What is the best way to completely get rid of feelings you have for a chick, such as when you get oneitis and just feel like this person is "the one". I think about her all the time even though I know it will road to nowhere. I've been reading alot about NLP, hypnotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, etc. but I cannot figure out how to use these things to eradicate my feelings for her. I knwo it's probably not going to be an overnight process and may take time but I need to start now working on this. Any tips, advice, links, etc would be greatly appreciated.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Eradicating Strong Feelings
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DJ React
New Member
No contact, keeping yourself occupied, time
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
More girls
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
ezily
Senior Don Juan
yeah just move on to another girl. ALSO, you can try this: write down a list of all the positive and all the negative things about the girl. Once you do that you'll probably find more negatives. Also, try and think about why you liked her so much. What was so special about her? Don't ever put girls up on a pedestal. They're human and have faults like all the rest of us. No one is perfect. Not even this girl that you "loved".
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
oakraiderz2 said:
agreed
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Imagine her taking the biggest dump in the history of the world 
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
The answer is simple: upgrade. Find a hotter chick, and I guarantee you wont give a damn about the other one.
DO NOT SACRIFICE YOUR FEELINGS!
If you become obsessive over a girl, it's not the feelings that are the problem. It's your proposed solution. You think the girl will solve your dissatisfaction with life. She won't. She can only enhance your life -- she's not your life itself.
Ask yourself honestly why you're dissatisfied with life, and solve that. Then you'll see girls for what they are, and get your "game" right naturally.
If you become obsessive over a girl, it's not the feelings that are the problem. It's your proposed solution. You think the girl will solve your dissatisfaction with life. She won't. She can only enhance your life -- she's not your life itself.
Ask yourself honestly why you're dissatisfied with life, and solve that. Then you'll see girls for what they are, and get your "game" right naturally.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
tick,
EFT is about NEGATING the effect of your nervous system's abiltiy to HOLD in that negative electrical charge or energy in your body,.
Your neurology remembers bad feelings.
And if you dont work them out, you will have physiological and psychological issues that are stagnant and stuck, thereby strongly influencing your decsions and actions.
If you expereince perhaps severe rejection form a woman whom you felt you 'loved', this trauma stays STUCK in your body.
Not just a memory. It stays in your Nervous system.
So it's like being covered in some sort of sticky substance, that impedes 'flow' and 'freedom' of though. You will keep 'rehearsing' this mentality of : "All women I care about HAVE Rejected me, so all women whom I care about WILL reject me!!"
It's a form of programming.
NLP can help with some of this stuff, but you may need some actual guidance from a qualified NLP practitioner.
Look up some of Hypnotica's stuff.
Right now, EFT looks to be a good alternative to releasing all that blocked and stuck negative energy in your body.
Think of it as stale water.
What's healthier and better?
A river that flows powerfully and freely?
Or a puddle of mud?
Which would you drink?
Knowing that our bodies are actually made up of mostly water. can you see how the electrical charge is a REAL thing in the human body?
EFT is real.
Take the time to investigate it.
Seriously.
EFT is about NEGATING the effect of your nervous system's abiltiy to HOLD in that negative electrical charge or energy in your body,.
Your neurology remembers bad feelings.
And if you dont work them out, you will have physiological and psychological issues that are stagnant and stuck, thereby strongly influencing your decsions and actions.
If you expereince perhaps severe rejection form a woman whom you felt you 'loved', this trauma stays STUCK in your body.
Not just a memory. It stays in your Nervous system.
So it's like being covered in some sort of sticky substance, that impedes 'flow' and 'freedom' of though. You will keep 'rehearsing' this mentality of : "All women I care about HAVE Rejected me, so all women whom I care about WILL reject me!!"
It's a form of programming.
NLP can help with some of this stuff, but you may need some actual guidance from a qualified NLP practitioner.
Look up some of Hypnotica's stuff.
Right now, EFT looks to be a good alternative to releasing all that blocked and stuck negative energy in your body.
Think of it as stale water.
What's healthier and better?
A river that flows powerfully and freely?
Or a puddle of mud?
Which would you drink?
Knowing that our bodies are actually made up of mostly water. can you see how the electrical charge is a REAL thing in the human body?
EFT is real.
Take the time to investigate it.
Seriously.
Thanks for all the replies. I may look into the EFT. It seems simple enough even though I am somewhat skeptical of the science behind it. I just read part of that 88 page manual you can download and it looks like all the instructions for trying it are there...plus the video on youtube.
I've heard of the idea of imagining somewhat taking a ****, covered in ****, etc. but I could never bring myself to use any techniques like that as I have absolutely no bad feelings toward her.
As for upgrading, she is not the best looking chick in the world. I found myself in the situation I am in because of being attracted to her personality. As far as attractiveness goes, I could upgrade but to no avail.
I've heard of the idea of imagining somewhat taking a ****, covered in ****, etc. but I could never bring myself to use any techniques like that as I have absolutely no bad feelings toward her.
As for upgrading, she is not the best looking chick in the world. I found myself in the situation I am in because of being attracted to her personality. As far as attractiveness goes, I could upgrade but to no avail.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
As they said .
The only way to get rid of these feeling RIGHT NOW is to go out and approach/open/interact/#close/k-close/f-close another girls .
There are no other magic ways like tapping to get rid of it .
Go out and do it . Im talking from experience im not talking BS .
The only way to get rid of these feeling RIGHT NOW is to go out and approach/open/interact/#close/k-close/f-close another girls .
There are no other magic ways like tapping to get rid of it .
Go out and do it . Im talking from experience im not talking BS .
This is an interesting observation. Well I let it go for awhile because I was skeptical as well but it doesn't take much time. If you read the manual, it seems people get a lot out of it. Even the manual says it doesn't matter if you believe it or not. Interceptor has mentioned it numerous times, so he's one person who seems to get something from it as well.Interceptor said:
The first time I tried it, it was about a chick, and I went to bed feeling good, and I woke up the next day feeling very different, like really horny almost and couldn't wait to see any girl, didn't matter. I just wanted to check out chicks, it's hard to explain. So who knows. It's just the sort of thing if you're going to do, you need to be consistent and give it a shot. It's not going to hurt you. It only takes a few minutes. I'm reviewing the manual right now, and the inner game tapping thing seems to be the same method as the manual, but the manual has a few more tapping points, and few more tips on the wording to use on subsequent sessions.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
Daddy The Pimp said:
LOL!
The "authority' has spoken.
Close the thread!!
Oh, Daddy.
You have so much to learn, young man.
EFT is not BS.
And having such a be All END ALlLConclusive final word' in your posts, especially alluding to EFT (backed scientifically) as BS is certainly immature and not helpful at all.
I know you mean well.
But, my friend, your advice is not the final answer and you , like myself, are NOT Final authorities.
I'm not here to convince you, but I am here to help.
EFT is not BS. And what I KNOW, is certainly NOT BS either, my friend.
For ME to recommend EFT means something extremley positive and helpful. Something that adresses the issues in a manner thathelps, and ASSISTS him deal with the other advice such as approaching and interactin with more women.
I would not just throw out some random , unbacked or never field tested advice or suggestion.
had you a better grasp of psychology. neurology, even things like Chakras and suchtopics, you would see the naivete and narrow view of your advice.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Of course . Im not authority that gives final word . And i would love to have a video that in 40 minutes helps you get over a girlfriend that you loved more than yourself and she dumped you for no reasons .
Maybe that works i dont know .
But i think its BS tapping on your hand and getting over that on the spot.That would be magical . This ismy opinion.
Im not saying that it doesnt work , but in my opinion is BS . But ill try it later when i have time with a video about killing AA .
If it works its greaaaaaaaat sh!t . Video that helps killing AA and getting over gf that you loved in the spot is GOLD stuff.
But i told that guy about my way to get over it .
Ive been hurt alot in my past about small things .
Even when relationships started to fade i was blaming myself and started being needy to fix things .
But now there is one thing (for me) . SARGE
This is the only way i feel better .
Respect
Maybe that works i dont know .
But i think its BS tapping on your hand and getting over that on the spot.That would be magical . This ismy opinion.
Im not saying that it doesnt work , but in my opinion is BS . But ill try it later when i have time with a video about killing AA .
If it works its greaaaaaaaat sh!t . Video that helps killing AA and getting over gf that you loved in the spot is GOLD stuff.
But i told that guy about my way to get over it .
Ive been hurt alot in my past about small things .
Even when relationships started to fade i was blaming myself and started being needy to fix things .
But now there is one thing (for me) . SARGE
This is the only way i feel better .
Respect
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
LOL!:crackup:
Contradiction!
Dude, it's ok, man.
I know you mean well.
You're a good guy.
just if you really want to be helpful , remember to not shoot down other's genuine efforts to help too.
Be cool, man.
Interceptor
ezily
Senior Don Juan
wikipedia:
EFT has been labeled as pseudoscience in The Skeptical Inquirer magazine, based on what the journal describes as its lack of falsifiability, reliance on anecdotal evidence, and aggressive promotion via the Internet.[4] Gary Craig, the developer of EFT, has argued that tapping anywhere on the body will manipulate "energy meridians". Skeptics have asserted that such an argument renders EFT untestable via the scientific method, and therefore a pseudoscience.[4][5] This argument is also addressed by the Waite and Holder paper, in which the participants tapped on a doll, rather than themselves. Waite and Holder have suggested that EFT's successes are likely to stem from "characteristics it shares with more traditional therapies", rather than manipulation of energy meridians via tapping.[2] A recent article in the Guardian suggested that the act of tapping parts of the body in a complicated sequence acts as a distraction from, and therefore can appear to alleviate the root distress.[6]
EFT has been labeled as pseudoscience in The Skeptical Inquirer magazine, based on what the journal describes as its lack of falsifiability, reliance on anecdotal evidence, and aggressive promotion via the Internet.[4] Gary Craig, the developer of EFT, has argued that tapping anywhere on the body will manipulate "energy meridians". Skeptics have asserted that such an argument renders EFT untestable via the scientific method, and therefore a pseudoscience.[4][5] This argument is also addressed by the Waite and Holder paper, in which the participants tapped on a doll, rather than themselves. Waite and Holder have suggested that EFT's successes are likely to stem from "characteristics it shares with more traditional therapies", rather than manipulation of energy meridians via tapping.[2] A recent article in the Guardian suggested that the act of tapping parts of the body in a complicated sequence acts as a distraction from, and therefore can appear to alleviate the root distress.[6]
For those of you who have used EFT and benefitted from it, I'm wondering if you can tell me how I might use this in my case. I don't really have a bad memory to associate with this. As I mentioned she is not an ex nor is she someone who has caused me any grief. It was my own way of thinking taht got me into this so there is only me to blame. As for the 'feeling" I guess I would consider this just being completely obsessed with one person, and that is the feeling I want to get rid of. So basically how would I set things up in terms of beginning with a memory to work with? Thanks for all the help and suggestions.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.