ethnicity?

[nubian-knight]

im a mix of egyptian/italian and i find that theres enough stupid hgirls out there who say things like "i only date white guys" or "black guys", which leaves alot other races excluded

pretty unfair since my qualities should be taken into consdieration as oppose to where my parent sare from

anyone else deal with a situation suimilar to this?>

 

[everywomanshero]

Yea everyone runs into racist women. If I were a betting man, I would say women are far more racist than men when it comes to dating. There's nothing you can do about it. If they give you that joke with them about it. Say "my dad is white!" if you're black. Vice Versa if you're white. Sometimes that gets you past the initial shyt test.

 

[S1NN3R]

You know, for looking so white, I get this surprizingly often. I'm half Irish/half Italian. Plus I used to live in Brooklyn, which is a lot more racially charged than I would have guessed. I can't even count the number of girls who told me "Daddy won't let me date Italians". Ok, tell him I'm Sicilian. WTF's the problem here?

Once, I was flirting with this smokin hot Thai girl at a bar, smooth sailing, I had it in the bag. Until.... A friend came up and asked me to give an Irish toast. I did, then the girl asked if I was Irish and I said yes. Next thing out of her mouth, " I don't date Irish guys." What the hell is going on there? What did the Irish ever do to Thai people? I mean sure, if you're say, Protestant English and don't want to date an Irish guy, ok. But Thai?

I've since learned to avoid any racial/cultural/ethnic references in the courting scene. I wasn't singing it from the rooftops to begin with, but now I can duck it like a champ.

 

[nubian-knight]

You know, for looking so white, I get this surprizingly often. I'm half Irish/half Italian. Plus I used to live in Brooklyn, which is a lot more racially charged than I would have guessed. I can't even count the number of girls who told me "Daddy won't let me date Italians". Ok, tell him I'm Sicilian. WTF's the problem here?

Once, I was flirting with this smokin hot Thai girl at a bar, smooth sailing, I had it in the bag. Until.... A friend came up and asked me to give an Irish toast. I did, then the girl asked if I was Irish and I said yes. Next thing out of her mouth, " I don't date Irish guys." What the hell is going on there? What did the Irish ever do to Thai people? I mean sure, if you're say, Protestant English and don't want to date an Irish guy, ok. But Thai?

I've since learned to avoid any racial/cultural/ethnic references in the courting scene. I wasn't singing it from the rooftops to begin with, but now I can duck it like a champ.

LOL she specifically said she doesnt date irish? thats so random hahaa

 

[coolguy676767]

I hate to tell you guys, but in my personal experiences(I am white) that these girls say that as a sure-proof way to shut you down and end it quickly if they dont like you.

I have seen girls say oh they dont date black guys at school or something then I hear them talking about usher and how hot he is and wish they were with him, and then they flirt with other black guys and such or whatever race it happens to be.

To be honest I really think that a least 50% of the time a girl says that its just so she can get rid of you, although I do think there are some girls out there that are just straight up racist, or anti-racist(white girl only dating black guys)

 

[backbreaker]

dude... you are sooo in it's not even funny. Don't pay any attention to these women who are ovbiously uneducated (i.e dumb)

 

[Dee-Zy]

Try being Asian, to quote my friend


"When a girl goes out, to a club or bar, she's thinking of meeting a guy. That guy will either be black or white in her head. Asians, don't even exist in that world."

ok, so that's what I say, my friend actually says that when a girl goes out, she's thinking of hooking up with a white dude or depending on some chicks, a black dude. But there will never be a chick that goes out and tells her friend, I'm gonna make out with an asian tonight.



Not in North america anyways.


trust me, you don't have it nearly as bad.

 

[Abbott]

Quit whining. I'm sick and tired of people playing the race card.

Test, preference, or whatever, there's someone out there who likes you.

Everyone has their preferences. There are people who I'll never go out with, and people who'll never go out with me. Just accept it.


Ben

 

[Damian]

"Sorry, I only go out with *Blank*" or "Sorry, I don't date *Blank*s"

- "Yea, we're actually pretty alike. I don't date racists."

-Damian

 

[SamePendo]

Same **** as women wanting guys with certain education. Silly pussies.

Some women do take it seriously, but most don't. IF they do, take it seriously, well, next em.

 

[I love Hyori Lee]

My thoughts

Try being Asian, to quote my friend


"When a girl goes out, to a club or bar, she's thinking of meeting a guy. That guy will either be black or white in her head. Asians, don't even exist in that world."

ok, so that's what I say, my friend actually says that when a girl goes out, she's thinking of hooking up with a white dude or depending on some chicks, a black dude. But there will never be a chick that goes out and tells her friend, I'm gonna make out with an asian tonight.



Not in North america anyways.


trust me, you don't have it nearly as bad.

Wow...my first post.



I'm new to this site but I'm not new to the game.

I kind of agree with you and disagree with what you're saying. Lots of Asian men complain about being unable to have white girlfriends. Then, on the other hand, there are others who claim that they see Asian men with white girls all the time. I'll be as blunt as possible. In order to get a white girl, you have to be white. Most of the Asian guys I know that are with white girls don't have Asian friends. They're "white-washed". Amongst the Asian community and friends, they are called "bananas". Yellow on the outside, white on the inside. Yes, I know it sounds racist but there is a shred of truth to what I'm saying...Those Asian guys who are with white girls...don't act like your typical Asian guy. They act white. My friend made a joke about Asian men and white girls. When a white girl sees an Asian guy even hang out with one Asian guy...she looks at the Asian guy as an Asian guy. If the white girl sees the Asian guy in a group of white men with no Asian guys guys, she gradually starts to see the Asian guy as a white guy. Finally, I find it strange that every Asian guy that does manage to be with a white girl, goes for the white girls with blonde hair and blue eyes. They never go for the brunettes...which I prefer. But you don't need to worry too much. Asian women don't age as fast as white girls. Get a group of Asian women in thier 30's and get a group of white women in thier 30's. The Asian women look a lot more youthful.

 

[Le Parisien]

Ethnicity definitely plays some role in the dating scene.
But to be honest, there are NOT as many racists as some people tend to believe.

There's a difference between racism and personal preferences.
- Racism: "If you were a /fill the blank/ guy, I would date you.". In other words, you being the same you, with the same personality, same level of good(or bad ) looks. It's your ethnicity alone that makes her not want to date you.
- Personal preferences: let's say there's a certain feature that is pretty common within a certain ethnicity, and the girl simply happens to not like it. And you simply just happen to have it. It's life man, it's no one's fault. For example, a certain proportion of white guys are hairy, the Asian girls who grew up in Asia don't like hairy guys, "they are like monkeys", it's just the way it is. Another one, the average Asian guy is not very tall, I'm 5'9 myself. So if a girl who loves tall guys turns me down, am I gonna call her a racist? Of course not!

BUT...
Racism and personal preferences are NOT a clear cut thing: the personal preferences are largely a result of the society in which people live in, (thus of the racism that exists within the same society) , the instinctive part of the attraction is ONLY part of the equation.

- This is why Asian girls who grew up in western societies worry much less about the "hairy monkeys" than their native Asian counterparts.
- This is why nowadays in north America it's perceived as "cool" for "white girls" to sleep with "black guys". Some "cool" girls even actively look for it. We've all seen girls in the local club who ONLY grind with black guys, have we?
- This is why, Asian guys really have it the hardest in north America due to all the negative stereotyping while in western Europe they don't seem to have any noticeable disadvantage compared to the locals (who are all caucasians just like in north America). Being an Asian pretty boy myself, I experienced the differences first hand. The most "funny" part is that european girls who moved to America at a very young age would adopt the same kind of negative attitude towards Asian guys, while American girls who have lived in Europe (in France for Example) for many years won't think of Asians as the "short ugly nerds with a small d*ck" anymore...What a strange world huh?
- And so many other examples...

The bottom line is: this is just the way it is. If a girl doesn't like you, whether it's because of you, or your ethnicty, it's totally irrelevent. Stop wasting your time with her and find another girl who likes who you are.
Sure I understand the frustration, been there, done that. But hey it's life, no one said life was fair. So suck it up and keep on macking!

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To S1NN3R:
Sure the thai girl was maybe a racist, but how about youself? I just read your "nice" contribution to the "I can get anyone I want" troll thread by pirate, saying he's probably a fat ugly nerdy chinese boy who loves cheetos. I will assume that you hold no racist stereotypes against Asians huh...
Before blaming others, try to do a little check on yourself first...:yes:

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[S1NN3R]

I happen to be madly in love with nearly every Chinese girl I can find, followed closely by Thai and Japanese girls. My "fat Chinese boy" comment was just my colorful way of pointing out that I don't believe that Pirate is who he says he is. Anyone can be a fat, nerdy troll. No negative connotations were intended to be inferred from calling him Chinese. I apologize if it came off that way.

 

[Le Parisien]

I happen to be madly in love with nearly every Chinese girl I can find, followed closely by Thai and Japanese girls. My "fat Chinese boy" comment was just my colorful way of pointing out that I don't believe that Pirate is who he says he is. Anyone can be a fat, nerdy troll. No negative connotations were intended to be inferred from calling him Chinese. I apologize if it came off that way.

S1NN3R:
Sorry for wrongfully calling you a racist man...
:flowers:
Hope you like these flowers...

 

[S1NN3R]

No worries, mon ami. But come on, not even roses? Geez....

 

[theSpeculator]

Try being Asian, to quote my friend

Nothing wrong with being asian. Some asian got it some asian don't. nuff said.

 

[DJ Rook]

I understand

Listen man I am Lebaneese, Irish/American Indian. I am a huge mutt, but I totally use that to my advantage with the ladies, and you can too. First off you have to be proud of who you are, and where you come from.

If a girl says something stupid like "I only date ______"

just say

"Wow I didn't think you were the type to limit yourself like that. I just could never do that"

that line hits people hard. For multiple reasons. One it makes them look like they are selling themselves short, two it puts you ABOVE them, and three it shows how your opinion of them has dropped. You don't want the girl in the first place, and just walk away from them, but ALWAYS dish out that line.

here is another favorite of mine

"Wow I kind of thought of you as a more open minded person"

and if the chick is some real *****...

"I don't think your the kind of person who can be picky" ---If you say it with a slight chuckle it's a killer.

Listen man I am an ethnic guy and I get laid A LOT there are tons of girls that will be into you just get out more, have fun, and be proud of who you are, the ladies will take an interest.

And since we share some middle eastern decent here's a great one for jewish girls.

"Hey if you want ever want to get back at your parrents... Go out with me!" believe it or not that has worked a couple times.

 

[everywomanshero]

I think these Asian guys are full of excuses. I hear this say this **** on boards all the time. Yet, when they actually DRESS cool and wear their hair COOL and go act and act COOL I've seen vietmanese guys get APPROACHED by slender, black women.

IDK if there is some conflict with white women and Asian guys. If so, you'll simply have to approach more and get more game. That is the solution. If you're Asian, then approach 1000 woomen in the next 3 months. I will be shocked if you don't have many gfs.

Don't make excuses and don't bother to be polite. If you want to dance, grab her hand and pull her ass out there. Don't say anything about the ring on her finger. Don't bother being polite, she doesn't care.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

...says a guy who named himself after a computer game.

 

[Solomon79]

We don't have to resort to insults here. It's quite simply that many people prefer to date within their own race. Where the hell is the problem in that? It's nature's way.

Hell, you can't apply racial quotas to sexual relationships. If the girl doesn't go for guys of other races, you have no choice but to deal with it. Nobody said you had a born right to women of other races - and I'm sure the guys from the race you are stealing the chick from may also feel the same way. Not too pleased, to say the least!

Jeez, there are some real inferiority complexes showing up here. Anybody who doesn't find women of their OWN race attractive, needs to seriously take a look at themselves.