"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nw1512

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My gf of about 4 months still travels to uni, does assignments etc with her ex, he now wants to get back together now that i'm seeing her and texts and calls her most days.

I'm fine with the whole situation as i'm not the jealous type anymore, and encourage her to talk to him when were out, but her friends have been on to me to put a stop to them seeing each other at all.

The question i'm trying to ask is whats the right way to handle this knowing that they still have to see each other at uni etc without crossing the jealousy line.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lost In Translation

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you are a fool to allow this

100% she is cheating on you or is going to cheat on you

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“ Your woman in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an ex. It's ok to have men friends but friends whom she used to suck their dycks is not in my picture. “


think about it

you even know her ex is trying to hook back up with her

SHE KNOWS IT TOO

damn dude you asking to get played like a chump


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Jimbo2k

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Originally posted by Lost In Translation
you are a fool to allow this

100% she is cheating on you or is going to cheat on you

Quote: Player_Supreme
“ Your woman in my opinion shouldn't be talking to an ex. It's ok to have men friends but friends whom she used to suck their dycks is not in my picture. “


think about it

you even know her ex is trying to hook back up with her

SHE KNOWS IT TOO

damn dude you asking to get played like a chump


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Exceptions exist. Like mine...my girls interest level has been at a steady 100% for 8 months.

She still talks to her ex on occasion, and hes been trying to get her back since their relationship ended. He was an AFC and I showed her what a true man is. How worried should I be? Not at all.

So, NW, I guess you have to evaluate how trust worthy she is to you.
 

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To lost in translation.

i agree that this dude should not be allowing this, but what can he do to stop it. he cannot confront her about it which means all hes left with is to walk away? is there actually a method of stopping the girl from doing this?
 

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I'm in shock at how you could allow another man to hit on your g/f. Its not even like its a one time thing. Its a repeated act. Be careful. Sooner or later she's gonna give in.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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italostud

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Originally posted by Jimbo2k
Exceptions exist. Like mine...my girls interest level has been at a steady 100% for 8 months.

She still talks to her ex on occasion, and hes been trying to get her back since their relationship ended. He was an AFC and I showed her what a true man is. How worried should I be? Not at all.

So, NW, I guess you have to evaluate how trust worthy she is to you.

Firstly, nobody has an interest level of 100%. There's always that slight chance for someone to stray, it doesn't matter who you are. It just takes the right combination of circumstances.

And I admire your confidence in the situation, but make sure it's based in reality.

Remember, she used to fyck this guy/suck his dyck. Now she's doing assignments with him, and lets him call her?

Just because he's "AFC" in your eyes, doesn't mean he is in her's.

Not saying she's cheating on your for sure, it's impossible to know since I don't know you or her. But, be careful, if her friends are telling you that you should stop him from calling her, that's a possible sign that her friends are trying to clue you into something.

It's good to be confident, but don't be so confident that it obscures your vision of the truth.
 

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Quote - italostud
if her friends are telling you that you should stop him from calling her, that's a possible sign that her friends are trying to clue you into something

see italostud catches on :D

Quote - italostud
It's good to be confident, but don't be so confident that it obscures your vision of the truth

^^^^^ much WISDOM

you can't tell some people

they think their girlfriend is PERFECT

AFC thinking for sure


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How about next time she is about to leave town, hand her a condom and tell her to put it in her purse. If she is thinking about cheating, she'll be embarrassed, and if she is not, it would be a funny joke.
 

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Why would you want to change her behavior or have her quit seeing this guy? You will never be able to change this chick.....as soon as you get rid of this guy there will be another one waiting in the wings. The correct answer is that you next her. By all means keep having carnal relations with her, but realize that this relationship is on a short time schedule.
 

TillTheEndOfTime

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Do not stand for your girlfriend doing this to you. You think by "playing it cool" you're looking like a real man? You're really looking like a CHUMP.

Here's the deal with jealousy and when to "play it cool"

If you run into a situation where some guy is looking your girl up and down at a bar or something, you play it cool. Don't get into this big rage over it.

If your girl starts seeing and talking to her ex who WANTS to get back together with her, do ACT. Don't play it "cool". Tell her this is inappropriate and she has to choose. Tell her either go back to your ex, or ditch him for me.

Read these words carefully:

HER EX IS ONLY INTERESTED IN ONE THING WITH HER. SEX/GETTING BACK TOGETHER. SHE KNOWS THIS. KNOWING THIS SHE IS MAINTAINING CONTACT WITH HIM.

CAN YOU SAY RED FUVKING FLAG?

:down:


Don't get emotional about it, but just cooly give her an ultimatum.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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