teddy said:
1. 1-2 days, if we're talking about the sole purpose of going out is to socialize and meet women. Usually once a week.
2. about 3 hours.
3. So I used to be completely reclusive, so this is a process. I generally just strike up a conversation; first with women from extended social circle (friends of friends) and then when I feel better, women who have no association with my circle.
4. I mean, I try to work on game throughout my every day life, so even when I go to the store, I try to strike up a conversation with the cashier. But if we're talking about "going out", so far I'm just going where my social circle goes---pretty much bars.
5. Hospital (that's my work), sporting events, bookstores, coffee shops, movie theaters, bars.
6. I work very long hours and am studying at the same time. So week days (Mon-Thurs, sometimes even Fri) I stay at home after work. I'm just too tired to do anything other than recuperate, eat, work out, spend an hour on my hobbies, and go to bed, since I have to wake up early.
7. TV--I like shows and movies (screenwriting used to be a big hobby of mine), I also find it gives me something to talk about during conversations.
Please let me know if you need more detail or anything else. I appreciate all the help I can get. I think part of it is just that I need to keep practicing more out in real life, less theory, and hopefully build positive experiences with good outcomes.
1. Bump it up to seven days a week for a month if your lifestyle can handle it. If not, make it happen. Sundays, Mondays, and Tuesdays can be difficult to find a venue, but they're out there, and those nights are the ones that only motivated girls go out to. Venue doesn't have to be a bar/club; coffee shops, art galleries, gay clubs, university functions, etc. are all good. I checked your geographic location through my Glorious Mod Powers and determined you shouldn't have a problem if you go to that downtown area that's less than 15 miles away.
2. 3 hours, I assume for the club? Do you stay until closing time and a bit after? That's when the magic happens; DO NOT LEAVE BEFORE OR AT CLOSING. The parking lot can yield some impressive results.
3. You're progressively desensitizing yourself to social situations. Excellent. Next expand to random people next to you. Old lady at the crosswalk? Ask her how her day is going. Waiting in line? Point out something funny to the guy next to you. Walking next to a girl (regardless of beauty) at school? Comment on the crap weather. It is IMPERATIVE that you do this, because if you spend your day all reclusive and in your head, don't expect to be Mr. Social Man and strike up a conversation with the HB10 at a loud bar.
4. Start leading your social circle, or get a new one. Honestly go out alone and create a new social circle from scratch. Going out alone can be a big deal at first, but I've been doing it for YEARS and it makes logistics so much easier.
5. That's a pretty solid list of venues. Try adding art galleries and local bands as well; there's often very pretty girls that go there, and the venues are also fun.
6. Gotcha. Consider studying diet and exercise if you want to be able to afford a full time job and going out. I cut out meat and processed foods out of my diet, and now I'm sleeping for 5 hours a day and having more energy than before. I realized eating meat requires an extra 2-3 hours of sleep for me, which is not worth it, especially since all the crap in the meat in the country is very bad for you.
7. Not bad, considering it's an interest of yours. Just don't use that as a rationalization to stay inside for too long.
Honestly it sounds like you're on the right track. Just trust in the process. PM me with Skype details if you want me to give you a quick consultation; I can tell a lot about a person based on your speech patterns and mannerisms. Everything I mentioned are suggestions, but I recommend you try them for a month and see if they work for you.
