"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ex flirted with best friend

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Long story short I dated this girl for a few months, caught one-itis and was beta as hell. She wanted to end the relationship and remain friends. She is in my friends circle so its hard to completely next her. Last weekend I was out town with some buddies, she hits up one of my good friends to go out for St. Patricks day. My friend goes because he assumes there will be other girls there. Turns out none of her girl friends show up. So its basically just them 2 and some other random guy. My friend tell me she was being flirty and touching him.

Another friend is having a birthday party this weekend and she will be there. How do I handle this situation?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you ignore her and pay attention to other girls. She could have been using your friend to make the other jealous. but who really knows. for now ignore her and meet people.
 
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I would honestly call her out on it. Lots of advice will tell you to ignore her and act suave or whatever. But I would honestly pull her aside the next time you see her and tell her what a c*nt she is in a calm, collected manner and THEN never acknowledge her again.

I really do have a hard time, even still, wrapping my head around how oblivious women are to even the most simple, common sense manners and courtesies.
 
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Girls does it all the time, even their sisters and mother would flirt with the boyfriend.

So its not surprising nor is this special.

What needs to be done is to maintain frame and ignore.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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amos123 said:
Long story short I dated this girl for a few months, caught one-itis and was beta as hell. She wanted to end the relationship and remain friends. She is in my friends circle so its hard to completely next her. Last weekend I was out town with some buddies, she hits up one of my good friends to go out for St. Patricks day. My friend goes because he assumes there will be other girls there. Turns out none of her girl friends show up. So its basically just them 2 and some other random guy. My friend tell me she was being flirty and touching him.

Another friend is having a birthday party this weekend and she will be there. How do I handle this situation?
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Inconsiderate behaviour on her part but about your friend, think he's interested? And more important, would he go for it?

If the break up was upsetting to you I don't think he should go for it if he's a good friend, but, she may date someone else in that circle who is not a close friend so focusing on meeting other girls will help make that less impactful for you if it happens.
 
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