"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Escalation problem

PapiChulo

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Lately I ve noticed that I am great at amping up the initial attraction phase but somehow fail to properly escalate all the way to sex with many women. What am I missing in my game? Comfort building? Or there is just really something seriously flawed in the way I act?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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U gotta work on your inner game
 

PapiChulo

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Gotta say, I am pretty congruent with what's being put out there. Must be something else, because I am upgrading myself as much as possible.
 

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What are you doing?What's happening exactly? I don't have a step by step plan to "escalate". I get em alone and I bone. The only times I failed to escalate was when I was being timid for some reason, usually nerves from being rusty in my game.
 

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OP, you have to give more details. We can't advice you what to do without knowing what you are or aren't doing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PapiChulo

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I meet a woman, she is eating all my sh!t up, loving my attention, is acting attracted. I am going for the kill trying to isolate her and get physical. Then I get shot down right there. Basically I get ****teased by a large number of women who I wanna get with. It is a common occurrence and I am the common denominator. The analogy would be something like this: I start the sparkle, but it ain't turning into fire. I don't have that problem with women who are into me, therefore I can have my hand in their pants in 5mins. So I am attracting and then nothing.......
 

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I would love to get physically faster..... I figure there is something wrong with the kino and overal comfort building.
 
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