sad at the time)


And the most incredible part of this is that when I confronted her about it (I just said: I know you're lying to me, hidding some guy...)
she denied it, she cried etc, and then I just told her about the text messages I read on her mobile phone...and she just did not say anything, nothing at all. She just looked at me kind of disgusted, I said: 'so this guy wanted nothing serious with you huh? just go enjoy it, you're a ***** and a liar.' And I left. And she has not contacted me anymore, which I was shocked because for 1 years she's been trying to get me back, but I now know, that from that year, she's been at least four months messing with this other dude as well.
Its been 1.5 months and she has not talked to me again. I blocked her on FB btw.


The funy thing is that when we were together under normal circumstances I thought she was kind of an angel, naive, sincere, etc.
But then I discovered a huge lie and from that point it just got worse and worse...

Thanks, I feel better now I guess...

Funny. I had an ex (first gf) when I was 19 do the same thing. Chick lied so much she didn't know what the truth was. Cheated all over me. Partially it was my own fault for being a clueless, pvssy whipped, "it would never happen to a great guy like me" clown.

Usually liars 'hate' other 'liars' and can't live without lying themselves. When someone is always jealous, accuses someone else of doing things. You might as well call it quits right then and there and never entertain that persons nonsense again. They'll never change.

The problem is the battle with ones own ego in those cases. Even though they are positive the accuser is the one doing the things they accuse others of their own ego can't take the fact that some low life piece of trash would do those things to them as they feel due to their ego they are better than them regardless. So they keep going back to be abused over and over again with lies and accusations for more "proof" and not being able to believe its happening to them.

I learned that lesson ONCE. And once was enough. You simply have to accept people like this chick are who they are and you can't control nor help them..No matter how much better you think or even are than them. Cut them out of your life immediately, learn and grow from those mistakes of a choice you made in them. Completely disappear and cut them out of your life for your own good.