"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ever seen that movie "he's just not that into you?"

garruk

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one of my plates made me watch this movie "he's just not that into you" with her and while its mostly jsut a girly romantic comedy there was one interesting scene i was wondering if you guys had seen.

essentially theres a guy whose like everyone on this forum (sees women as expendable and a commodity), and a girl basically lectures him that while he never gets hurt and is always in command of a relationship, he also will never find love.


what do you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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essentially theres a guy whose like everyone on this forum (sees women as expendable and a commodity), and a girl basically lectures him that while he never gets hurt and is always in command of a relationship, he also will never find love.


Bullsh!t.
 

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It's true, the guy who sees women as attractive objects but expendable won't find love because he is so use to living and leaving every pretty face he sees. Have you not ever heard of the story of the boy named narcissus?
 

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You've just discovered the difference between defeating AFCism the easy way (i.e., learning to not care about or treat women badly) and the hard way (long term self improvement)

Scourged earth tactics certainly work, but there's a sense in which you'll no longer care about or appreciate what you've won.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cinamon

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That movie was absolutely awful, but didnt that guy end up falling in love with the girl that said that to him. Some things sound good in movies but have no worth in the real world.
 

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The whole concept of romantic comedies disgust me to the point where watching them makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit every time I see one. All the romantic comedies can be condensed into this(with some variations to the theme):

Boy meets girls(or vice versa), stuff happens, they fall in love. Insert scenes of happiness and/or ridiculous stuff where love is shining. Boy does something stupid, girl pissed off, girl leaves, guy hijacks car/taxi/helicopter/shark to chase after girl, falls on knees, girl breaks and they live happily ever after.

The problem with these movies is that they glorify the whole "the girl makes the relationship" thingy, which is bullsh!t. A relationship is nothing but 2 people putting something in and getting something out of it. A guy who sees girls as expendable and replaceable might find "true" love, but that's because true love doesn't exist, it's something Walt Disney made up to make little girls his slaves and purchase his products.

Love on the other he will find, but like all things in life(and life itself), it has an expiration date. Love eventually dies out, or one of the people involved dies and the result is the same thing: broken heart(s) and tears. Everyone who puts in a bit of effort will find (mutual) love, however, there is a point where love doesn't work anymore, but the whole Disney generation girls(and even the girls before that) seem to think that love will over come anything. Which it won't, because humans weren't even made to be monogamous, it's just a cultural thing.
 

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This is the type of thing that we would like to believe, but is still nonsense.

I can 'love' a girl but still treat her like i dont care sometimes. I can also love a girl but still cut her out completely the day after we break up and act like i dont even care. I love her but i know i'll love again and it will be just as good and probably better!

What sounds nice to the ear isn't neceserily true. Some guys ask for advice and only want to hear a certain thing. This is one of those things.
 
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