"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Every guy out there is an AFC or has issues...the term Man means nothing.

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This is some serious shyt here going on folks. The world is crumbling.

It's sad to say, but i believe most people in general including guys have self image issues. And most arent happy with themselves...whether they seek validatioin, low self esteem, self conscious issues.

Ill admit no ones perfect. But even some of my closest friends have issues, mainly cause they make it an issue. Blah blah, my spine's weak, im short, im fat, ugly, no one talks to me, im skinny...the list goes on. Honestly im sort of sick of hearing ppl wine about their problems, especially my friends. When they get mopey and **** they cling to me like glue. Moping around's not gonna do ****, go out there and deal with it, if it's skinny workout, if you think you're ugly change your wardrobe. Sometimes i wish i could i meet someone normal who has his **** together.

That's why so much AFC's in the world exist. Every man's been pussified to the core that their ego can never save them. It's a battle they'll never win cause the battle is within themselves.

In the college class setting...the guys talk to the guys and the girls talk to the girls..wtf is up with that? At least chat up the ladies, bust their balls or anything. Group of guy buddies chilling in the corner of the room or hallway, little ****fest going on, woohoo. And then there are guys who try, but instead make friends with the girls and goes LJBF land.

Where have all the real men gone?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Where have all the coyboys gone?"

Even though that song is pretty gay the message is clear.

We could sit here arguing that society is at fault, parents are at fault, we're at fault.

But honestly everyone's at fault. We lost track of who we are and we don't know where we're heading.

At least there's aout 18k people who know where they're heading. :)
 

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Almost anybody who's living in the Western world, and faces media bombs day after day will have self-steem issues. That's why girl's go anorexic, and guys run to buy the latest brand of sneakers/pink shirt/car. Otherwise you are not "in". Anybody asking how to look "fly" or stuff like that is just asking for better ways to be part of the sheep (as commendable it might be that someone wants to look presentable).

Shyt, even the guys who think they're above the crowd because they go quoting Tyler from "Fight Club" just want deep in their hearts to have chieseled abs like Brad Pitt... and later go to ebay and buy the"Fight Club" collectors dvd, not to mention a red leather jacket. Ironic, isn't it?
 

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You honestly think that everybody has such incredibly low self esteem? I feel sorry for you. And I might add - stop projecting your self image problems upon other people.

Sure, everybody goes through periods in their life where they wonder who they are, or if they're doing 'the right thing". Some people float through their entire lives feeling this way, and those are the people who I feel the most sorry for.

The point is, there are plenty of perfectly secure people out there who don't feel the need to whine about their problems - or even feel that they don't have any problems (because they don't sweat the small stuff). Just because you happen to know a lot of people who like to complain about their problems, constantly seek validation from others, jump on fads, dream about having 'chisled abs' but never go to the gym, etc. does not mean that everyone is like that.

Stop over generalizing - and please stop rationalizing the fact that you allow yourself to be unhappy. If you don't like the way things are - fix it if you can, accept it if you can't, but either way get over it and stop *****ing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Vincent
"Where have all the coyboys gone?"

Even though that song is pretty gay the message is clear.
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lmfao dude you just typed out my thoughts.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
This is some serious shyt here going on folks. The world is crumbling.

It's sad to say, but i believe most people in general including guys have self image issues. And most arent happy with themselves...whether they seek validatioin, low self esteem, self conscious issues.

Ill admit no ones perfect. But even some of my closest friends have issues, mainly cause they make it an issue. Blah blah, my spine's weak, im short, im fat, ugly, no one talks to me, im skinny...the list goes on. Honestly im sort of sick of hearing ppl wine about their problems, especially my friends. When they get mopey and **** they cling to me like glue. Moping around's not gonna do ****, go out there and deal with it, if it's skinny workout, if you think you're ugly change your wardrobe. Sometimes i wish i could i meet someone normal who has his **** together.

That's why so much AFC's in the world exist. Every man's been pussified to the core that their ego can never save them. It's a battle they'll never win cause the battle is within themselves.

In the college class setting...the guys talk to the guys and the girls talk to the girls..wtf is up with that? At least chat up the ladies, bust their balls or anything. Group of guy buddies chilling in the corner of the room or hallway, little ****fest going on, woohoo. And then there are guys who try, but instead make friends with the girls and goes LJBF land.

Where have all the real men gone?
were do u live
 

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NYC, all sorts of weirdos here. you name it , you'll find it.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
NYC, all sorts of weirdos here. you name it , you'll find it.
As a native New Yorker... I resent that statement. :)

*Sarcasm button*

So what if he have AIDS riddled queers, a myriad of foriegners and homeless people who piss on the train... doesn't mean the city is filled with weirdos. :)

AS
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
most people in general including guys have self image issues.
I agree... but it's true with all people in general. Everyone has issues, but the important thing is to not let those issues dictate any part of how you go through life. For example, I have a big head. Literally. Is there anything I can do about it? Nope... so why let it bother me? People who get hung up on how they are "too short so they can't get girls" or "too ugly so they can't get girls" are just making excuses...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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