"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Evolutionary psychology books

Chamber36

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I was thinking of ordering some books off of amazon, but I can't think of which book on evolutionary psychology I should buy.

The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating is the book I am most inclined to get.

Mating Intelligence: Sex, Relationships, and the Mind's Reproductive System by Glenn Geher and Geoffrey Miller looks like it may be more detailed but it's about triple the price.

I was also wondering if Story of O might give me the insight I need into the female psyche, especially after reading Pimp by Iceberg Slim (explaining *****'s/pimp's behavior). I've already seen the movie Story of O.

And also wondering whether The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins or The Red Queen should really be obligatory reading for a real Don Juan.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Id recommend The Red Queen and Sperm Wars, the latter being very interesting and mind opening; so much things make sense now.
 

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I'm reading Women's Infidelity (Langley) and it's amazing. Cost $100 though. It basically says that women are no more monogamous than men. That after 4 years of marriage they want someone else and shamelessly go about it.
 

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Be careful when reading books on evolutionary psych. Lots of this stuff is just theoretical and does not apply to all situations. While some of the information might be helpful, it can motivate the reader to perceive a distorted neurotic generalization of all women or all men which could cause a bitter outlook on the subject from the reader. (kind of like the generalizations a lot of posters on this board convey/perceive after reading into some of the wicked things that some women do.)

When it comes down to fact, we are all alive on this planet, therefore our genetics have some sense of fitness in evolution. Or rather, we're all "sexy" in one way or another.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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bigneil said:
I'm reading Women's Infidelity (Langley) and it's amazing. Cost $100 though. It basically says that women are no more monogamous than men. That after 4 years of marriage they want someone else and shamelessly go about it.

And once you figure this out... YOU ARE RUINED!!! Somberness indeed Bigneil on the truth. The ones that you think would never do are the ones that will crush you into tiny little pieces.
 

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r0cky said:
If you're interested in evolutionary psychology just watch this 12 min video by DeGrasse Tyson and you wont need to waste money on books. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rDRXn96HrtY
Interesting and fascinatingly disturbing, indeed. It would seem that millions of years of evolution have selected for traits in which that 1% difference in genes made us much more intelligent than chimps, a bottleneck effect of sorts.

Though disturbing, this gives me hope. All our problems with girls, bills, relationships, etc shrink into nothingness when we realize just how insignificant we are, cosmologically-speaking.

Like Courage Wolf said "You are the product of 4 billion years of evolutionary success. ACT LIKE IT." lol
 

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Well that video only made me more intrigued. I don't know about evolutionary psychology anymore but I might just get a book on NLP instead.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
Be careful when reading books on evolutionary psych. Lots of this stuff is just theoretical and does not apply to all situations. While some of the information might be helpful, it can motivate the reader to perceive a distorted neurotic generalization of all women or all men which could cause a bitter outlook on the subject from the reader. (kind of like the generalizations a lot of posters on this board convey/perceive after reading into some of the wicked things that some women do.)
I'm a huge fan of evo psych but totally agree with this. Never underestimate man's ability to be socialized and go against his evolutionary desires. Every time I consciously prevent myself from choking the sh*t out of some as*hole I'm using my neocortex to override the more ancient parts of my brain.
 
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