"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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envy will hold you back

john_1234

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A chunky high school chick envies her best friend who has a nice tight body. A family wins the lottery and in an instant they're the envy of town. An afc who's struggling to improve himself feels envious and discouraged when his friend pulls yet another beauty.

We all feel envy to some degree. For those who are new to the game, a few of you may feel envy towards the naturals who pull all the hotties.

Envy is a negative emotion. It will discourage you when you're trying to improve. It will only sabatoge your quest to a better you. Fortunately, there are ways to overcome envy.

Deconstruct these feelings. The first thing you need to do is require more of yourself. Quit worrying about the qualities you're aiming for that your friends may naturally have. Instead, get up every single day and focus on the things that you are thankful for. Focus on the gifts that you've been given. Focus on the talents you have, the people in your life, the opportunities that are before you. Spend enough time thinking about it every day, so that it outweighs the amount of time you spend thinking about the negatives.

You thought your way into this, now think your way out of it. You choose your thoughts, you think the thoughts that you choose, and that is how you got these feelings of envy. The choices you've made have gotten you into this situation, so make new choices. Change your thoughts, change the values that you're embracing and the beliefs that you're holding near and dear. A magic wand is not going to fix this. Make some different thought patterns that will really begin to challenge what you've been telling yourself.

I hope this helps some of you out there. Laters
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Envy by itself is a debilitating emotion. However, envy often creates motivation for change - which makes it useful.
 

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If you already think you can, then envy will probably be what pushes you over the edge into doing it.

Unfortunately, most men don't think they can, regardless of what it is, and envy just tears them up inside.

I don't think that envy is really about the other guy, but about you and how far you fall short of him.
 
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