Even my friend said Im too nice

[slitherjef]

Was chatting on the phone with my buddy for a bit the other night. A couple weeks ago the truth came out that I wanted to bang his sister, he suspected I did anyway, and when this was let out, his girlfriend was in the car too. Her response was, "you want to bang his sister?" I said, "yeah, why not!?" and let it go. I never made a move around his sister because one, well, its my friends sister and two, she was with some assh0le (an old buddy of mine) and three, Im an shy AFC anyway Well, anyway, she had a kid, dumped that a-hole she was with (the kids father) got with another guy, that lasted a bit and she kicked him to the curb and now she is with her brothers friend. She was preggo again but I guess lost this kid. So, she is with another assh0le getting treated like crap.

Anyway, while I was chatting with my bud last night, he was catching up with talk, shooting the breeze. He got to talking about his sis (always does) and I am not quite sure what lead up to him saying, basicly the following: "Not you bud, she would not be into you, you're too nice"

Probably true. And I probably should not be bothering with his sister anyway, although its not like I would want to date her, just have a fun romp with her.

I guess this is a wake up call. Does shyness = niceness?

 

[BadsnakeUK]

Shyness = AFCness. Its a lack of confidence, which is not masculine.

More importantly, why tthe hell are you interested in a single mother that gets through men at a considerable rate of knots, obviously has some serious emotional hang ups and obviously isn't too careful about having safe sex.

Regardless of what you say about just having a romp, this just sounds like one-itis/captain save-a-ho at its worst. Read the DJ Bible if you haven't already and start setting your sights a LOT higher.

 

[slitherjef]

Shyness = AFCness. Its a lack of confidence, which is not masculine.

More importantly, why tthe hell are you interested in a single mother that gets through men at a considerable rate of knots, obviously has some serious emotional hang ups and obviously isn't too careful about having safe sex.

Regardless of what you say about just having a romp, this just sounds like one-itis/captain save-a-ho at its worst. Read the DJ Bible if you haven't already and start setting your sights a LOT higher.

Her first kid was from a LTR, she was with the guy for years. No matter, you are right. I should not worry about this chick. She drinks too much anyway

I have actualy started to get a bit better about my shyness. I.E., not looking down at the floor when I talk to a chick and now look at them in the face and eyes. Could not do this a year ago

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Yes, stay away from her.

 

[Quiksilver]

You aren't projecting your sexual interest.

This leads them to believe that you're afraid to take a chance/risk.

It has no bearing on being "nice", that's just a common misconception.

Do you want to get with her? Then let her know clearly.. chicks play head games and aren't clear, men are.