even this has me.. What's a DJ to do?

[christz]

so long story short known a girl for a while, and I want to take things to the next level, things have been progressing very well but I committed a DJ sin and I didn't act and capitalize when I should have after she booted her ex Boyfriend out of her house.

we really started to become closer after that moment talking on a regular basis and what not, only I never showed enough interest because I was always busy with things I had going or going on with friends, seldom did we hang out probably more mutual than anything but we talked like I said on a regular basis. regardless, because of my inaction she's ended up talking to a total clown in which day in and day out I hear about how he's a drunk, goes through her private stuff looking for crap, looks through her cell phone which she now has to keep locked in her own home, how he's horrible in bed the list goes on..

now I was all for backing out, only she basically pleaded with me to not back away, and now things have gotten even more confusing considering at random points in time she will invite me over WHILE the guy she's talking to is there.. Saturday I hung out with her he called her 14 times, yelling at her about me in a drunken rage, I also should note while I'm at the house we normally disappear to be alone at one point we did it for almost an hour and this dude just took it, more or less when I'm around her this dude is just a figure nobody really pays attention to. he even got pissed when she offered to get me a drinks from the fridge, when he asks all she says it get it urself.

so my dilemma is wtf should a guy do? do I keep on gamein her or do I just drop back and let this dude pull himself apart with his jealousy against me because in my knowledge I only know how to prevent them from sealing the deal which I have I can't seem to close on this one though and wondered if anybody has a suggestion

 

[Charm]

All you have to do get her alone and hang out with her. Take it from there and quit worrying about the other stuff. If you cant get her to hang out with you alone ,you have no chance.

 

[christz]

All you have to do get her alone and hang out with her. Take it from there and quit worrying about the other stuff. If you cant get her to hang out with you alone ,you have no chance.

see i've thought that for the longest time.. and that's the hump i'm trying to get over she's all about hanging out and gettin close when somebody is there but when i plan it just me and her.. she flakes ughh

one night i had her sitting with me with a blanket while her guy was sitting in the back of the bus clear on the other side of the couch.. i mean ouch.. but even with this crap going on she still flakes when i want it to be just me and her.. and when i bail or back out she basiclly crys.. i don't get it no other guy has it like that.. and dudes on a regular basis blow her phone up

 

[Mr.Positive]

I would say back off until she gets her sh!t figured out. She sounds a little too messed up right now.

Life is good, and there's plenty of chicks that have less drama..

 

[ds1ur1f]

Im no expert, but id give her the ultimatum if i was in your shoes. Sounds like shes trying to make the other guy jealous. Most guys wouldve had a problem with that and wouldve done something, but if hes just taking it then theres something wrong or hes a big pvssy.

 

[Charm]

Im no expert, but id give her the ultimatum if i was in your shoes. Sounds like shes trying to make the other guy jealous. Most guys wouldve had a problem with that and wouldve done something, but if hes just taking it then theres something wrong or hes a big pvssy.

Ultimatums in this case are probably not going to have any effect on here. I dont recommend that at all.

 

[christz]

I would say back off until she gets her sh!t figured out. She sounds a little too messed up right now.

Life is good, and there's plenty of chicks that have less drama..

Trust me this has also crossed my mind many times espeiclly today, when the oppertunity came where it was me and her.. and she bailed on me, It doesn't bother me cuz if i really wanted to hang out, i'd include somebody else and she'll be game for it.

Ultimatums in this case are probably not going to have any effect on here. I dont recommend that at all.

I know they are, i'm not an idiot but good looking out, you got any other suggestions because the one i'm about to choose could possibly hurt her and that's not something i wanna do, but something i gotta do cuz i need to step back and just not talk to her for a few weeks. Regain my composure and get sappy blinding emotions outta the way.

 

[christz]

i also wanna add, yes i have already F-closed this chick before but that was in the past, and yes me and her still keep it very sexual and when i'm around she is the one initateing the kino (leg touching/rubbing, hit on the arm, little pushes)

hell one night at the bar, i was messing around with her while her dude was sitting three bar stools down from us once again not saying Sh!T and being all back of the bus.