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escalating too fast on the dance floor

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dj_china

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I was at a club a few days ago and there was an HB8.5 dancing by herself surrounding by about 5 dudes. I didn't try to get in that circle just yet, but I danced around them, and flirted with some girls nearby -- not sure if she noticed because every time I looked over we didn't make eye contact

finally the korean song "nobody" comes on and I just kindof point at her at the "nobody nobody but YOU" part and she laughs. the second time that happens we're dancing together and all the dudes around her are like WTF?

anyways, it was probably 1 or 2 songs later (maybe 5-10 minutes?) and we're grinding face to face and have the eye thing going on. and our lips touch for about a second. then I pull away, just teasing. it happens again, and this time she kindof pulls away at the same time. it happens a THIRD time, and then she just leaves!

what just happened????
did I escalate too fast and she felt uncomfortable?
is it possible to tell that I'm a bad kisser with such short kisses? (plus, I don't think I am a bad kisser...)

postscript - I go back to my group of friends for a few minutes, and then walk to the bathroom for a mind-clearing break, and see her standing on the edge of the dancefloor. we don't talk. maybe 30 minutes later I see her grinding with some other dude and he goes for the kiss, and she turns her head. I'm completely baffled
 

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Sounds to me like she just enjoys teasing guys a little on the dancefloor.

Now if she'd actually kissed that other guy then you might have something to worry over but as she did the same as with you it's pretty obvious she just likes the attention.

Or maybe she has horrible bad breath and is embarrassed about it. lol
Who really knows.

I really wouldn't worry over this at all man.
 
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what I am tempted to say is that she's was screwing with you to make some other dude in her little group of guys jealous.
 

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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

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may be you should have kissed her harder and taken her off the dancefloor? who knows lets not play guessing game though

i believe ive lost some chicks because i escalated too far - id be making out after 2 songs and lifting them up at about 2 min mark - just like to do all sorts of ****, some love it some cant handle it

nowadays i keep it cool until i make out, although with this girl last thursday i was stroking her ***** by about 3min mark and i think she ran off because of it.. oh well she was hot as hell :)
 
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