Hello all,
Ive been lurking the forum for quite some time, but I decided to register as I have a question that I would like to ask:
The ex girlfriend (Background)
I was with this girl.. lets call her A. We were around 5 hours away of each other, but we would meet once a month for a week or so. We had a nice relationship and after.. hmm a year or so in the relationship (Jan 2012?) I intercepted some FB messages talking to a friend about how much she likes X. I got pissed off and immediately packed my things and tried to leave. She started crying, and told me she did not mean it etc.. after a while I gave in and said OK but If anything similar happens ever again I am out. She agreed.. and more or less after that incident everything was fine.
On January 2014 she started to not pick up her phone when I was calling her in the afternoon and she was saying she doesn't want to talk to me in front of her (new) friends (that I never met) because they will be offended (or some similar bull****)... I get pissed off and after an argument I don't call her for a few days.. After that she calls me cries etc and she tells me to try again to be together. I say yes.. but, the call situation continues and I get really pissed off.. off and we have a phone argument, in which we break up.
During the break up phonecall I found out that:
-She loves me but she is not in love with me (what the f that means?)
-that she wants a break up because she wants other guys to flirt her
- she had 3 dates with a guy that she met through a friend after xmas (apparently he did not like him at the beginning and only liked him during the 4-5 days during our first break up). I also found out that the guy tried kissing her but she didnt as she was in a relationship with me(?!), and that the guy tried to come to her place but she said no.
-She wants to stay friends with me as she loves me
-That she break up with me due to distance (I was planning on moving to her area in April so that cant be it..)
Anyway I got pissed off with all these and deleted her from FB, and I was not answering her calls /texts. A few days ago she calls me etc at 1 o'clock at night (i forgot to silent the phone) and we have a brief chat (she was crying etc) and she was begging me to add her to fb and talk to her. I said that I dont trust her and I believed that she lied and only told me the half truth etc.. but at the end I agreed.. once I agreed she texts me to wake her up in the morning to do work and she asks me to help her with some PP slides (I used to help her with the lectures when we were together).. I Ignore the text and told her that I dont want to help her... anyway.. a day after I decide to text her (I know I know) to see how the lecture went.. she replied the next day and we had the following brief text exchange (during a heavy squat session):
Me: How was the lecture?
A:Everything fine. How are you?
Me: Im fine. Im training
A: Good luck with your training
Me: Thanks
Anyway.. my questions are:
A) Do you believed that she lied to me about this dude, and other dudes (I know that she exchanged texts with another guy as well).
B) Why she wasnt replying her phone in the afternoons.. and why she was EVERY SINGLE afternoon out or busy?
C) What shall I do.. I am planning on ignoring everything from her.. but is that a solution? as D)I really want to be with her as we (or I) had great time when we were together the sex was great (I was f like there was no tomorrow and she was finishing all the time - she admitted that I was the best sex of her life), and we genuinely had matching characters and good fun. Anyway I know that C is stupid.. and Ive already started dating but.. I am a bit bitter that we broke up like that..
Ohh I forgot to add that I had a key for her house. Ive send it back a week ago through post.. and that she has invited me more than oncee to visit her if I have time. I don't want to go as that would be a beta move.. am I right?
Edit: I also forgot to add that she is 29 and I am 28.
Edit 2: The whole thing started when she finished her PHD and became a lecturer at a good university. I am still a PhD student (even tho I finish soon). The guy that she went out is a researcher urologist doctor, and the guy they exchange texts is a lecturer
Edit 3: She told me she doesent talk to the research urologist doctor anymore because she thinks that she wanted her for sex only. She also told me that she is 32.
Sorry for the wall of text. I hope everything makes sense. English is my second language. If you want clarifications please let me know.
Ive been lurking the forum for quite some time, but I decided to register as I have a question that I would like to ask:
The ex girlfriend (Background)
I was with this girl.. lets call her A. We were around 5 hours away of each other, but we would meet once a month for a week or so. We had a nice relationship and after.. hmm a year or so in the relationship (Jan 2012?) I intercepted some FB messages talking to a friend about how much she likes X. I got pissed off and immediately packed my things and tried to leave. She started crying, and told me she did not mean it etc.. after a while I gave in and said OK but If anything similar happens ever again I am out. She agreed.. and more or less after that incident everything was fine.
On January 2014 she started to not pick up her phone when I was calling her in the afternoon and she was saying she doesn't want to talk to me in front of her (new) friends (that I never met) because they will be offended (or some similar bull****)... I get pissed off and after an argument I don't call her for a few days.. After that she calls me cries etc and she tells me to try again to be together. I say yes.. but, the call situation continues and I get really pissed off.. off and we have a phone argument, in which we break up.
During the break up phonecall I found out that:
-She loves me but she is not in love with me (what the f that means?)
-that she wants a break up because she wants other guys to flirt her
- she had 3 dates with a guy that she met through a friend after xmas (apparently he did not like him at the beginning and only liked him during the 4-5 days during our first break up). I also found out that the guy tried kissing her but she didnt as she was in a relationship with me(?!), and that the guy tried to come to her place but she said no.
-She wants to stay friends with me as she loves me
-That she break up with me due to distance (I was planning on moving to her area in April so that cant be it..)
Anyway I got pissed off with all these and deleted her from FB, and I was not answering her calls /texts. A few days ago she calls me etc at 1 o'clock at night (i forgot to silent the phone) and we have a brief chat (she was crying etc) and she was begging me to add her to fb and talk to her. I said that I dont trust her and I believed that she lied and only told me the half truth etc.. but at the end I agreed.. once I agreed she texts me to wake her up in the morning to do work and she asks me to help her with some PP slides (I used to help her with the lectures when we were together).. I Ignore the text and told her that I dont want to help her... anyway.. a day after I decide to text her (I know I know) to see how the lecture went.. she replied the next day and we had the following brief text exchange (during a heavy squat session):
Me: How was the lecture?
A:Everything fine. How are you?
Me: Im fine. Im training
A: Good luck with your training
Me: Thanks
Anyway.. my questions are:
A) Do you believed that she lied to me about this dude, and other dudes (I know that she exchanged texts with another guy as well).
B) Why she wasnt replying her phone in the afternoons.. and why she was EVERY SINGLE afternoon out or busy?
C) What shall I do.. I am planning on ignoring everything from her.. but is that a solution? as D)I really want to be with her as we (or I) had great time when we were together the sex was great (I was f like there was no tomorrow and she was finishing all the time - she admitted that I was the best sex of her life), and we genuinely had matching characters and good fun. Anyway I know that C is stupid.. and Ive already started dating but.. I am a bit bitter that we broke up like that..
Ohh I forgot to add that I had a key for her house. Ive send it back a week ago through post.. and that she has invited me more than oncee to visit her if I have time. I don't want to go as that would be a beta move.. am I right?
Edit: I also forgot to add that she is 29 and I am 28.
Edit 2: The whole thing started when she finished her PHD and became a lecturer at a good university. I am still a PhD student (even tho I finish soon). The guy that she went out is a researcher urologist doctor, and the guy they exchange texts is a lecturer
Edit 3: She told me she doesent talk to the research urologist doctor anymore because she thinks that she wanted her for sex only. She also told me that she is 32.
Sorry for the wall of text. I hope everything makes sense. English is my second language. If you want clarifications please let me know.