ex contacts me on her b-day, coincidence?

[solo1]

So im at work today online, and my STR ex iinstant messenges me online.
so with her screen name having the #'s of her bday...its not hard to forget.
so she asks me how i've been...tells me she's not up to much these days.
eventually we start talking about drinks...says she hasnt been drinking much...that the most time she went drinking was w/me..then she starts mentioning an old spot we had some great drinks at. eventually mentions we should drink sometime.

anyway obviously today's her bday but i never bring it up. she mentions shes going to din tonight...and wants to meet up after or on sunday. so i tell her im busy this week but next week would be a better time. she brings it up again that maybe we can say hi tonight if around. and then she mentions maybe around school too.

she was the one that dumped me, im cool im not attracted to her anymore. but i dont know if she's looking for attention or wants me back...i mean whatever the case ill tap that ass if ican.

if anyone knows that would be helpful..

 

[bossdog]

she wants to fvck you

 

[solo1]

ok..maybe im lying, i may still be a little interested.

I finally got offline, Ok so she failed the sh!t test. She suggested that maybe tomorrow we could meet up, and asked if i had work. i said i didnt however i had to work on a paper and that she was probably going to stay over her friend's place. i told her i might be free in the evening. and asked what time she was going back home..she said it depends. i asked for her # again and said i'd call her early if i could make it, if not then next week. She asked "oh you deleted my #?'. Now im just mind fvcking her.

All I know is im fvking horny. But i dont want to come off as desperate...call tomorrow or next week?

 

[bossdog]

your doin fine. id call her pretty soon b4 she calls up another guy. dont try to do any more work then you have to. just set up the meet and knock her down. Its just sex. dont come across as desperate though. be cool.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

She was bored and was curious on whether she could still lead you around by the nose.

 

[solo1]

She was bored and was curious on whether she could still lead you around by the nose.

I dont know she could be, hate when that **** happens. She flaked on my ass when some other guy came around the corner which was how it ended.

I told her i was busy this week, yet somehow it seemed like it didnt go through her head at all. i counter offered her for next week...but yet for some reason she wants to meet up this week so bad around her bday.
And why not ask to meet up on the previous weeks or last month? why such a coincidence on her bday? which i find a little strange.

you know what screw her, she can wait all day at her friends place for my phone call for all i care. If she wants to meet with me for whatever reason, it's on my terms on the day i suggest. She can go **** herself and her bday

 

[Hitman10000]

If her intent is just on meeting you rather than talking as friends first, then her intent is suspicious and your gut is telling you that. I'm going with Francisco's judgement call on this one as well.

If she just called you outta the blue and kept calling you for a week or so after and then wanting to meet you up, then the intentions are good. Seductionists teach DJs that we have to "build rapport" a girl who is truly interested in you will want to do the same as well.

 

[solo1]

Anyway i just got up, i looked at my phone and to my surprise she sent me a text yesterday night. Just telling me she was at XXX waiting for an apple martini(a drink we had together at a restaurant in the past). i suppose ill call her back...could use a good fvck buddy...would be a waste to throw away this opportunity.

Hitman10000, she's not the confident type to call you up...her form of contact is always with txt messages, unless i call however. Yesterday's time online she did try to rebuild rapport with me..it was getting to a good point.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Anyway i just got up, i looked at my phone and to my surprise she sent me a text yesterday night. Just telling me she was at XXX waiting for an apple martini(a drink we had together at a restaurant in the past). i suppose ill call her back...could use a good fvck buddy...would be a waste to throw away this opportunity.

Hitman10000, she's not the confident type to call you up...her form of contact is always with txt messages, unless i call however. Yesterday's time online she did try to rebuild rapport with me..it was getting to a good point.

All she did was call you to place her drink order. Now you could run to her side in hopes that you'll get laid or you can take over the reigns and drive this filly the way that you want to.

Remember, she dumped you for a reason. I'd question why she doesn't have other plans and why she's using you as just a fall back. If you are going to consider seeing see, see the meeting for what it really is.

 

[solo1]

haha..i called her up to tell her i couldnt meet up today and she was on nervous defensive mode. the convo was a little awkward i guess.

I asked her how dinner was, all of a sudden she mumbled something about being sorry for missing my call or w/e and she cant meet up today. I told her neither could i and that sunday would be a better day. And we jumped back and forth she suggested saturday..told her what i was up to (she refused to listen..as she was still speaking), then she suggested monday i told her i had to work. So its either sunday or monday. it was a bit of a power struggle.

I dont care if she calls. If she has issues on meeting up on the days that i'm free then thats her problem. if we do meet up ill see what she has to say, if it isnt worth my time im leaving.

 

[SuperAlbert]

IMO, it's not worth your time. Don't even answer her phone calls.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

[yadda, yadda, yadda] it was a bit of a power struggle.... [blah, blah, blah]...

No sh1t Sherlock...

 

[bossdog]

why are you drawing this out into a long process. meet and fvck. Its not that hard. she calls you to meet up at a bar and your playing bull**** games trying to regain "control".

Stop over analyzing and meet up. It sounds like she wants you to fvck. If she didn't wanna fvck she'd just try to talk on the phone or something. Not try to meet you at a BAR, FOR DRINKS, AT NIGHT, ALONE. if you get there and she's acting up, playing games or whatever then LEAVE. What have you lost? is it really that hard? your acting like she's the only girl in the world or something.

Girls see thier ex-boyfriends as safe. Which is why most girls still **** thier ex's. Unless you were just really lame.

 

[Kuhlraum]

I had a girl to this to me once. I wouldn't call her a girlfriend, we worked together and would make out with each other, went to a few movies but that was it.

After I stopped talking to her she didnt try to talk to me until I got an IM from her on HER birthday. Of course I called her on it and said "Are you trying to see if I remembered your birthday so you can start a fight about it?" Of course that is what she wanted to hear and I talked to her for a while and got her to send me some dirty pics. She had moved out of state so there was no way to hook up with her.

 

[solo1]

no, she wasnt alone at the restaurant she was there with friends...i know her well enough that she doesnt have the balls to go to those places alone. typical she was just trying to get me to come out to shower her with attention in front of her friends. in short that flakey b*tch wasnt worth a second of my time....i knew she was just trying to see if she had power over me.

In the end it's better to keep your respect and walk away