Erasing The "Loser Mentality"

[TheException]

This should be a very productive read for new members, lurkers, or even to veteran members that could use a refresher.

The mentality of not only men.....but PEOPLE IN GENERAL is becoming a very frightening one. People are entitled more now than ever. Everyone thinks they should only experience positive things and if anything bad happens, they have a "woe is me" attitude. Everyone seems to want something for nothing.

-"I WANT free birth control for women"
-"I WANT the rich to pay their fair share"
-"I WANT a girlfriend"
-"I WANT a full time job"
-etc etc

Now there is nothing wrong with having goals or places in your life that you want to get to....the problem is PEOPLE DONT WANT TO PUT IN THE WORK TO GET THERE. They just EXPECT success. Im here to tell you....that aint going to happen and if you keep on thinking this way....you're going to be a loser for life....thats right I said it. You want to come here....read a few articles or posts and just EXPECT instant success. You want advice....but dont like what you hear and ignore it. Knowledge is only half the battle....you GOTTA PUT IN THE WORK. Below, Im going to give my principles and tips for shifting your mindset from "loser" to "elite".

1. LEARN
Knowledge is powerful and I encourage everyone to branch out into all areas of life and learn. Learn a new language, learn about the history of wars, learn about philosophy, learn about politics. Whatever your interests are...learn. So here at Sosuave....read the "good posts" and learn. Begin to internalize it and believe in it. Its easy to tell the difference between "who is for real" and "who is not".

2. STOP COMPLAINING
Negativity breeds more negativity. When new members come here and want to complain about "how bad they were treated by their ex gf", "how their parents are mean", "how they have never been socially successful", "how their job sucks"......you set yourself back even further. Quit the b1tching and take some damn responsibility. There is a common denominator in all the above...ITS YOU. Luckily....you can change "you". Dont like your job? Quit. Dont like your body type? Work out. Dont like your girlfriend? Dump her. Stop worrying about the things you cant change and start changing the things you can.

3.REROUTE TO THE POSITIVE SIDE OF "THE FORCE"
Star Wars reference? So what, get over it. The same way negativity creates a feedback loop....being positive does the same thing. Its creates a feedback loop in which being positive leads to more positive things which leads to being EVEN MORE POSITIVE. The biggest barrier is having limiting beliefs. "Women are evil and selfish", "I just cant do it", "There are no good girls anymore", "All women are s1uts", "Im too scared to approach strangers". All this sh1t needs to evaporate NOW. It will only leave you to wallow in your own misery. Start thinking on the flip side and start feeling good about yourself. You will be rewarded for your effort.

Quit being a loser and start being "elite".

 

[teddy]

Great post, but some people like myself had to learn that "all women are slvts" for the sake of de-pedestalizing them. Virtually all AFCs have these illusions that the girl they want is this virginal princess. But once you realize that every girl has been around the block, it's easier to talk to them and run game because they don't seem so intimidating. You know they want it.