Ever noticed this?

[sosilky]

When I have the world by the balls i can care less about what women I have on my arm. When I'm down I do want someone there with me. This is obviously a sign of episodes of neediness or validation threw women. well everybody needs support sometimes. Sometimes I make mistakes repeatedly and get down on myself. Well how does one have the world by the balls 24 hours a die for ever? Possibly I am getting in my own way? in fact thats probably it. how do i break that pattern? any comments?

 

[KontrollerX]

You break the pattern by not only working on your inner game and self love but to go out and have fun with good friends when you are down.

You see its transitioning your need for acceptance and validation from women to your friends who will be more than happy to give it.

Of course nobody likes a downer which is why when around friends you instead focus on having fun and letting your cares slip away.

You get cheered up and no longer feed the down feelings with negative thoughts.

And if you are really down and need someone to talk things out with a good friend will be there to listen to you whereas this will just turn a chick off.

If your bad feelings are bad enough though professional therapy is always an option even for those without a lot of money in the U.S at least since there are free places for this all over.

 

[sosilky]

You see its transitioning your need for acceptance and validation from women to your friends who will be more than happy to give it.

What if I was to get serious with somebody or get married? Don't talk to her about this stuff? whats the sense of getting involved then?

 

[KontrollerX]

Exactly!

Marriage and committment are not at all necessary to have a happy and fulfilling life and plus to do so you are just setting yourself up to lose half of your lifetime earnings anyway with a messy divorce.

Though don't get me wrong you can share your pains and down times with a chick but only when you two have been in a relationship for a long time together, trust is established and you feel safe to share deep things with eachother.

How keeping friends in addition to your wife helps you is you don't get caught up in the AFC trap of vomiting up too much of your emotional pains and problems on her to where she no longer desires you as your problems are split between talking them out to your friends mostly and your wife a bit here and there.

Plus having a life outside of your wife with friends, community and hobbies is how you keep from getting bored of eachother without cheating as well keep your own seperate identities.

Its being your own man and being a viable commodity that could move on at any time that keeps your wife hot for you and you alone.

Any healthy relationship I would agree with Rollo Tomassi needs a healthy form of tension that tells the other partner that you don't need them to survive and have a good life and you can move on no problems should they cheat and you will immediately should they do so.

No working things out after a partner cheats, no marriage counseling after a partner cheats, that is a deal breaker and the relationship is then over as a result for good.

The healthy form of tension doesn't mean you don't let your partner know you desire them.

Of course you do but it lets them know that they better toe the line and not cheat if they would like to remain in this relationship with you.

 

[schttrj]

man, its life, feeling down are a part of life. dont get bored with that, in fact, learn or try to understand that if u were always happy, it would have been boring and i think im very spiritual in this regard and i strongly believe that whatever happens, happens for good and some people are supposed to get better and improve with time and these are teh persons are those that are tried the most, just like a top class DJ who gets rejected the most times.

and regarding the sharing wtih ur girl, i can say one thing, u need to and i repeat once again, NEED to show ur emotional side or vulnerable side at times to ur woman. it strengthens the bond between u two, it reverses the roles of u two. but only let it out in such amount that she needs to feel special that since she is the ONE u r letting it out to her, and she is hearing it from her MAN, not a WUSSY BOY. well, this was not only for ur special one, i think even when u r gaming other women, showing slight vulnerability on ur part actually strengthens the connection between u two very quickly.

 

[sosilky]

Sometimes I make the same mistakes over and over again meaning in life not just relationships. How do i break that pattern?

Plus commenting on Kontrollers post : At what point are you doing to much outside of her? Won't she start to drift away? seek attention somewhere else? This happens allot with men that are workaholics. How can you keep tabs her then? by the way what do you guys think of this? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143005

 

[Mavrick]

Sometimes I make the same mistakes over and over again meaning in life not just relationships. How do i break that pattern?

Plus commenting on Kontrollers post : At what point are you doing to much outside of her? Won't she start to drift away? seek attention somewhere else? This happens allot with men that are workaholics. How can you keep tabs her then? by the way what do you guys think of this? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143005

Nah, when you give her time to think about you, that's just what she'll do. Girls want what they can't have so easily. They know they can find someone else, but when you're not so available, you're the one they want.

 

[DonGorgon]

When I have the world by the balls i can care less about what women I have on my arm. When I'm down I do want someone there with me. This is obviously a sign of episodes of neediness or validation threw women. well everybody needs support sometimes. Sometimes I make mistakes repeatedly and get down on myself. Well how does one have the world by the balls 24 hours a die for ever? Possibly I am getting in my own way? in fact thats probably it. how do i break that pattern? any comments?

Yeh simple... powerful men dont need to worry about where their next layis coming from cause it s easy , women flock to them... BUT broke depressed week men are not attractive to women so they tend to be worrysome and needy.

 

[sosilky]

Yeh simple... powerful men dont need to worry about where their next layis coming from cause it s easy , women flock to them... BUT broke depressed week men are not attractive to women so they tend to be worrysome and needy.

thanx captain obvious

 

[DavenJuan]

originally posted by kontrollerxMarriage and committment are not at all necessary to have a happy and fulfilling life and plus to do so you are just setting yourself up to lose half of your lifetime earnings anyway with a messy divorce.

lol.. nice way to look at it lol

 

[DonGorgon]

thanx captain obvious

You started this typical BETA male thread ... not me...LOL

 

[sosilky]

moving along.

 

[schttrj]

stop out-alphaing each other!

 

[sosilky]

stop out-alphaing each other!

thats why i said moving along realy don't want the thread to go that way.