Escalate help, I hope I havent ruined this already!

[F!DELITY]

Guys, if you read my previous post, I hung out with this girl I like last night round her place, watched a couple of movies, some alcohol etc.

This is the first time hanging out with her, (Im friends with her bro, but hes cool about it!)

We have stuff in common, and I enjoy talking to her, shes quite clever and bright, and shes real pretty. The problem I found is that I was struggling to escalate. I mean, we were sitting real close to each other, but It just seems so cheesy to put your arm around the girl y'know?

Anyways, the bro came home, kinda ruined the one on one vibe, and he went to bed, and then I left cos it was really late - - - the end felt a bit awkward, but she and I mentioned watching another movie soon, and then I left (no hugs or anything :nervous: )

The problem I have is, number 1, when should I get back in contact with her? The last thing I want to do is pick a day, and shes busy...cos then I look like I'm always available...

I was thinking about sending her a txt today relating to this horror film we watched?

The other problem is, how do you guys escalate when your in a girls living room watching a movie...I suppose I need to kino BIGTIME!

 

[katatonia]

The other problem is, how do you guys escalate when your in a girls living room watching a movie...I suppose I need to kino BIGTIME!

Depends how much kino you have done with her prior to the movie and how comfortable you already are with her.

If you had established a lot of comfort you of course could start to kino her sexually and push for sex.

If not you could sit next to her and whenever something in the movie that happens that is funny for example you could laugh and make a comment about it and touch her on the shoulder etc and progress throughout the movie heheh.

 

[tafakna]

DON'T CLING now.

She's both intrigued (as to why you left) as well as pissed for your lack of actions, so play with the former.

Don't apologize, don't explain, leave her wondering. No txts or anything that sounds like you regret.

Schedule a new movie if you will, pick some lousy day (Mon-Wed) as you're supposed to be busy the other days. If you don't want to sound available ASK her how her schedule is, pick some lousy day and don't be available for any other day (girls often try to find what your schedule is like by rescheduling dates).

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

I was thinking about sending her a txt today relating to this horror film we watched?

No, don't do that. Live in the present and future.

Women can't stand it when a guy is daydreaming about a past event, that's a womanly trait. There should be a damned good reason to talk with a girl about something that happened in the past.

As mentioned above, don't apologize or explain crap. It really turns women off and you'll lose them by showing womanly traits.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

DON'T CLING now.

She's both intrigued (as to why you left) as well as pissed for your lack of actions, so play with the former.

Don't apologize, don't explain, leave her wondering. No txts or anything that sounds like you regret.

Schedule a new movie if you will, pick some lousy day (Mon-Wed) as you're supposed to be busy the other days. If you don't want to sound available ASK her how her schedule is, pick some lousy day and don't be available for any other day (girls often try to find what your schedule is like by rescheduling dates).

Yes, this is great advice. Make sure you pay attention to the part I bolded, it is CRUCIAL for you to avoid looking like a creepy loser in all of this. Next time you need to force yourself to pull the trigger. Trust me, you don't have to be the smoothest customer to escalate, but if you don't do anything at all next time, it will be a million times worse than whatever awkward move you would have done to at least get something going.

Always default to action, my friend. Time's a wasting.

 

[Bobby Rio]

How to escalate....

Tease her. Its the easiest way to get touching going...

If i'm watching a movie with a girl and need to start flirting I wait for her to get up and go to bathroom or something... when she comes back I keep scooting over to prevent her from being able to sit down... This will usually get her laughing... and creates a playful mood...

The trick is you NEED to start touching her (not groping) and the best way to do this is through teasing...

 

[F!DELITY]

Hi guys, thanks for all the replies..
I haven't actually check the board since I posted, and I did end up texting her that same day saying I enjoyed last night...she felt the same, and we agreed to do it again...so I guess im gonna get in contact with her early next week and pick another lousy day (mon-wed)...and I will TAKE ACTION!!

as long as other ppl aren't around, siblings etc. major distraction! :yes:

 

[jdollarthegreat]

Real talk, all you gotta do is just whip it out man. Boom yall sittin on the couch watching a movie and bada boom pow..............just whip it out! Now thats action at its finest man!

 

[DJ#7436]

Next time you're watching a movie....get in a pillow fight.

fun+kino

Dj