Ex blocked my phone number, work phone, IG, FB, & even Venmo. Will she come around?

[rjc149]

Breakup advice on SS is always pretty solid. No contact, move on, self-optimize, date new women.

If the ex circles back to you, you can decide if you want to revisit the relationship from a position of strength, on your terms.

The willingness to walk away — for good — is the best tool in a man’s relationship toolbelt. It’s the best tool for attraction, the best tool for compliance, the best tool for any negotiation leverage, and the best tool for preserving your dignity.

Never, ever, fight for a woman who dumped you (or behaved in a way that left you no choice but to dump her). Yes that’s what she wants you to do, but it’s not to take you back. It’s to make the breakup easy for her by reassuring her that she’s still attractive. Women are incredibly insecure about this. Don’t give her that reassurance. Don’t make it easy for her. Make her wonder and think unwelcome thoughts about herself, and about why it was so easy for you to walk away from her.

If you want her back, your only shot is to disappear and never reappear again. If she cared for you, eventually, she will come looking for you.

 

[Bokanovsky]

why do you think that she’s gone? You don’t think this may just be for attention?

It may well be. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, so if she did this before, there is a good chance that she will do it again. What’s wrong with the 22 year old by the way? Is she a butterface?

 

[Zimbabwe]

Why did you come here asking for advice if you're going to completely ignore what everyone is saying?

 

[Glassguy]

We (31 M & F) broke up 3 weeks ago and she’s blocked me everywhere.

I got mad at my ex a few weeks ago and was really mean when I yelled at her - this is when we broke up. I tried calling her a week later to ask if she wanted to go to a festival but she told me she was out of town. I texted her afterwards and she responded but it was short and polite. Then last week I called her because I had a panic attack and thought I was going to have to go the ER. She texted me later that day asking if I was okay and cracked a joke.

Anyways, when we had broken up before I started seeing this younger woman (22). It was very casual. Right before we broke up that same woman started following me on social media, liking my pictures, posted this old picture of my dog, and was snooping on my ex’s social media too. My ex brought this up to me and I got annoyed with her because I hadn’t talked that woman in a long time. Well after we broke up. Out of anger, I added this girl back on social media. A few days ago she flew out to stay with me and my ex found out and sent me a text saying, “enjoy your time with ___” and then blocked me on everything.


I should add, we broke up before and she blocked me on social media and then we eventually got back together. This is the first time she’s blocked my number though.

Does she hate me? Think she’ll come around?

We were together for 3 years by the way.

The million dollar question:

Why would you want to be with someone that had blocked you from their life?

There are billions of women on this planet. Hundreds of thousands that you'll find attractive.

Go find 3 or 4 more than are better and that you actually get along with

 

[Dash Riprock]

My spidey sense is telling me this OP is BS, a troll. The follow-up questions OP has too. Something is off...

 

[MatureDJ]

We (31 M & F) broke up 3 weeks ago and she’s blocked me everywhere.

I got mad at my ex a few weeks ago and was really mean when I yelled at her - this is when we broke up. I tried calling her a week later to ask if she wanted to go to a festival but she told me she was out of town. I texted her afterwards and she responded but it was short and polite. Then last week I called her because I had a panic attack and thought I was going to have to go the ER. She texted me later that day asking if I was okay and cracked a joke.

Anyways, when we had broken up before I started seeing this younger woman (22). It was very casual. Right before we broke up that same woman started following me on social media, liking my pictures, posted this old picture of my dog, and was snooping on my ex’s social media too. My ex brought this up to me and I got annoyed with her because I hadn’t talked that woman in a long time. Well after we broke up. Out of anger, I added this girl back on social media. A few days ago she flew out to stay with me and my ex found out and sent me a text saying, “enjoy your time with ___” and then blocked me on everything.


I should add, we broke up before and she blocked me on social media and then we eventually got back together. This is the first time she’s blocked my number though.

Does she hate me? Think she’ll come around?

We were together for 3 years by the way.

You are only concerned about this because you are out of good options. You need to spin more plates.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

You beat me to it Dash. Was just going to say the same thing. Either a troll or a hopelessly narcissistic simp who is unable to be helped due to their narcissism. In either case, the pattern is the same, ask a question, then ignore the advice and ask the same dumb questions over and over and show now interest in reading the material available here to educate themselves.

 

[RangerMIke]

If this is real, and not some made up post (that happens here a lot in this forum) here is what happened.....

First thing men need to understand about chicks is if you have been dating one for three or more months, she knows you better than you know yourself. She knows EXACTLY how to 'poke the bear', she knows what you like and what sends you off the deep end. They are relationship Ninjas.

When MANY chicks are done with you she will start doing sh1t she knows you don't like... she will keep doing this until you finally snap.

Then she completely shuts you down, and you are done, because it is your fault. This is what happened here.

The thing to remember when you are in a 'relationship' with a woman, and she starts doing things you don't like, that is the first indication that you are on your way out. The OP needed to be more aware of what was going on and he would have seen this coming months ago.

The ONLY way to handle this is to spend less time with her when she isn't any fun... bit by bit until she drifts off or self corrects.

Regrettably what most dudes will do is double down on effort, start trying to keep her 'happy'... then the next thing you notice is that you are no longer the same person... as she becomes more and more b1tchy.

(1) She knows what you like and what you don't like.
(2) She isn't stupid... she knows what she is doing.
(3) Women are emotional, they are never really sure if the man she is with is the 'right' guy. Many can not evaluate this rationally, they have to feel it. If she thinks she is losing you, and she really wants you, she MUST feel it. This method is the ONLY way they know to FEEL what is happening.
(3) This happens because she is attempting to re-negotiate the terms of the relationship because she thinks she is bringing more to the 'relationship' then you are.

 

[dude99]

Does she hate me?

Probably.

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Think she’ll come around?

We were together for 3 years by the way.

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Who cares if she does. She burn the bridge. Move on. Focus on the new girl.

Why did you keep contacting and validating an ex in the first place. It is a total waste of time

 

[R3mmy]

It may well be. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior, so if she did this before, there is a good chance that she will do it again. What’s wrong with the 22 year old by the way? Is she a butterface?

You beat me to it Dash. Was just going to say the same thing. Either a troll or a hopelessly narcissistic simp who is unable to be helped due to their narcissism. In either case, the pattern is the same, ask a question, then ignore the advice and ask the same dumb questions over and over and show now interest in reading the material available here to educate themselves.

I’m not a troll. My ex did call me a narcissist once but I brushed it off. I guess there’s some truth to what she said then? I thought I was just being alpha with her - how am I a narcissist?

 

[Tilex]

Back in the days your pictures would be torn, burned, or pissed on after a breakup.
In modern days, you get blocked, unsubscribed, and unfriended.

This is how women move on.
It doesn't happen overnight.
There was a catalyst earlier on which was a sign of doom, and then it ultimately created a snowball effect.

 

[mjb3617]

Forget about her and move on. We've all been there. Respect yourself and move on. You'll feel worse trying to bring her back into your life. If you manage to get in touch with her, almost 100% guarantee she will mess you up even more for trying.