Ether's Journal

[Ether]

As one of the younger members around here and someone who mostly lurks, I figured I could become a bigger part of the community around here while helping myself by making a journal of where I'm at. I want to keep myself on track, because a lot of times I lose focus and give into things I swear I wouldn't. I'll post when something significant happens, which could be anywhere from a few days to a week or two. So, here goes nothing.

Where I'm Going
-I want to become a more goal-oriented person.
-EDIT: I want to raise my social status and hang out with more popular girls.
-I want to be more athletic, I want to be the best.
-I want to get better grades and set up myself for a future in a medical career (psychiatry.)
-I want to get experience hooking up with girls, for the future.
-I want to get more confidence in meeting new people.
-I want to gain a new, interesting talent (I'm looking into boxing)
-I want to feel like I've been in a successful relationship and not regret it.
-I refuse to let my age hold me back from succeeding.

The Basics
-I go to a small school in a rural area.
-I'm 13, turning 14 in July, and I'm in 8th grade. (this limits me A LOT)
-I'm captain of our football team, soon-to-be captain of our track team.
-I'm known as a pretty smart kid in my grade.
-I'm currently going out with an HB8, as of yesterday.
-I'm bi-polar, which can be an issue, but I don't let it stop me.
-I do have a reputation as someone who is brutally honest (an *******), I'm not sure if that hurts me or not yet.
-Some people say I'm a player, but mostly the girls that are my good friends say that.
-I've been to second base a couple times and made-out with about 7 girls since the beginning of 07.
-Of the 5 or so girls I've asked, they've all said I'm an 8.5.
-I dress in mostly skater clothes, I'm progressing into a darker style for a change of pace. It's been working lately.
-I'm 5'11" and 174 pounds,
-I'm happy with my appearance, besides my acne, which I have prescriptions for.
-I'm a pretty good artist.
-I'm pretty well known, and I have good friends all around my school, but I still want to be more popular.

Here are some pictures of me (from my myspace)
http://i85.photobucket.com/albums/k51/OMGWTFRLY/GEDC0199.jpg
http://i85.photobucket.com/albums/k51/OMGWTFRLY/GEDC0198.jpg
http://i85.photobucket.com/albums/k51/OMGWTFRLY/GEDC0162.jpg

I don't have a lot of good pictures of me, but do you guys have any suggestions to what would help me come off as more attractive?

Seeing as I just got into a relationship yesterday, I'm pretty nervous about it. I've been dodging relationships since May, when I broke up with my girlfriend that I hung out with for 3 months. The girl, Sarah, is pretty prude. I gave her her first kiss last Friday, if that puts any perspective on it. I've wanted to date a girl exclusively for a while, just to avoid the drama I've been into (hooking up with Sarah's cousin, hooking up with her cousin's best friends.)

I have exams this week and then my classes are being changed, so more opportunities to hang out with some new girls. I'm going to start working out for track as well.

Anyways, do you guys have any tips for making a relationship enjoyable?

 

[navyseal2101]

your 13 and have had sex 7 times in the past year, i dont think you need to be on this website haha. Oh for a talent may I suggest MMA, its a very good cardio workout, so it will cut you up and give you a nicer body trust me, and as for more popular chicks, its all about getting into social circles, I started at the bottom with like hb5 booty calls to the hb9 im currently with (not offically tho, i think thats something you should put into consideration for yourself) in literally like a year. If your starting with middys (mid-range, heh) girls then you could hook up with hotter chicks in no-time.

 

[Erasmus]

Ether, generally 'hook up' means sex. If you've only been to second base, then I'd suggest using 'fooled around with' or something similar, which doesn't necessarily mean sex.

 

[navyseal2101]

he said second base AND hooked up

 

[GaryUranga]

nice dude, when I was 13 I still built stuff with my legos

 

[Erasmus]

I assumed that second base was the furthest he'd ever been. *shrugs* I'm sure he'll clarify soon enough .

 

[GaryUranga]

I just read my lego comment and decided I wasnt contributign enough to humanity.. so here goes mine

if you want to date popular girls, get popular, imo shes not going to be too interested if youre not more popular than her "cooler" than her, so yeah thats somthign you should work on

 

[Ether]

Well, I've only been to second base. For me, 'hooking up' meant up the shirt, making out, just fooling around like you said, so I'll fix that. I figured I needed a gauge to how 'successful' I am.

Something about the popular girls just turns me off. A lot of them seem stupid, immature, ugly, or some combination of the 3. I'd say I'm around their level, though, I hang out with the jocks. Because I date the middle-upper middle populary girls, I guess that screws me over. I'd take the girl I'm with right now over most of the popular girls except maybe 3 or 4 girls. The new classes and my opportunity to shine in track season coming up again will probably move me up the line, maybe I'll think differently about them then, who knows.

And I know I'm probably overdoing things for my age, but I'd rather take advantange of what I can do right now to set up for later. I don't want to be at the alter on my wedding day saying, 'Damn, I could've done better if I got experience when I was in 8th grade.'

 

[.smooth.]

I too was looking WAY forward and thinking I may end up with regrets...

Just do what you feel is right!
Get yourself pumped and enjoy life! Get your goals set up, and use a daytimer!
Scheduling stuff in will really help you accomplish your stuff.
Helps with grades, Helps with activities, helps work on your punctuality!
As for the "popular" girls, at my school, theres a group, about 7 or 8 of them, that all hang out together, they seemed popular to me becuase they were a group of fairly hot girls! They cared about there appearance and looked a tinge slutty.
Now, they all have old boy friends (18-20's) and now, non of the guys even try for them!
I remember in grade 8, I made out with two of them, got my fingers wet etc, and it was a good time, though I will never enjoy there company beyond sexually!

They are simply, VERY unattractive on a personal level!
These girls have lowered themselves to be worth nothing more then a fvck, and so, they will be excellent practice.
They will be found at parties looking for a good time from you!

 

[Kmart1208]

lol u look pretty old for 13.

 

[Erasmus]

Don't worry about being too forward thinking. I'm only 21, and I'm kicking myself in the shins for not realizing this stuff back then. The earlier you realize that what you get from life is a direct result of what you put in, the better off you'll be. Hell, Edison (I think... I may be getting my anecdotes mixed up here) was producing a fvcking newspaper by the time he was your age! Me? I was a useless pile of crap at your age. Go for everything you want, all the time, for the rest of your life -- there's really no reason not to.

 

[Ether]

So, I think I've found a flaw in my game.

I think I have my look, my game, and my mindset up pretty good. I really don't have a problem 'getting the girl.' Once I've got her, it's like 'Now what?'

Right now, I'm in a sort of 'neutral-zone' between going out with the girl from before and dumping her. The relationship just isn't feeling right and she really doesn't act like a girlfriend at all. It's a pain to cut her off, because she's a pretty sweet chick, but it's what I have to do.

So, I'm not sure if I can really work with relationships. I can get girls attracted pretty easy and asked them out and kiss and that crap, and then I feel like I just hit a barrier after a couple days.

Can anybody relate or reccomend me something to read?

EDIT: We're over, so I'm back into the game. The break was good, I guess, but I'm glad.

 

[Ether]

My school Valentine's dance is today, I'll edit when I come back.

I've had 5 girls ask if they could dance with me, I might dance with 3 of them and hang with other girls. I'm going to the dance so I can chill with my friends, getting girls is just something for the side today. Anyways, wish me luck, I've gotta go shower and get ready.

EDIT:

I grinded with 9 girls, which were the girls that I wanted to dance with, but one slipped away from me at the end. When she was dancing with nobody, I was occupied and the one time I got out, she was dancing. So, I'm a little bummed over that.

I have four girls that have told me they like me, and I know more do that won't admit it. So I've got choices to make or I've gotta find a sly way to get out of dating any one them but keeping all of them.

Overall, I think it was a success.