"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ever had a girlfriend with all the AFC qualities?

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I know I have, a few times, and all this shyt works the same for guys as it does for girls

AKA

despite the girl being nice, sweet, loving and ect, she was also supplicating too much, calling too much, getting boring, and too predicable. And in those instances, i started to act like the bytch who wouldnt give the love back because i had simply started to lose interest.

AFC guys, relate to this if u can and that should help u kill off ur AFC'ness next time ur in a relationship - just think back to how u didnt like the last girl acting too AFC to u and how it made u feel - and THAT is how YOU make a girl feel when YOU act like an AFC in the relationship.

anyone relate?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sup Skip :)

To add to your point, it is also interesting to notice that when a girl stops acting like an AFC and all of a sudden starts doing her own thing, your interest level will go up... i.e. If she cancels on you and says "Oh I promised I would go over my girlfriends friends house, he is having a party" and this is on a friday night (weekend)... Your ego gonna hurt, your interest is going to go back up and your going to be wondering what the hell happend...
 

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No, chumps are males, by definition, what you describe is completely different.
 

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EXACTLY, so in a way, men are also emotionally driven because we will analyze the **** out of a girl's actions if we are REALLY interested....girls will do the same, so yet another reason to not act AFC and give girls wat they want - it will keep them interested
 
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Why is a married man or one that is take so attractive.... well look up the posts plenty of answers on that and at this point u should know that...

hence, you should not throw all your eggs into one basket and get as much on the side as you can, so that you will not act like an AFC and have the attractive traits of a "taken man"

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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skip2mylou781 said:
EXACTLY, so in a way, men are also emotionally driven because we will analyze the **** out of a girl's actions if we are REALLY interested....girls will do the same, so yet another reason to not act AFC and give girls wat they want - it will keep them interested

I am not emotionally driven and I don't over analyze a girls actions. I take them at face value and then I make the next move.

I have a new saying, don't give women what the want, give them what they desire. In otherwords, most women think that they want a nice guy who does what they tell them to and gives them flowers etc..., an AFC basically. But we know that doesn't work. So be a man, take charge, make decisions and lead her to passion, because that is what she desires, yet may not recognize it until it hits her. As much as the media, hollywood and society wants men to be bumbling fools who are played, we know that type of behavior doesn't get us anywhere, follow the dj program and she will become emotional with desire.
 

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I agree with you skip, this sh*t works both ways and that's what I've been trying to say. The person cares least in a relationship always control the relationship which causes the other person to go AFCish. It happens alot, trust me.
 

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and i trust u on that indeed....its too bad cuz 50 yuears ago, both sexes cared about relationships equally and thats why **** worked out so well, czu the man was the man and the woman was the woman....but now, if u feel urself falling in love, u actually need to start playing ****IN GAMES in order to keep ur relationship strong...its messed up, but thats how it goes....at least in america
 
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