"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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baurman

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Thanks for the advice, guys.

I most likely won't be working there for long anyway. So I've already kinda figured out what I'm going to tell her. If it works out then good for me, if not, then at least I tried and Next.

I decided I'm just going to be straight up with her. I pretty much broke common ground with her, asking her the basic questions and things where we are comfortable of talking to each other. So I'm just going to say it straight out "Look, I'm probably not going to be working here much longer so lets go out sometime, grab some lunch, get to know each other sometime." See what she says. If she rejects me, fine. If she's game, then I'll ask for her number "Let me get your number in case I need to give you a call."
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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Well I think that instead of saying "Let's get lunch together sometime" you should try to make more definite plans. When is sometime? Today? Tomorrow? Next week?

And I probably wouldn't say "Let me get your number in case I need to give you a call". Don't get me wrong, she'll give it to you, but I would ask for it at the end of your lunch / drinks. Say something along the lines of "I had a really great time with you. Let me give you a call when I have some free time. What's your number?"

I think that would set up a better dynamic than "Let me get your number in case I need to give you a call." That makes it sound like she's going to pick you up from detox or something. LOL
 
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