Entitlement issues

[iamnobody]

How do you deal proficiently with entitlement issues?
I ask this because these issues are deeply engrained in a woman's mind since childhood and the kicking her off the pedestal thing alone feels a bit artificial and has mixed results. Must be more to it.

 

[Chamber36]

Don't say no, say HELL NO.

 

[Merris]

Laugh and ignore.

Case in point: I was at a club on Saturday with a large group of friends. Just generally hanging around, shooting **** and getting pleasantly buzzed. (Note here, I don't approach often at "clubs" since I find the whole environment unpleasant. I prefer bars/pubs personally and usually only go to clubs if there's a large university party or something there) One huge chick, apparently a friend of a friend started hitting on me while I was having a smoke. I mean, she was titanic. Massive. Larger than life. She opened with something like "so you're a friend of >somechickIknow<?" with all the attendant body language, tilting of her massive, drooping head and her creaking hips and pushing out of the "tits". I kind of felt sad for her. Anyways, I just nodded and kept on smoking, not even looking at her after the first glimpse. She got quite confused, since most women aren't used to being so pointedly ignored. She just stood there, looking at me with this expectant half-smile on her face even after I left.

The same principle, I think, can be applied to the other dimensions of entitlement issues. Laugh and ignore.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Women only have as much power over you as you give them. If a girl is coming off as entitled and you don't feel she deserves what she thinks she does, then refuse her, either directly or tacitly.

Last week a girl I tried to game a while back shows up at the music event I was attending.

I've not done anything to get on her bad side but she played a labrynthian girl-game that was both hard to crack and tiresome. I moved on, kept spinning plates, etc.

Anyway, she catches me a bit off guard when I bump into her, smiles, offers a big hug. I'm not feeling it, but not being a total jerk, I give her a half-hearted hug, tap on the back and proceed to join my buddy. Turn back to her and continue on with what I was going to do anyway.

A few minutes later she comes by our table and puts her hand/arm across my back/shoulder. I look over my shoulder at her with the expression, "Uh, the adults are talking, do you mind?" and returned to talking with my buddy. She spent the rest of the evening dancing near me or in a place where I could see her. Ignore

My point is that this girl presented me initially with "some" interest, played too many games, and I eventually lost interest. But she thinks she entitled to my continued friendliness and attention. Sorry, but it don't work that way, girl. You've earned nothing. In fact, you have work to do if you ever expect a normal and pleasant interaction with me again. I'll not be a jerk to her, but no warm friendliness and fun, flirty chatting. That boat has sailed and you deserve and will get nothing.

Entitlement is simply unearned expectations. Don't give them anything they haven't earned and when they act like they want/need/deserve something, ignore and/or refuse without explanation, just like you would a child.