"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Escalation problem

PapiChulo

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Lately I ve noticed that I am great at amping up the initial attraction phase but somehow fail to properly escalate all the way to sex with many women. What am I missing in my game? Comfort building? Or there is just really something seriously flawed in the way I act?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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U gotta work on your inner game
 

PapiChulo

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Gotta say, I am pretty congruent with what's being put out there. Must be something else, because I am upgrading myself as much as possible.
 

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What are you doing?What's happening exactly? I don't have a step by step plan to "escalate". I get em alone and I bone. The only times I failed to escalate was when I was being timid for some reason, usually nerves from being rusty in my game.
 

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OP, you have to give more details. We can't advice you what to do without knowing what you are or aren't doing.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I meet a woman, she is eating all my sh!t up, loving my attention, is acting attracted. I am going for the kill trying to isolate her and get physical. Then I get shot down right there. Basically I get ****teased by a large number of women who I wanna get with. It is a common occurrence and I am the common denominator. The analogy would be something like this: I start the sparkle, but it ain't turning into fire. I don't have that problem with women who are into me, therefore I can have my hand in their pants in 5mins. So I am attracting and then nothing.......
 

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I would love to get physically faster..... I figure there is something wrong with the kino and overal comfort building.
 
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