Escalating friend to Plate?

[derby1]

I have a female friend i havent seen for a while she had a partner at the time and so did i, anyway fast forward two years and she drunk messages me out the blue in the middle of the night followed by that ****ty halo emoji!

take in mind we have plenty of other mutuals she could have messaged so i played on it i wasnt happy with her trying to booty call me at 4am (as ill never know the real reason for her message)

anyway i said i havent seen you for a while well have to go for a drink next week

her reply was " I just messaged you cause you was the only one online at 3am, but yeah id like that you always make me smile"

where do i go from here havent got much experience in the old friend into plate scenario,

ive ceased contact now saying ill contact her to arrange

 

[derby1]

i used to be a bit of an arrogant **** when we last crossed paths so like you say ill do a low investment date, i have the advantage of not seeing her for a year so were not like weekly buddies

 

[derby1]

i was asleep didnt see the message till 10am or id have been on that mate

 

[TheGambino]

Mid level interest at best on her end, she is basically saying "no, you got the wrong idea."

Anyway, do a low investment date and definitely include alcohol. Wait for her to initiate touch, which she will if she is into you.

No, disagree, touch yourself, always kino. If she goes on a date with you, you should always think that she likes you. Be cexual and touchy to let her feel comfort with you touching her.

 

[derby1]

im under the impression you never touch a woman first whos in the friend area?

 

[TheGambino]

im under the impression you never touch a woman first whos in the friend area?

Yes You should... Its the only way to get out of the Friendzone.... being cexual

 

[RangerMIke]

This happens to me frequently. It happened last night. Don't waste your time chasing her, chicks live in the emotional moment and these moments pass quickly. Unless she is standing outside your door in nothing but a trench-coat, nothing is likely to happen because by the time you can set up the logistics... the moment will have passed. Never assume past female action indicates future possibility.

The OP handled it perfectly... ask for a date... she didn't say yes... so you move on. Toss it back to her and say if she ever changes her mind then let you know... but make it clear 4 am in the morning isn't going to work for you.

 

[derby1]

The OP handled it perfectly... ask for a date... she didn't say yes... so you move on.

cheers but just to confirm she said she reckons shell come for a drink so ill leave it a few days and escalate/arrange

 

[jaymbrs]

Hate when female friends do that. For 2 reasons, either I don't see them that way or they leave me thinking if it's worth risking our friendship over sex.

 

[derby1]

i didnt ask for a date from a drunk text i believe i handled it well by not asking what she wanted and joking she was booty calling me.. i dropped the hint i hadnt seen her in a while well have to have a catch up drink , nothing wrong with that,...i then left the convo quick time, got work to do sort of thing

 

[TheGambino]

Keep in mind this girl literally drunk texted him. Know your target audience, this girl is an extrovert and they like to chase

Doesnt matter, touch and show interest on the dates, make the date awesome for the both of You then step back with initiating on text or calls.