Erase your past, the oneitis

[exile663dfx]

This is for the heartbroken, tear-shedding, oneitis disease carrying guys out there..listen up..

I know this is my first post on SS forums but I had to share a story that completely cured my oneitis and I hope it helps you as well.

First of let me just point out that I am not a DJ, nor a PUA. I don't really TRY to get girls, it just happens. Life is a roller-coaster, im just in it for the ride.

21 years old, good looking guy (wasn't always like this.. Use to weigh 260, ugly and double chinned, now 154. Use to have a six pack in my fridge now I have it on my body). Anyway a while back, I met this, and I swear to you guys 9 out of 10 girl where I use to work. We started off as FB relationship until we decided it was time to casually date and it then turned into a exclusive thing. Everything was great at first as you all know how it goes.. Until she started to change. At that time I was really into this girl, she was smart, super sexy and amazing in bed so I didn't want to ruin my chances of "lay" just because of a little a$$ change in her.. But I was a choad and didn't realize the reason she was changing was because of me.. Yes me! I was so into this girl that I was kissing the ground she walked on. Which in terms is a AFC move.

Anyway, as we moved on she became more demanding asking for materiel things from me but never gave anything in return. Sex decreased as my desperation "increased". I got more angry with her, did not want to give her anything, thinking all along it was her fault how our relationship was turning out. At the END she DUMPED ME.

So that's when I developed post-breakup oneitis. You know the symptoms; depression, pansy like behavior, crying like a little school girl (not really). I wanted her back, but "NO CONTACT" from me was initiated. And it was a weak attempt. I asked her to come back to me... (BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN EVER MAKE) So she rejects me again giving me any excuse you can think of..

This choad was exhausted..
I went to a party with one of my really good friends with oneitis still under my skin. Met a couple of girls but had no interest. My self esteem at that point was low so I didn't even want to try. We went outside for a smoke, my friend looked at me like he saw a totally different person and said. "Matt bro, you look like a fu<king zombie, get a grip". At that point I threw away my newly lit cigarette, hugged my friend (no homo), got in my car and left. Got home, I sat down and realized how PATHETIC I was that even my friend noticed it in my face.

"What happened to you Matt??"
That was my turning point ladies and gentlemen. That was IT.

I texted my friend and apologized for acting like a pus

Next morning I woke up, took a deep breath, DELETED her number from my phone, DELETED her on facebook. COMPLETELY erased her from my LIFE. And as I remember that day guys look at this:

I TEXTED a fine ass girl from work (whom i havent talked to in 3 months)just as joke. "Hey what you up to this week, wanna catch a movie? And yes im asking you out on a date" <---- Just as a freaking joke..

Guess what she said?? "Lets go "

BOOM~ oneitis cured, got laid the same night as the movie night. My confidence was back, started talking to girls everywhere I went. I been my best self ever since. And I will never ever make the same mistakes.

Fellas the point is let yourself free, erase the "past" delete it, ignore it, move forward. The faster you move forward the faster you heal. Put that first foot forward, and just GO. Dont let yourself be like a sad chump I was that one day when my best friend called me a fu<king zombie.

And regarding girls? You will never know unless you try. So get the fu<k out there!


More tips:
- Wanna get ripped? P90X <-- All you need
- Brush your teeth! I smoke so I have to do it 3 times a day. It only takes 5 mins.
- Shower twice a day.
- Stop using the same brand of body spray every guys uses (like axe) walk your a$$ into victoria secret and get a nice cologne for men. (Ask the ladies to help you)
- Wear **** that fits and make up your own style
- Tan, use the beds you look better.
- Read through these forums. These guys know what they're talking about.

Matt over and out..

 

[PapiChulo]

That's a great first post.

 

[Strelok]

It all makes sense and your methos is probably the better however I think the average guy sending to a hot co worker your same message would be in most of the cases rejected with some lame excuse while in other simply ignored.

In that case that would be the last hit on a already precarious self-confidence, I think that the bullet proof method to erase one-it-is has to rely completely on the man with no connection or part from other people outside at least untill the base has been poned.

 

[Serg897]

It all makes sense and your methos is probably the better however I think the average guy sending to a hot co worker your same message would be in most of the cases rejected with some lame excuse while in other simply ignored.

In that case that would be the last hit on a already precarious self-confidence, I think that the bullet proof method to erase one-it-is has to rely completely on the man with no connection or part from other people outside at least untill the base has been poned.

I agree with this - sending a text like that is a move that wont always pan out, and if you are basing your happiness on getting a date and laying another girl it will almost never work. Even if you DO get laid sometimes you are so caught up with your oneitis it wont do anything to cure your grief. Been there, done that.

However, its true that every oneitis experience makes you more experienced, stronger, and more aware of yourself. After several I've realized that even these women that **** with your emotions are replaceable - there are plenty of single quality women out there and if you place yourself in social situations to meet them you eventually will. After every oneitis the only place you go is up.

 

[exile663dfx]

I agree with this - sending a text like that is a move that wont always pan out, and if you are basing your happiness on getting a date and laying another girl it will almost never work. Even if you DO get laid sometimes you are so caught up with your oneitis it wont do anything to cure your grief. Been there, done that.

However, its true that every oneitis experience makes you more experienced, stronger, and more aware of yourself. After several I've realized that even these women that **** with your emotions are replaceable - there are plenty of single quality women out there and if you place yourself in social situations to meet them you eventually will. After every oneitis the only place you go is up.

Great reply guys. However I didnt base my happiness on getting a date or a lay. At that time I needed to regain my confidence back and go back to being myself before I engaged in that relationship with my her. Finally understanding that she isnt the oneitis, I moved forward.

In response to avarage looking guys. If you think of yourself as just avarage then you are. People will look at you that way. A while back I thought of myself as bellow avarage and that's thats the image I projected. Its not like that anymore. You can't change your genetics but you can without a doubt change the way you look, your attitude, and perception in life. Be your best self.

Matt

 

[st_99]

Everybody thinks "that girl" is freaking amazing! until he starts f*cking another one.... haha.

Why we revert to child like behavior when it comes to women is really beyond me, I remember someone
posted something about thinking in terms of life and death.. "if i don't have that, I will literally die"
just like children do, and its like we really feel that way.

Man, we sure can be dumb. I'm guilty.

 

[5string]

Everybody thinks "that girl" is freaking amazing! until he starts f*cking another one.... haha.

Why revert to child like behavior when it comes to women is really beyond me, I remember someone
posted something about thinking in terms of life and death.. "if i don't have that, I will literally die"
just like children do, and its like we really feel that way.

Man, we sure can be dumb. I'm guilty.

And here's the winner! :yes: