Srry for double posting(i posted in the high school forum originally), but i wanted to have more opinions from experienced DJ.
Ok last night was my first date (and I mean my first date ever). I had set a goal that I would at least make out with the girl at least once. Unfortunately, I did not meet the goal which I’m ok with cause it was my first time. However, I wanted to hear what you guys thought I did wrong and what I should have done. I am almost positive that my problem lies with escalation because I know the girl is interested.
So the night starts off with me picking her up at her place. After we leave her house there is some dead air, so I try to bring up any convo before we get to the car. All I manage to do is ask her if she could eat, which she could and we figure out which theater we were going to (we were seeing a movie).
We get to the restaurant with some decent convo in the car. I don’t think I could have really physically escalated here because I was driving. We go and order our food and it is delivered to the table. We sit on opposites sides of the table and begin to talk. I don’t let any dead air happen and I am constantly trying to keep the focus more on her. I am wondering here if maybe I should have sat on the same side of the table, it might have made physically escalating easier.
So we get done with our food and I notice the movie is starting in 5 min. So I abruptly in her mid sentence say we got to go or we will be late. So we leave and get into the theater which is close enough to walk to. I should have probably, put my hand on her waist or something similar, but I didn’t.
We get into the theater and and we begin watching the movie. A couple of times she is scared and nuzzles her face into my arm but other than that I it was difficult to do anything here. I really get now why you guys say that action dates are better, but whatever I made a mistake in not listening to you warnings…. Anyhow the movie ends and we leave the theater. Still I make no contact with her.
When we get to the car, I wanted to keep the date rolling so I decided that we would go get some coffee at starbucks (she said she liked coffee). We go and order and I look around for a place to sit. The inside seems crowded, but I notice a bench outside.
It’s a little cold here at night but it’s not snowing so I decide to take her out there. Plus the bench would allow me to sit next to her not across. We sit on the bench and start to drink our drinks. We talk some more for like 7 min. and I am beginning to get cold. I notice she is kind of shivering too.
This is probably where I missed my biggest chance to escalate because I could have figured out a way to get her to come close to me so we could keep each other warm.
However, I just couldn’t decide on a way to do that so I suggested going to the car to keep warm. We get in the car finish our drinks and talk some more. I end up taking her home, and I go back to my place.
Later when I get online she messages me and holds a small convo with me for a while before she goes to sleep.
Thanks if you read all of that I know it was a long read. I would appreciate any criticisms, comments, or suggestions. I know I ****ed up and didn’t reach my goal, but at least I got some experience.
BTW: I am in high school.
Ok last night was my first date (and I mean my first date ever). I had set a goal that I would at least make out with the girl at least once. Unfortunately, I did not meet the goal which I’m ok with cause it was my first time. However, I wanted to hear what you guys thought I did wrong and what I should have done. I am almost positive that my problem lies with escalation because I know the girl is interested.
So the night starts off with me picking her up at her place. After we leave her house there is some dead air, so I try to bring up any convo before we get to the car. All I manage to do is ask her if she could eat, which she could and we figure out which theater we were going to (we were seeing a movie).
We get to the restaurant with some decent convo in the car. I don’t think I could have really physically escalated here because I was driving. We go and order our food and it is delivered to the table. We sit on opposites sides of the table and begin to talk. I don’t let any dead air happen and I am constantly trying to keep the focus more on her. I am wondering here if maybe I should have sat on the same side of the table, it might have made physically escalating easier.
So we get done with our food and I notice the movie is starting in 5 min. So I abruptly in her mid sentence say we got to go or we will be late. So we leave and get into the theater which is close enough to walk to. I should have probably, put my hand on her waist or something similar, but I didn’t.
We get into the theater and and we begin watching the movie. A couple of times she is scared and nuzzles her face into my arm but other than that I it was difficult to do anything here. I really get now why you guys say that action dates are better, but whatever I made a mistake in not listening to you warnings…. Anyhow the movie ends and we leave the theater. Still I make no contact with her.
When we get to the car, I wanted to keep the date rolling so I decided that we would go get some coffee at starbucks (she said she liked coffee). We go and order and I look around for a place to sit. The inside seems crowded, but I notice a bench outside.
It’s a little cold here at night but it’s not snowing so I decide to take her out there. Plus the bench would allow me to sit next to her not across. We sit on the bench and start to drink our drinks. We talk some more for like 7 min. and I am beginning to get cold. I notice she is kind of shivering too.
This is probably where I missed my biggest chance to escalate because I could have figured out a way to get her to come close to me so we could keep each other warm.
However, I just couldn’t decide on a way to do that so I suggested going to the car to keep warm. We get in the car finish our drinks and talk some more. I end up taking her home, and I go back to my place.
Later when I get online she messages me and holds a small convo with me for a while before she goes to sleep.
Thanks if you read all of that I know it was a long read. I would appreciate any criticisms, comments, or suggestions. I know I ****ed up and didn’t reach my goal, but at least I got some experience.
BTW: I am in high school.