"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I've been "caught" on ss a couple of times. I never really hid it to begin with and the girls who found out did so as I left my browser open to ss. I haven't posted anything to be ashamed of, and they found most advice on this site realistic.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I live with my GF and we share a computer. I have not been to SS once on that comp. Everything I view/type on SS is either at work or my parents' house.

That being said, sometimes I just can't help but drop SS jargon in front of my girl. She has no clue what I'm talking about, and sometimes I get really frustrated when she gives me a confused look.

Example:
GF: "OMG, I loooooove that new Britney Spears song!"
BH: "You're really trapped in the matrix."
GF: -Confused look-
BH: "Do you have any clue what the matrix is?"
GF: "I saw the movie but I had no clue what it was about."
BH -Shakes head in disbelief-

I also call her out all the time when she tries to sh*t test me. One of my favorite lines is:

"You have this sense of entitlement just because you have a vagina!"

Its funny when she never has a response to that statement because she knows its true.
 
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Robert Greene has a law in his book "The 48 laws of power" titled "Think as you like but behave like others."

It doesn't directly correlate to DJism but he has a really profound passage about how closely other people hold onto their ideals and how futile it is to try to change them.

I would post it but I'm at work right now. Maybe I'll post it when get home...
 

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Martin Shabazz Jr. said:
Robert Greene has a law in his book "The 48 laws of power" titled "Think as you like but behave like others."

It doesn't directly correlate to DJism but he has a really profound passage about how closely other people hold onto their ideals and how futile it is to try to change them.
That's a great quote.

There are just some things that others will never understand. Sometimes it's tough living in a world that is moving in its own direction, at its own pace. makes you feel "alone" in a way.
 

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I have never told my gf, or any girl, about SS. I have tried to turn a few friends on to the community, with varying success. Most just arent willing to accept the revelations of the community, because it goes against everything they have been told. Social conditioning has deep roots.

I even told my father about it not too long ago, but I dont think he ever checked it out. Sometimes we talk about women and marriage, and he likes some of my perspectives, but Im not sure he could fully unplug. He might be too old to become a jedi.

The matrix metaphor gets used alot here, but it really is the perfect parallel. No one who is inside the matrix is ever aware that they are until they are shown a way out. Once that awareness occurs they will never forget what they 'see', even if they choose to plug back in.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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STR8UP

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Colossus said:
He might be too old to become a jedi.
There's a thought to ponder.

How old is too old to "wake up"?
 

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Well my last GF found it on my computer. She looked at my favorites and found it. I had to get a diff sign on name because of it. She was always checking to see if I was lookin at porn! :crackup:

So now I no longer keep it under my favorites. And yeah i look at porn,...who doesn't?
 

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Mrs. K absolutely knows I come here and there are a few other forums I belong to which I make no qualms or apologies for. She knows my intent is personal empowerment and development of the self.

She has no issues and has read quite a few of my posts. She doesn't necessarily agree on some of my comments but nonetheless knows that I do not require her permission, absolution or benediction.

This is why our relationship works so well. We RESPECT each others BOUNDARIES.

I'm mentoring 3 brothers currently who I am advising read through the forums but they are not yet allowed to register or become active members until they can make valid, mature decisions and opinions. I do not want my padawans lumped in with the Skiptomylousers of this particular forum.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What does 'PUA' stand for?
 

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MikeEdward1973 said:
What does 'PUA' stand for?
Your mother would say ," Pick Up After yourself "
 

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Although I never mention this place I take great joy in playfully arguing some our basic tenants with some women.

One of my favorite topics is the SoulMate myth. It seems to be that loose thread, that if pulled, the entire fabric of their world comes apart.

A surprisingly large number of 20-something women SAY they don’t believe in it, but when you start to unravel how they think the cheap plywood under that fine Walnut veneer begins to show through.

As far as how old is too old to unplug I don’t think its age but a certain flexibility in thought, a nimble and independent mind.

I question everything as sometimes herd mentality takes hold, EVEN HERE.
 

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MikeEdward1973 said:
What does 'PUA' stand for?
Pick Up Artist. Guys like Mystery, Ross Jeffries, etc. Their game is entirely situational and typically masks a root problem. Great techniques, but they are just that--techniques. They can produce rapid, convincing success, but the essence of PUA-ism is projecting an illusion of someone you are not. That is why most of them ultimately crumble on their afc foundations.

Recognize the difference between manipulating and becoming.
 

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grinder said:
One of my favorite topics is the SoulMate myth. It seems to be that loose thread, that if pulled, the entire fabric of their world comes apart.
Anytime I get into a **logical** discussion with a woman about anything like this, I get such a kick out of seeing the expression on their face when they come to the realization that there might actually be some merit to what I am saying.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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