"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just been told by a mutual friend that my ex has deactivated/disappeared off Facebook.

Anyone any idea what the psychology is behind this?

Apparently he thinks she's been gone a few days
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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soulforge

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Why are you even looking.. checking..

You should be in complete hardcore NC

Your aim should be to remove her from your life.. looking on social media will not help
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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obviously you still have some emotions tied up with your ex.

iirc she's a bpd, right? this is probably just a play to get people to reach out to her and ask what's up. a test to see who 'really cares and will miss her'. maybe she's just over social media?

In any case, she is an adult and knows how to take care of herself. you need to remember that while you focus on YOU first.

dont make someone else your concern, unless it is your relation.
 

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The most popular attention-seeking girl in my class did this, but she still has her snapchat. So what is the outcome rly? All the attention will come through 1 app. She will activate her FB soon anyway, no girl can get enough attention, its too addicting I promise you.

I wouldnt put much into the Hermit thing, its just a feeling she has at that moment, doesnt mean she is not getting plowed by several sleeve-tattoed gym heroes while snorting coke of their d1cks (actually based on a true story)
 

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She seeking your attention

Oh, maybe its normal that she deletes your friends too :p

Move on... see it has a good sign that you have to move on
 

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You're getting to the point where you are posting threads about her almost daily. If you're looking for some kind of male pity party, I don't think you'll find one on this forum.
Regardless of what she Is, or isn't, she moved on and you should also.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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btownbuck2012

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You keep posting threads about her almost every day. If you're looking for a male pity party, I don't think you'll find it on this forum.
She moved on, you should also.
@phil2015 gotta agree with the other posters here, brother. It has be confirmed and is a certifiable fact at this point that this woman was batsh*t crazy. F*ck her man. Move on to better things.
 

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Just been told by a mutual friend that my ex has deactivated/disappeared off Facebook.

Anyone any idea what the psychology is behind this?

Apparently he thinks she's been gone a few days
Why does this matter? She is an ex.
 

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He´ll post another thread about the same girl in 2/3 days
 

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She probably only got 99 likes on her latest cleavage selfie and not 100 so she got mad at the world and went into hiding.
 

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Just been told by a mutual friend that my ex has deactivated/disappeared off Facebook.

Anyone any idea what the psychology is behind this?

Apparently he thinks she's been gone a few days
Get over your ex, bro. Stalking through other people is immature.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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