"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ever have a girl call you perfect? Look at this fb chat.

narcissist

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I was talking to this girl who is in a lot of my classes. She's like a 7/10. Nothing like amazing. But she's not anywhere close to bad looking.

Look what she says. This isn't good for my ego. I think she knows my weak spot. It's like music to my narcissistic ears reading this.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've never been called perfect, and I'm far from it. Of course, I've never been in a Facebook chat either. You're living the life, Narcissist!
 

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I've been called perfect by a hot girl. She lived in another country and was no doubt saying this to numerous other men she met on her travels around the world.
 

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The faster a train rides the tracks, the sooner it will derail. Becoming overly attached early on and thinking in terms of "perfection" and "idealization" i.e. Black and white thinking, is actually a huge red flag for an emotionally unstable/BPD woman. Just warning you OP.
 

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I'd stay away from her. The way she worded it, used caps for no reason, and added irrelevant smileys all comes off as fake and insincere.

From what you said about her looks, I'm gathering she's likely one of the phony manipulator types. The ones who entertain any and all male attention out of insecurity, even going as far as faking interest/affection. You have to wonder how many other guys she's doing this to.

Another obvious red flag she'll likely do if she hasn't already is cry to you about previous relationships. How there's just no good men out there, how her past relationship all failed because the men were terrible, how she loves you and only you even though she barely knows you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lmao.

My god, you guys are ruthless, you can't be getting laid anymore.

Everything is some kind of trick, ploy, or a red flag to you all, it's hilarious. Lol.

Someone could post: We've been together 4 yrs. And my girl just told me 'I love you.'

And you'd guys would be like: Dump her, her saying I love you shows her getting attached and is a major red flag. Be wary.

Anyway Op, I have also received compliments as such. It usually happens when your social circle value is extremely high and the compliment is coming from a chick in the circle.

I'm willing to bet this is a social circle plate, no?

Anyway, she perceives your value wayyy above hers, and that's good. Maybe not so much for your Narcissism though lol.
 

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Go by what she does.. by her actions.. not by what she says..
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Lmao.

My god, you guys are ruthless, you can't be getting laid anymore.

Everything is some kind of trick, ploy, or a red flag to you all, it's hilarious. Lol.

Someone could post: We've been together 4 yrs. And my girl just told me 'I love you.'

And you'd guys would be like: Dump her, her saying I love you shows her getting attached and is a major red flag. Be wary.
My thoughts while reading the responses.

OP she's just hitting on you.

Girl texts me: you're a great guy

I respond: you're not bad yourself

She sends: no really you're a great guy

I fcuked her 4days after.

The translation of your text is:

You are perfect. You make my panties wet without doing anything. I'm curious to what would happen when you actually touch me.

Stop over analyzing sheet. Start thinking how to get in that pussie.

If you're not texting to fcuk, you shouldn't be texting at all.
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Lmao.

My god, you guys are ruthless, you can't be getting laid anymore.

Everything is some kind of trick, ploy, or a red flag to you all, it's hilarious. Lol.

Someone could post: We've been together 4 yrs. And my girl just told me 'I love you.'

And you'd guys would be like: Dump her, her saying I love you shows her getting attached and is a major red flag. Be wary.

Anyway Op, I have also received compliments as such. It usually happens when your social circle value is extremely high and the compliment is coming from a chick in the circle.

I'm willing to bet this is a social circle plate, no?

Anyway, she perceives your value wayyy above hers, and that's good. Maybe not so much for your Narcissism though lol.
"I hope it feels so good to be right. There is nothing more exhilarating than pointing out the shortcomings of others."

Maybe we have our opinions from firsthand experience, and have dealt with women like this before. People are weary of what she said to the OP because it's very much like manipulation tactics most of us have fallen victim to. But no, A MODERN AMERICAN WOMAN ON FACEBOOK openly says she values a classmate more than herself, not suspicious at all.

The girlfriend of four years example, come the fvck on now. No one on this forum thinks that way. Only a few people truly think all women are evil. Most of us know there are good ones out there but are just hard to find.

But no we're all being too cynical, and of course we never get laid, or have any contact with women. Meanwhile you're so much better than us, and know every trick in the book. You're so smooth that woman are overly forward the first time you meet them, they say how they love you and how you're different than the other guys, and you get to fvck them that day. Of course all of that isn't at all a BPD trait or something she has done with other guys. It was all you being smoother than James Bond.

OP be sure to listen to this man. The next time you go to a bar or somewhere where a group of women are searching for d**k, ignore every red flag. Embrace her overly forward and sexual approach, listen to and believe the horror stories of previous relationships, give her sympathy when she tells you about all of the bad relationships with family/friends, and be sure to take what she says about you (a stranger to her) being different and great to heart. Be sure to get advice from her "best friends" she met two days before who know all kinds of personal things about her. You're just being a DJ. The fact that there's no boyfriend is the triple trifecta of your good luck. Fvck intuition, warnings, or indicators of a crazy. You have to remember pump n dump is the philosophy here.

Rock on.
 

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It means make sure she swallows & you dispose of your rubbers properly as she may later use your *** to impregnate herself and begin breeding her idea of a master race.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She is interested and it won't require any game if you are interested in her.

But as a side note if you are affected by other people actions either the negative ones like rejections, criticism, devaluing...etc, or positive ones like compliments, valuing you high...etc. Then your ego is too weak/fragile and anyone with a natural seductive/manipulative side can manipulate you and affect your life badly because you are attached and needy for validation and outcome dependent.

It may be that you have a real narcissistic nature/character but a narcissist is always feeding on negativity most of the time by either manipulating or hurting others somehow.

I've had some friends/girls with narcissistic personalities but I have a natural way to see trough their mind games and manipulation. they may seem happy and outgoing/charming but deep inside they are simply a sad, insecure, negative feeder person. Just some things to consider.
 

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Yeah all good, you've got this one. Just take her already.

But it's kinda interesting, scientifically. She's giving you AFC compliments, and you are looking for validation. It's exactly the 180° opposite from the classic situation :)
 

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Well either she really likes you or she is messing with you brutally.


Only 1 way to find out. Do you what you gotta do.
 

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BPD. I hope she has access to birth control considering what you're going to do to her in the upcoming weeks
 

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Do what you want to do. If she ends up trying to abuse you then never talk to her ever again. It didn't seem like she was trying to abuse you, at least to me anyway. Maybe she is trying a different approach to show interest.

Do what you want to do. Let it feed your ego tk boost your confidence, but don't let your ego get in the way of anything
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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