"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Escaping the friendzone? Good or bad?

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Hey guys, I've been lurking this forum for years but this is my first post.

Basically, without going into too much detail about my situation, I just wanted to ask how you guys would feel if you got rejected/friendzoned by some chick in your past AFC days and now after no contact for a couple of years, and major self-improvement, she wants to start dating you?

Even though I do like this chick alot as we connected really well in the past, I'm 99% sure she's only showing an interest in me now that she's seen my progress in my physique and life in general. Should I pump and dump her to show her what she missed out on or pursue a relationship with her? Thoughts brahs?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Whatever you do, don't be a bitter loser.

With so many improvements you can pursue other options without much effort. She is old news, you shouldn't care anymore, she rejected you at the time you wanted her, let her hamster overheat and burn.
 
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Tictac said:
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This is about the most AFC thing I have read on SoSuave in a long time.

You care way to much about what other people think.
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I don't deny that I am still an AFC as we should all strive towards constant self-improvement and I am still working on some my insecurities. However, the point of my post was to ask how do you deal with chicks who would not have given you a chance before. Obviously I had used these rejections as motivation for my self-improvement, but now that such goals have become a reality I don't know what to do. My gut feeling is I should just ignore her but perhaps I am stuck in my AFC onitis mentality.
 
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Pin said:
I don't deny that I am still an AFC as we should all strive towards constant self-improvement and I am still working on some my insecurities. However, the point of my post was to ask how do you deal with chicks who would not have given you a chance before. Obviously I had used these rejections as motivation for my self-improvement, but now that such goals have become a reality I don't know what to do. My gut feeling is I should just ignore her but perhaps I am stuck in my AFC onitis mentality.
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This site really does not emphasize that not every girl will in to you regardless of game. I think this how pua markets though. Unless, you changed who you are and how you look to certain model of guys she likes than you cannot do anything about it. Thank god there are millions of other girls in this country and they do not all like the same type of guys. It is much easier and time savy to just next and pursue other girls lol.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If you still like her, then why not?

What you've achieved here is at the very core of what this site is about.
- You liked a girl but got knocked back.
- You left the situation and improved yourself.
- Now the girl is yours for the taking, on your terms.

Well done I say :up:

What's important is you realise that you are now the 'catch', she's put you up on a pedestal.
Keep that mindset and you'll be fine.
 
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still I wouldn't waste time on her, she had her chance, missed, now you are busy
 
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