Everything except kissing and sex

[PokerStar]

Hello Guys,

I wanted your opinion on situation i have rarely come across and I would like to know what you do.

Known this girl for about a few years now. Asked her out to a movie and some drinks. Ended up back at her place. She tells me to come check out her new bed (massive king size bed and comfy) which I oblige. So she gets on top of me and starts grinding me. I grab her all over the place and when I go to take her pants off, she says no i want to keep it PG-13. I say ok and back off a bit.

A few minutes later I start giving her massage and she starts getting off on it. I go in for the kiss but she turns her head away so I start kissing her neck and all over her body. I can tell she is really turned on at this point and again I go to take off her pants (she isnt wearing any underwear) and she's says no I can't. I back off again and put on my shirt and tell her yes she is right, and told her I'm leaving. She gave me a peck on the cheek and long hug. I told her I will call her to hang out soon.

So, my go to move (the massage) always gets the girls ready to throw off their panties but this time it did not work. So, I'm kinda dumbfounded in a way.

I would like to know where I went wrong so if you have any tips or comments let me know. BTW if you need any history dont be afraid to ask. I want to nip this in the bud ASAP.

 

[dude99]

Sounds like she may have gone out with you because her origional plans fell through. Maybe she was dumped or cancelled on and she wanted you to give her an ego boost.

When they don't let you kiss them, they aren't interested enough to take things further.

When she stopped you from taking her pants off tells me her interest is below 49%

I wouldn't invest too much time and energy with this one.

 

[PokerStar]

She got fired from her job last week and she broke up with her long term BF back in March i think. So I am thinking that might have contributed to her saying no.

 

[dude99]

She got fired from her job last week and she broke up with her long term BF back in March i think. So I am thinking that might have contributed to her saying no.

It could. But this is what i see in your message.

She has known you for years. Perhaps she doesn't view you as a date. Only as a buddy.

She didn't let you take off her pants. Ok maybe it was too soon for that but her message here is " i am not having sex with you. Breaking up with the boyfriend usually triggers the 'find new dude to screw me asap' so i can say i won the break up. This didn't happen. Besides march is a long time ago. 10 bucks says she has banged 2 to 3 guys or more since. Why not you? There has to be a reason. Interest isn't high enough

And you got the cheek. Girls who like you, girls who want you girls who are interested do not give the cheek. They welcome the kiss.

If getting fired from her job had her down then she probably wouldn't have gone out at all.

Do not invest in this one

 

[Mike32ct]

Sounds like she may have gone out with you because her origional plans fell through. Maybe she was dumped or cancelled on and she wanted you to give her an ego boost.

When they don't let you kiss them, they aren't interested enough to take things further.

When she stopped you from taking her pants off tells me her interest is below 49%

I wouldn't invest too much time and energy with this one.

^This. She kind of likes you, but has her mind on another dude and/or has another dude on the side. (Or she is still secretly hooking up with her ex and in her mind doesn’t want to “cheat.”) At any rate, I find it hard to believe that she has been “dry spelling” since her March breakup.

You didn’t do anything wrong. You aren’t in “friendzone,” but you are only borderline in her “attraction zone.”

 

[PokerStar]

you are right. majority of the women if not all that I get into bed with have no resistance to my advances.

And tbh..she is a nice girl but I dont see anything long term with her.

so i will move this one to a bang buddy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

you are right. majority of the women if not all that I get into bed with have no resistance to my advances.

And tbh..she is a nice girl but I dont see anything long term with her.

so i will move this one to a bang buddy.

She has to move herself to bang buddy. Just keep doing you. Have her over for movies and drinks see how that goes.