Every girl has a boyfriend.

[Bigpapa]

this does not line up with my perception at all. I would say more woman seem to be single than ever. this is definitely the case for women in their 20s
but i'd say it applies to women in their early 30s too.



the kind of guys most women actually go for are the kind of guys that can get away with dating multiple women.

you also need to add the fact that avoidance is quite high as a % when it comes to the woman population

asked chat gpt out of curiosity what is the % of avoidant women and he says that based on research it is 25% from all the population and like 50% from the dating pool.

mainly because non avoidant women are in a relationship already while avoidant women go from situatentship to situatenship

also asked just out of pure curiosity why so high the % and he responded that a woman needs to be burned 1-2 times to become fully avoidant and is difficult afterwards to revert back. Quite easily for a woman to feel that she was burned these days, you do not have to be d1ck anymore to burn a woman due to their hyper inflated egos

but apparently the trick to deal with avoidant women is to treat them like you don’t care, in the moment they sense that you have qualities of a boyfriend ( even if you do not want to be one ) then it is the moment when they start adding friction to the dynamic and difficult to actually sleep with them

It something that I encountered also more and more the last 2-3 years, and it is quite a difficult dynamic because you have no idea if she is an avoidant or not before you start talking with her.

usually avoidant women from what I have seen usually have a lot of situatenships ( non sexual usually ) and sometimes they have casual hookups ( when traveling or partying ) . Though some would not really be sexually active, years can pass between sex encounters

this realization made me think that the stuff about being high smv / high value, or pua stuff is loosing a lot of its power in this current dynamic where avoidance kinda becomes a norm as things move more towards the now rather than a courtship process

on the other hand, difficult to have a relationship with an avoidant woman and even if she goes through the healing process still she will not be able to be a decent partner for at least 2/3 years

 

[HaleyBaron]

you also need to add the fact that avoidance is quite high as a % when it comes to the woman population

asked chat gpt out of curiosity what is the % of avoidant women and he says that based on research it is 25% from all the population and like 50% from the dating pool.

mainly because non avoidant women are in a relationship already while avoidant women go from situatentship to situatenship

also asked just out of pure curiosity why so high the % and he responded that a woman needs to be burned 1-2 times to become fully avoidant and is difficult afterwards to revert back. Quite easily for a woman to feel that she was burned these days, you do not have to be d1ck anymore to burn a woman due to their hyper inflated egos

but apparently the trick to deal with avoidant women is to treat them like you don’t care, in the moment they sense that you have qualities of a boyfriend ( even if you do not want to be one ) then it is the moment when they start adding friction to the dynamic and difficult to actually sleep with them

It something that I encountered also more and more the last 2-3 years, and it is quite a difficult dynamic because you have no idea if she is an avoidant or not before you start talking with her.

usually avoidant women from what I have seen usually have a lot of situatenships ( non sexual usually ) and sometimes they have casual hookups ( when traveling or partying ) . Though some would not really be sexually active, years can pass between sex encounters

this realization made me think that the stuff about being high smv / high value, or pua stuff is loosing a lot of its power in this current dynamic where avoidance kinda becomes a norm as things move more towards the now rather than a courtship process

on the other hand, difficult to have a relationship with an avoidant woman and even if she goes through the healing process still she will not be able to be a decent partner for at least 2/3 years

This puts a name on what I've been seeing. There's a lot of those women, and I believe is due to the times. And women are so fickle as is, and they do not need us as much as we need them [not in the traditional sense. Women hate being lonely, but they can withstand being away from men until they find the one they want].

 

[Bigpapa]

This puts a name on what I've been seeing. There's a lot of those women, and I believe is due to the times. And women are so fickle as is, and they do not need us as much as we need them [not in the traditional sense. Women hate being lonely, but they can withstand being away from men until they find the one they want].

but that’s the catch with avoidant women, they will not sleep with the guys that they actually want

Unless they are 101% sure they do not want or can not have a relationship with or they are just horny and just met the guy.

even if is a slim chance that a relationship is possible they will not sleep with the guy

avoidance basically means that they are afraid to get hurt so they are super vigilant to things that they can hurt them and shut them down

for example :

Fearful avoidance specifically combines desire for intimacy with fear of intimacy, so attraction can produce both pursuit and retreat