Wow, to say I am overwhelmed at the response I am getting is a bit of an understatement. Thank you all for the support and input!
Tusuque Red, I especially want to thank you for your advice, which really made a difference for me the other night. I went to this restaurant down the block and it was an amazingly beautiful day out so I was in high spirits. Walked into the spot and saw this redhead cutie eating alone. Good Mood, great weather, hot chick by herself = PERFECT! So I waste no time and walk right up to her table and ask if I can sit with her. She is kind of a nervous bird and I think I startled her at first, but I smooth it out saying,¨hey, I´m not trying to pick you up or anything, I just never dine alone. You could have been a 400 pound heffer with with a beard and I would still ask to sit here.¨ This definitely loosens her up so I order my food and we get chatting.
Man, for all of you who have ever thought about traveling, DO IT! I can´t believe how much it helps my game to be an outsider!
1. There is no shortage of inital conversation. So much culture shock, things you miss about home, the people you love and stay in touch with..etc etc.
2. You come off looking real adventurous with a general lust for life. Very attractive!
3. You care less if you make an ass out of yourself. Nobody knows you so you are free to mess up!
Anyways, we had a nice dinner together and I walked her home. One of the things I noticed about my game and am tryin got improve is that I can easily overpower someone in a convo. I just have so much to share that sometimes I am just too much for certain people. Now I try to listen more and when I do speak, I make sure it is either very profound/relevant or funny. This approach of sporadic charm is what helped to get me into this girl´s apartment
We get there and I plop down on the futon and she goes to the kitchen to make us some tea. When she returns, I am massaging my neck (which is stiff from bad sleep) and accidentially discover a new technique to break the massage barrier!
HER: You OK?
ME: Yeahhh, just a bad kink in my neck.
HER: You poor baby! Why don´t you go for a massage?
(Hehe, I know..too easy!)
ME: Well, actually I give really great massages and so do my friends so I never pay for them.
HER: You give massages? Man I have the worst knot in my back so feel free to go to town here! (Big ol Smile)
ME: Well, I´m sure we can come to an agreement here but you know nothing in this life is for free!
HER: Oh, how ironic, you don´t pay but you charge!
ME: (laugh) Naw, I dont charge cash. I´m a firm believer in the barter system. You rub my back and I rub yours, so to speak.
HER: I give terrible massages though.
ME: No problem, I am an excellent teacher and will show you some basics and then you can work on me.
HER: Really? Well, I am willing to try but dont be disappointed if I suck.
ME: You´ll do fine..it´s easy! Just remember, no frisky business! I am a gentlemen and don´t want you to use this as an opportunity to seduce me!
HER: (laughing) You´re funny.
ME: And you´re ready for your first lesson, come here. (gesturing to a spot on the floor between my legs)
At this point it is ON. I find her tense points and gently start working, explaining each move I do and get her nice and relaxed. We switch spots and she hooks me up and does a pretty decent job and my neck feels better. I compliment her for being a fast learner.
ME: Wow, you have a natural knack for this! I think you are ready for a more advanced lesson!
HER: Seriously? All my past boyfriends hated my massages!
ME: They were morons.
HER: Are you puting me on or does your neck actually feel better?
I jump up and do some shadow-boxing as I whistle the theme to Rocky. She is on the floor laughing! Without missing a beat, I grabbed the futon cushion and flipped it to the floor.
HER: What are you doing?
ME: Why, I am giving you an advanced degree in massages, of course!
I gesture with my arm for her to lay down and she dives to the cushion. God I love playful women! I start working like before, explaining each move. This is when I remember Tusuque Red´s advice (God Bless you bro!) And start to work on her ass. No resistance as I talk about the siatic nerve and how much tension it can hold. I don´t go as deep as usually, keep the touch light and intersperse it with some soft caresses. Gave her a light scalp massage and played with her hair, placed some soft kisses on the back of the neck and that was pretty much it. We ended up jumping each other but no sex cuz she was on her period. The funny thing is, I was not disappointed! Now, I know for a lot of DJs sex is what makes it all worthwhile..hell it´s the reason we are all here..but for me sex has become the icing on the cake. I just had so much fun learning, trying new things that the boning aspect was almost an afterthought.
Valuable lessons:
1. I made her work for the massage, which I believe made her appreciate it more. I think I´ll try this approach more often. Gets me a nice rubdown and plus chicks love when you teach them things, makes you unforgettable!
2. Complimented her for a job well done. People who tell you compliments are AFC have no clue..it´s all about context! Only compliment at a high point, like when you are both laughing, or to reward her after she does you a favor. Remember Pavlov´s dog? Same $hit.
3. It´s called Game cuz its supposed to be FUN! Pretend you are hanging out with your boys sometimes. Fool around and don´t be afraid to be a little silly. If a girl can´t enjoy your sense of humor, she is not worth your time, believe me!
And that about wraps it up. So much more to tell, but I think I will just start another thread. Comments & opinions =
