"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Escalating chat flirt?

SandHawk

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I have a funny thing going on momentarily with some chick that I ran into during a night of staying in and playing a game over the internet. It's a multiplayer coop game, and for reason she added me to her friend list and we started talking, bit of flirting here and there.

Quite recently I sort of opened the door to meeting up. I was talking about how some zoo I've been too had this AWESOME underwater area where you can sit and see all the animals swim around in a giant plexiglass tank. She then told about a local zoo close to her place and how you can eat under there, to which I told her, "I have a good idea. You show me around your zoo, and I'll show you around the one I was telling you about".

Most of the talking is light hearted stuff, taking the piss out of her, c*cky and funny stuff and with a decent amount of sexualization in it. She told me more than once that I'm "so romantic", because I wanted to take a trip to the woods(it's awesome with all the coloured leaves atm), and about breakfast in bed on sunday morning, followed by a massage and a good banging. And sometimes about tickling to which she rebuttals how she's doing to win, which almost makes it sound like a "show me!".

This has been going on for about 2 or 3 weeks, and I think I'm getting a good vibe off of her. Seen pictures, she's no warpig, decent looking. She lives about 2 hours from my place, and combined with a trip to a zoo, I think we have a winner.

Any ideas on how to smoothly escalate this? Never done this. I'm not desperate, I do have a plate closer to home, but it's only one plate and I need to expand back into spinning multiple plates.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My advice would be to definitely strike whilst the iron is hot with this one - make a date with her, at one of the zoos, within the next 2 weeks - or sooner.
Try to not make yourself too available with her in the intervening time, such as spending ALL your spare time talking to her over the internet etc, leave a bit of mystery in there to keep her on her toes? I had a similar chance to do this last month, but p1ssed about for two weeks and didn't set a concrete date - subsequently her IL plummeted beyond recovery and I was left in limbo, so strike NOW! All the best.
 

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Pick up the phone and go to the zoo.

Lead.

saab makes some good points.
 

SandHawk

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Saab makes a few good points indeed. Picking up the phone is no option here, as I don't have her digits, which makes no sense at all at this time.

I already avoid her most of the time. I prefer to keep myself signed out from chat while I'm not actually playing a game(which is most of the time), and when I am on, she opens me most of the time. So I guess there is some IL there, no clue how real it is.

I think I'll escalate this a bit further later this week and tell her she can show me around the zoo. Exchange digits and then go to that zoo in a weekend or on a day off. My work days are flexible, and I know on which days she is off, so I'm just going to arrange that I'm free on her off day, and then tell her "You know what, I'm off then as well, you should show me around that zoo. You haven't seen it in a long time, and I'm curious about it", exchange digits and then do it.
 
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