Ever had a chick tell you she has a boyfriend after..

[Naughty Ninja]

Looking to see what others thoughts on this are.

Have you ever been talking to a chick for a while and never heard her mention a boyfriend then all of a sudden just happens to drop boyfriend in the middle of a conversation out of the blue when you aren't talking anything about relationships?

I'm talking about you've been talking (nothing serious) got her number, never hung out as you've been busy, asked by her friend in front of her are you single and why.

Then a few eeks later she sees you with your sister (or friend) and later on in a random conversation soon after drops "boyfriend" on purpose?

Would you take it as she (though most likely true she has a boyfriend by then) is looking to "get back at you" for never hanging out, seeing you with another chick she doesn't know?

Just curious on opinions. To be honest the more I talked to the chick and heard constant pot use, drinking on weekends it turned me off.

Just wondering on a different topic of chicks dropping boyfriend not up front but as a possible jealousy or "go fvck yourself" card.

 

[jester1x]

Did you let this woman explicitly know you wanted to date her or did you befriend her with the intent of dating her? If it's the former then she isn't interested in more than a friendship with you. If it's the latter then another friend probably got "upgraded" during the time you were talking to her.

I think you waited too long to pull the trigger. If she knows you want to date her then she has to make a choice. She was probably unsure of you and chose the guy who didn't hesitate.

I recently told a female friend I wanted to date her not be her friend. We still talk though but no date yet. But, she can never claim ignorance of my intentions toward her. She knows exactly what I"m looking for with her if she decides to step out with me. I'll admit I'm an option for her but an option that has a good rapport with her too. Familiarity can be a good thing with women. Don't be in her face all of the time but just close enough if that makes sense.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

Did you let this woman explicitly know you wanted to date her or did you befriend her with the intent of dating her? If it's the former then she isn't interested in more than a friendship with you. If it's the latter then another friend probably got "upgraded" during the time you were talking to her.

I think you waited too long to pull the trigger. If she knows you want to date her then she has to make a choice. She was probably unsure of you and chose the guy who didn't hesitate.

I recently told a female friend I wanted to date her not be her friend. We still talk though but no date yet. But, she can never claim ignorance of my intentions toward her. She knows exactly what I"m looking for with her if she decides to step out with me. I'll admit I'm an option for her but an option that has a good rapport with her too. Familiarity can be a good thing with women. Don't be in her face all of the time but just close enough if that makes sense.

No. In all honesty we were supposed to hang out a while ago but I got busy with sh1t and whenever I talked she mentioned smoking it up on weekends, getting drunk, or some testing message about drugs in her area. I kept it cordial but even though she's pretty hot that sh1t turned me off.

Just wondering for the sake of conversation as it came out of the "blue" from her the other night in a conversation not mentioning anything other than why I was out for a while.

Almost got the feeling she purposely threw it out there to see how I'd react. She'd seen me earlier with my sister and doesn't know her also since I haven't been around.

Just thinking some chicks may purposely throw the boyfriend out there as kindof a "fvck you" later on "out of the blue" in direct conversation that has nothing to do with relationships. Wondering if any other dudes got a feeling that a chick you've been talking to have had that dropped later down the line to possibly see how you react or as a screw you jab.

 

[jester1x]

She probably thought your disappearing act was another woman...your sister.

On a side note, my friend has never stated that she has a boyfriend or that she is seeing someone in our conversations or in texts. I definitely would have dropped her had I heard any mention of another guy. Don't want to be the emotional tampon. I stated I would drop her early on in our conversations too. She keeps coming back around for some odd reason. Anyways...

 

[Naughty Ninja]

She probably thought your disappearing act was another woman...your sister.

On a side note, my friend has never stated that she has a boyfriend or that she is seeing someone in our conversations or in texts. I definitely would have dropped her had I heard any mention of another guy. Don't want to be the emotional tampon. I stated I would drop her early on in our conversations too. She keeps coming back around for some odd reason. Anyways...

I wouldn't doubt that's what she possibly thought. I don't doubt she has a boyfriend either now but I'm thinking she dropped the boyfriend in conversation as a subtle jab at me later on that night.

Also curious to see of other posters opinions or if anyone else ever got the boyfriend dropped out of the blue after a while and thought it wasn't necessarily because she never liked you but a possible subconcious "get back" etc.

 

[bigneil]

I dated a girl for 6 months who, although she had one, never said the word boyfriend until she was just about to dump me. Then she suddenly started using the word boyfriend in every sentence. Bad sign.

 

[switch]

I talked she mentioned smoking it up on weekends, getting drunk, or some testing message about drugs in her area.

probably the chick is into drugs or smoking at the least...next her
a drug junkie is a deep red flag
smoking is a red flag, go for healthy chicks
also that BF line thing means : hey dude i got a BF don't you dare come near me

ive been there seen it, in the past, lots of girls used that line with me, i know what it means :woo:

 

[jw_07]

If she saw you with another girl, (your friend, your sister, whatever) she doesn't really care what the truth is she will just come to her own conclusions. She certainly won't ask you about it thats just the way it is!

I think the odds are more in favor that she doesn't have a boyfriend and she was just trying to bust your b*lls after seeing you with the other girl.

I agree with Switch (go for healthy chicks) But if the drinking and smoking doesn't bother you then spend a little time with her and see what happens. Just a little time. Treat her more like a friend and see how she responds. Give it a time limit and if she doesn't come around move on. Don't waste time!

 

[Poonani Maker]

I'd just fvck her, not relationship mat. Just when she says, "I have a boyfriend" your Immediate response should have been, "Oh!, that was my sister!...I was with (that day)...you misunderstood..." Put Words into her mouth, establish the frame. If she objects, just still run roughshod over her words to you cause most women's words are meaningless, you can play with them to the hilt and not give a sh!t about the repercussions of damaging your chance with her cause, like you said, she smokes, you don't like that, therefore she's only a fvck her once and leave her material, but get in your pleasure, nail her and leave if she wants. Ones that fvck with you deserve to be fvcked if the opportunity arises the more she stays around you.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

If she saw you with another girl, (your friend, your sister, whatever) she doesn't really care what the truth is she will just come to her own conclusions. She certainly won't ask you about it thats just the way it is!

I think the odds are more in favor that she doesn't have a boyfriend and she was just trying to bust your b*lls after seeing you with the other girl.

I agree with Switch (go for healthy chicks) But if the drinking and smoking doesn't bother you then spend a little time with her and see what happens. Just a little time. Treat her more like a friend and see how she responds. Give it a time limit and if she doesn't come around move on. Don't waste time!

1) I've known her for about 6 months through work only.

2) I've gotten her number three months ago but never persued her. (Texted quick about something and never called nor texted her since. It was about a place she lives near.) She never initiated texts to me either.

3) I don't and haven't run after her nor ever come across as needy.

4) She was near me one day when her married friend I'm also friends with from work asked me if I was single (in front of her) and why? To which I said I like my freedom. (She responded something to the effect of oh well though can't remember what she said..)

5) I would catch her numerous times looking in my direction at work and if she saw me catch her would smile and wave.

6) She's said a few times "Oh he's so bad" in front of me when referring to me.

7) The other day I know for a fact she saw my sister next to me talking to two girls who work in the store while I was working.

8) I hadn't been in there for a little over a week. When I passed by and said Hey to her and she asked: "Hey. Where've you been?" I said out for a pinched nerve. She said: "Oh my boyfriend slipped a disk". Just seemingly after NEVER in the time I've known her ever mention a boyfriend till that night. (I'm sure she has one but I just thought it was odd to drop boyfriend all of a sudden when I was making conversation about myself and not trying to 'pick her up.')



Now I'm trying to clarify the situation in detail but not obsess over it. Though the chick is pretty hot previously whenever we talked about what we did over the weekend for the past few months in passing she never mentioned a boyfriend ONCE or at all at any time for that matter. Though she DID mention getting drunk a few times on weekends, and to smoking weed pretty often (hints of that and Oh there are a lot of drugs in my neighborhood) as well as smoking weed at times before she came into work which in all honesty turned me completely off to her though I didn't show it at all.



Now being it's not like I went up to a random chick or have been trying to "game" her I was just wondering if other dudes opinions if they've ever felt a chick just drop the boyfriend word out of the blue on them after a while and not up front almost as like a jab at you for either not asking them out previously. Possibly almost like either: "You blew it you never hung out with me. Screw you have a nice day. I'm wanted by someone."


Though who knows it could also be she felt I'd liked her as well and dropped the boyfriend out of the blue as repellant.

To which it doesn't matter to me as I wouldn't waste my time with a weed head regardless.


Just asked the question as a different topic to chicks who say they have a boyfriend...but never say it upfront...just drop "boyfriend" in a random conversation after you've talked with them a while.

 

[Renegade357]

I've had this happen to me many times. Including last night. I'll go out to a bar or a party and talk to a girl for like 30 minutes getting every buying signal in the book. I'll get touching, eye contact, personal questions, animated conversation. They'll make no mention of the boyfriend until I'm about to ask them for the number.

Before I ask for the number though I'll ask straight up "Sooo, are you seeing anyone?" That's when I find out about the boyfriend.

I used to just ask for the number before asking about the boyfriend. I stopped doing because it either ends one of two ways. You get the number and they give you the run around. Orrrr they'll just come clean and not give you the number and tell you they have a boyfriend. Asking them straight up if they are seeing someone first at least saves time and isn't as bad of a rejection. Not that I care about rejection anymore.

If they don't have a boyfriend and I get the same signals I'll always get the number. My policy is and always will be that if there is a boyfriend it's a complete waste of time.

 

[Scars]

No, but I slept with a girl once then got a call from her boyfriend asking me if I had sex with X. Luckily the guy was cool about it, he knew I had no idea she had a boyfriend and he saw it as "her bad". He then dumped her immediately. We became friends for awhile after that but lost touch.

Scandalous.

-Scars

 

[jw_07]

Just my opinion

In my opinion it would lean more toward jealousy then the "go fvck yourself" card!

 

[Naughty Ninja]

In my opinion it would lean more toward jealousy then the "go fvck yourself" card!

I hear you. I don't think she lied at all about her having a boyfriend (most likely he was the friend she always mentioned in passing conversation) though and I don't think for one second I was her first choice (I keep it as real as I can and ego in check). I think she was seeing the guy and keeping me on as a "possible" while never contacting me at all even though she gave me her number and seeing as I never chased her, caleed texted her except for once about a spot where she lives..yet she saw me with my sister thinking it was some other chick just did the "one up now boyfriend mention" when I passed by as an on the spot attempt to seem "above" me. (Not that she would've wanted me instead).

What I found odd was all of a sudden in random conversation about being out from work due to a back issue she mentions her "boyfriend" had a back issue all of a sudden after a few months.

I'd fully admit she was hot and seemed cool but her talking about weed smoking at many times turned me off to pursing her.