Equivalent contact principle? And how many strikes?

[Jaylan]

I normally employ a tit-for-tat contact principle. Basically I respond in kind based on a girls behavior. If she seems attentive, I will make sure I keep good timely contact with her. Or if she seems aloof about our contact, and takes forever to reach out or respond to me, Ill do the same and go about my business.

Ive also seen talk of a "two-thirds principle". I think thats what it was called. I saw a couple posters mention it. Saying that for every 3 pushes a girl give, you give 2 pushes back. For example, sending 2 texts for every 3 texts she sends.

What type of contact do you employ? Which do you think is best? And then depending on how a girl stays in contact with you, how many "strikes" do you allow her? Or are you quick to move on if you feel shes not mirroring your behavior?

Im mainly asking because Ive been messaging this one girl online, and we do have things in common and seem to click so far. Initially we were each writing replies the same day, but her last reply was 4 days later. And despite her always addressing everything I write to her, I just felt kinda turned off by it. And my initial feeling was to take my time replying or to just not reply at all.

But then I thought about how some guys here are quick to next a girl, vs guys who give girls more than 1 strike. I am currently seeing someone, so its not a big deal. But I still wonder sometimes if Im too quick to move on. That said, I sure as hell wouldnt take 4 days to respond to a woman I was actually interested in.

 

[Willard]

I'm the same way, if a girl gets right back to me i do too. When i comes to online dating, I only message back and forth between 2-3 times, I say lets have a chat sometime and 9 out of 10 times I get her number, then I text her hi this is me save my number, some will want to start texting right away, some just say thanks, then I'll text them a day or two later.

 

[goldengoose]

Some chicks live online and some don't always check their messages each day. If you know she's online and is just putting you off, then she is getting back to you after she messages the men she really wants to talk with. Chicks who like you message back quickly and want to give their numbers soon as they can.

 

[Jaylan]

Some chicks live online and some don't always check their messages each day. If you know she's online and is just putting you off, then she is getting back to you after she messages the men she really wants to talk with. Chicks who like you message back quickly and want to give their numbers soon as they can.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Though when I signed in a few hours ago to browse for a couple minutes, she viewed my profile (which you get a notification for right away), and then sent a follow up message apologizing for the delay in her response. I guess I can at least give her credit for that.

 

[goldengoose]

This is exactly what I was thinking. Though when I signed in a few hours ago to browse for a couple minutes, she viewed my profile (which you get a notification for right away), and then sent a follow up message apologizing for the delay in her response. I guess I can at least give her credit for that.

can you check out her profile without logging in so she can't see you visited? If she is logging in each day you know she's full of sh1t. Try messaging her back in a couple of days, if she takes long to reply again then don't bother. When I was slow to reply chicks would message me back again to see what's up.

 

[Willard]

can you check out her profile without logging in so she can't see you visited? If she is logging in each day you know she's full of sh1t. Try messaging her back in a couple of days, if she takes long to reply again then don't bother. When I was slow to reply chicks would message me back again to see what's up.

I used to check the profiles without logging in, now I just don't care, and I don't check, it used to bother me that they were still online.

 

[old_skoolr]

I think if youe chatting and she does take 1 to 2 days to respond, it can also be seen as interest. Only because, there is still an attempt made by her to keep the convo going. The onus is up to you to use better form of medium to interact with her. As in, if she takes too long to reply on fb, get her number.

 

[Jaylan]

An update;

I decided to message her back last night since she keeps viewing my profile when I log in. I message her back very late last night jokingly thanking her for the apology and telling her to give me her number. She responds to tell me shes been drinking. I was pretty turned off by that, because why do I care if you are out getting drunk with friends? I love going out with friends and drinking, but I wouldnt message a new girl and awkwardly misspell things because Im drunk. In contrast, I was having a late night gym session.

Last thing she did was compliment my teeth lol. Then tonight she tries to pick up the convo, and I just dismiss it and tell her say "Gimme your number so we dont have to play message tag on this site". To which she replies "What does that mean?". Clearly shes trying to make me put in work, but I just say "It means give me your number and ill message you that way." To which she then replies "Oh haaha, how bout you give me yours?"

I then say "lol you wanna play that game huh? Well, I dont give my number for girls to keep in their library of hot guys ". She says "You have no idea the library Ive acquired from this site". I lastly say "Well enjoy that library ...tootlez *her name*".

And now Im officially getting turned off lol. Shes still messaging me back btw, saying I should give her mine. To which I reply "...................". She then relents with her numbers.

Lolz wimmenz.

 

[thunder_god]

An update;

I decided to message her back last night since she keeps viewing my profile when I log in. I message her back very late last night jokingly thanking her for the apology and telling her to give me her number. She responds to tell me shes been drinking. I was pretty turned off by that, because why do I care if you are out getting drunk with friends? I love going out with friends and drinking, but I wouldnt message a new girl and awkwardly misspell things because Im drunk. In contrast, I was having a late night gym session.

Last thing she did was compliment my teeth lol. Then tonight she tries to pick up the convo, and I just dismiss it and tell her say "Gimme your number so we dont have to play message tag on this site". To which she replies "What does that mean?". Clearly shes trying to make me put in work, but I just say "It means give me your number and ill message you that way." To which she then replies "Oh haaha, how bout you give me yours?"

I then say "lol you wanna play that game huh? Well, I dont give my number for girls to keep in their library of hot guys ". She says "You have no idea the library Ive acquired from this site". I lastly say "Well enjoy that library ...tootlez *her name*".

And now Im officially getting turned off lol. Shes still messaging me back btw, saying I should give her mine. To which I reply "...................". She then relents with her numbers.

Lolz wimmenz.

Sounds like an attention *****.

 

[RagingBalls]

How stupidly pathetic women have become compare to when they're just...."women"