"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ever beat a speeding ticket?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
penkitten
Master Don Juan
no one can advise you to lie and purger yourself in court.
pay the ticket and stop being a speed demon.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm totally addicted to adrenalin.
I need help.
But it's oh so good.
If you're not going to lose your license don't worry about it.
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if you don't want to take that risk, just get a hearing and it will be lowered.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
No, no, no.
The idea is to avoid the points that will drive your insurance up.
Mctwist4 and Latinoman have the right idea.
In my city the officers rarely show up for routine tickets (speeding, rolling stop, etc.) because they have bigger fish to fry.
When they did show up I've played it as Latinoman suggested, and either got a dismissal, paying "court costs," or a reduction to a zero point violation. Saved the insurance increase, kept my record clean and the city still got their $$, which is what they really care about.
Again, the idea is to avoid or minimize the points. Those are the gift that keeps on taking.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
Find a lawyer, pay him, let him handle the case. You will have to show to court (or maybe not, depending what lawyer tells you)...
In the end, you will either
A) Pay a smaller fee, but no points. (VERY IMPORTANT)
or
B) Officer does not show up and you win the case. (VERY LIKELY)
Do not pay the fee, do not go to traffic school. There is a limited number of traffic schools you can take in your life time in that state. There is a specific number of points, which you exceed, you loose driving previledge. Yes, points do not go away, they are yours to keep for life in that state.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
For the record, this is horrible advice. For one, the lawyer will end up costing more than just paying the fee.Stuntmann said:
Second, there's only one kind of person that legitimately needs to worry about accumulating so many points that you lose your license; someone who has no business being on the road and putting others' lives in danger anyway.
Most states wipe away "points" in as little as 3 years. A responsible driver who obeys speeding limits has nothing to worry about.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
exactly!azanon said:
one speeding ticket in a lifetime won't make your insurance go up, or make enough points whereas a license will be taken away.
azanon said:
A false statement, and a true statement.
Points do not get wiped away. It's not true. It only appears that way if you had 1 point 3 years ago, and a new violation requires that you had 0 points within last 2 years. Then they appear wiped away.
Points do not get wiped away. They accumulate throughout your life time. Eventually, if you get enough points, you will loose your driving privilege in that state.
True. Paying for lawyer is costly. But IMO it's well worth the money. Because you won't get any points.
Further more. Points make your insurance go up. Thus you not saving by paying less and getting points. Let's say your ticket is $300. You pay lawyer $250. Then if you make deal with ADA you pay $150 and no points. But you also get a chance, and a very good one at that, that officer does not show up, then you win. No further fees. Thus maximum you can pay is a little more than what it cost you to pay the fine and get points, or you pay much less if officer does not show up. Even in worst case scenario you easily save money by paying less on insurance.
Arbitrarily low, illegitimate speed limits have nothing to do with responsible driving. Most speed limits are posted illegally, and you can use that fact to your advantage in court if you argue it right.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.