"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Evolution of a Don Juan

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Evolution is the only choice of nature, separating the alpha males who reproduce at will, from the dfc’s who cease progression after hitting puberty and become extinct with little/no reproduction or they commit suicide because the girl they obsess over doesn’t like them “the same way.” Evolution is when a being adapts to it’s surroundings after a problem or set-back arises, turning into a more powerful and resilient animal. Simply put, evolution is a positive cause and effect, or nature’s solution to a continuous problem. An example in life would be when you have a test in school and you don’t study, and forget to do the homework.

Problem: You fail miserably in the test
Solution: The next week you study and get an A…

This is not evolution you say? That is correct, because evolution involves conditions repeated over and over. You cannot expect change from one encounter of a problem. You will be more prepared if a somewhat similar situation occurs, but due to the infinite amount of variables you never have the same problem twice.

Talking about women with guys is like talking about sex with guys. You can hear everything there is to know, but when you get in the real life situation, unless you have been in it before, fear will most likely take over, and you will either freeze up and be as stiff as a board, (or for the latter) panic and be as limp as a dead dog’s tail ;).Sure you feel manly and macho, but in the end only that one person has accomplished anything. How can you evolve if you’ve never experienced the cause directly? This is learning the impossible and evolving without reason, and unfortunately the is the route most people try to take.
Here is where most SoSuave newbies are lost. They think:

Problem: They can’t get women
Solution: They go to SoSuave for help

Then they wonder why they can’t get that girl they see down the road by ignoring her, and not supplicating when she asks a question. This is like taking Advanced Calculus when you’ve just finished Beginners. Sure, you understand some concepts every now and then but if you want to fully understand, you must take the steps in between (Intermediate, or in the DJ’s case, Field work and Cold Approaches. If you didn’t need Intermediate Math in order to learn Advanced Math, would people really take it? The same goes for CA’s and Fieldwork, if it didn’t make you better, would people honestly go out and do it?

I have read the DJ bible and I agree that women are not the highest priority in life, but undoubtedly, after you’ve quenched your thirst for hobbies, or found the meaning of life ;), we come back to the similar reason we decided it was time to change, the opposite sex. I love reading the field report as much as the next guy, but you have to understand that you cannot evolve from reading only by experience. Although you shouldn’t obsess about women, they should, and probably do have the majority of your interest (though not always your attention) What better way to learn about women than to surround yourself with the opposite sex. The next time you have the opportunity to surround yourself with women, whether it be choosing a seating arrangement for a class, or picking a partner for a philosophy project (damn that’s a tongue twister :)) choose the female and start the slow, but rewarding process of evolution. And if you get rejected in your quests you should not think about it because in order to evolve into a better Don Juan, you have to experience a negative and adjust accordingly in how you present yourself and speak.

So have fun and get out there and learn a thing or two by yourself, follow your gut, and be the best you can be...
If you don't live and learn, you haven't learned to live
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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RawkinKaoticStyle

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Yeah ! its like sosuave shows us the road leading to horizon, but the only one that can walk on it is us!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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theunflushables

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Damn, quite insightful. You will do well young grasshopper.
 
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