"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Eternal zits...

I-am-someone

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I've got a question for you guys... I have two zits in my body that have been there for years. One on my right cheek, one on my lower back. I empty them every week or so, because otherwise they just become bigger with no ending (I let them grow for a month or two and eventually just decided to pinch them again because it was clearly not going anywhere.)

Now, I'm wondering if anybody knows how to get rid of these things. I haven't really tried that much because people don't really notice them, but I'd rather get some advice from other people before I start messing around with them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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spukee

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Those aren't your typical zits. I really doubt anyone here is going to be qualified to diagnose you over the internet - you should probably book an appointment with a dermatologist for this one.

As far as advice - I've got a couple of keloids (raised scars) that I thought were pimples on my shoulders and chest. they're harder than a pimple, and quite a bit larger, but still feel "liquidy." If that sounds anything like what you have, you definetly want to get it checked out - keloids can sometimes grow quickly if left unchecked.
 

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I don't think they're keloids. It's something that runs in our family, my mom has them and my grandmother has them as well. The best way to describe them is zit-popping addicts. They pop everything in sight. I'm the one that knows that that's bad, and I want to get rid of them.

I might see a dermatologist about those things some day, if they really start to bug me.
 

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I'd definitely get them looked at. I wouldn't be surprised if the dermatologist wouldn't use a laser to remove them for around $100-150 (insurance doesn't cover cosmetic surgery generally speaking... though perhaps it wouldn't be cosmetic if they're actually a nuisance).
 

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Acutane is a possibility, but that's suposed to have a lot of scary side effects, so i'd definitely see your doctor.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Leporello
Acutane is a possibility, but that's suposed to have a lot of scary side effects, so i'd definitely see your doctor.
Accutane is for severe acne, not "one or two zits that never go away". It's used as a last resort, and I'm 99% sure that no derm would ever recommend it for the problem he has. So no, it's not a possibility. :p
 
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