Ethics of PUA/DJ

[rain63]

I seem to have run into an interesting situation in my endeavors to become a DJ. I've been going out with friends, getting numbers and going on dates with girls and its all really been in the name of "practice."

My problem comes when a girl or two may think i'm a little more serious than i really am, considering that i've yet to meet any girls i am truly interested in, as i've come to look at almost everything as a game. I'd hate to be a jerk to these girls and say "well, you were just kind of an experiment, ttyl" especially if they're genuinely interested in me.

Does anyone have this problem? How do/did you deal with it? When/where would you draw a line of getting involved with someone you're not really all that into? I might be too much of a nice guy deep down, but i guess i cant really change that...

P.S. Sorry if i post lots of questions, i'm just a bit of a "sponge" and always like to learn new things

 

[slickaz]

well good question.
ive had a situation before where i was handling different girls through the week, i knew the girls were also not serious but we were just getting to know each other through dates etc.

They always wanted more, so i gave it to em, they knew that i was seeing other girls as i had made it clear.
One girl however one night at the beach, blurted out, i want to be your one n only chic, is that too much too soon?
i didnt know how to handle it, but i do know me, i dont like bs'ing..so i laid it to her, genuinely i liked her the most of the 3 girls i was seeing at the time.

Id let her know that i was interested in her, she did have my attention but im at a point in my life where i cant make serious decisions because of factors like work, travel for work, and having just gotten out of a very LTR. but i made sure she understood it didnt mean we couldnt see each other or i was just playin her..i genuinly just needed more time to get to know her better and viceversa..i dunno if that goes with what other DJs will say but it worked for me..she was comfortable with that and said as long as i dont play around with her feelings, i respected her and treated her right, she was happy..things didnt work out coz i moved cities however...she is happy now seeing another guy..im happy for her..

 

[COD]

A TACTIC KNOWN IS A TACTIC BLOWN........its on a need to know basis.

LESS IS MORE...............

 

[Microphone Fiend]

listen to slickaz imo. I got nothing against lying to get what you want, but managing relationship expectations will lead to less hassle in the long run. You'd be surprised how many women will stick around for a while if you are upfront with them...